What is your Flirtation Style?

sweetbutch26 · 09-20-2010, 06:38 AM

i just get on my pretty boi swag say hello and be my normal sweet charming self

rockybcn · 09-20-2010, 07:51 AM

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

sweetbutch26 · 09-20-2010, 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by rockybcn

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

amen bro well said

Sachita · 09-20-2010, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by rockybcn

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

excellent

someone once said to me "if you don't kiss and have sex right away how do you know you'll enjoy each other sexually? Sex is important."

Believe it or not lots of people think this way and talk about sex almost right away to establish compatibility. This is an instant turn off for me. I'm like you, make me laugh, spark the playfulness inside of me and intrigue me. Then let me see your substance and that you are capable of a good foundation with me. If all these things measure up I have no doubt I will sexually rock your world. Sex is the easy part IMO.

Laerkin · 09-20-2010, 08:58 AM

Ooooo. Good thread!

I love flirting. Love love love. Flirting is certainly an art form and everyone executes it and responds to it a little differently.

Flirting requires confidence, so right off the bat that's appealing. Flirting, for me, is about more than "Hey baby, you're hot."

It's more about the smiles and the lingering eye contact. It's in the laughter and genuinely complimenting people. As the others have said, it's about honesty and establishing a connection that draws people in.

Flirting requires engaged conversation and great listening skills and making people feel good about themselves.

Of course, flirting with someone doesn't mean they get the message (some butches need to be hit over the head with a frying pan before they get the hint) and some people simply aren't interested. And that's okay too! In my opinion, flirting doesn't have to be sexual in nature and it can be innocent. It's fun to get to know new people and to make someone smile and to walk away feeling special.

Fun topic. I can't wait to read the conversations that will develop out of this one. Lol.

Tucker · 09-20-2010, 09:03 AM

Flirting is the naughty looks from across the room, devious smiles, misbehaving, and generally not feeling bad for anything you say. Blame it on the moment.

rockybcn · 09-20-2010, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Sachita

excellent

someone once said to me "if you don't kiss and have sex right away how do you know you'll enjoy each other sexually? Sex is important."

Believe it or not lots of people think this way and talk about sex almost right away to establish compatibility. This is an instant turn off for me. I'm like you, make me laugh, spark the playfulness inside of me and intrigue me. Then let me see your substance and that you are capable of a good foundation with me. If all these things measure up I have no doubt I will sexually rock your world. Sex is the easy part IMO.

Exacto mundo Sachita!!! Maybe its an age thing(I´m old!!!)....but everything comes in stages...its how one wishes to take it to the next level of the flirtation(If there is one). I always enjoyed the courting stage. It gave me time to watch for consistancy in a person. When dating,she could tell me just everything she wanted me to know about herself ...but I observed for myself and time always revealed many truths. Have fun...enjoy the art of great conversation,lots of laughter, the comfort level in each others silence, the sweetness of holding hands. Because when you get old and she is still by your side....you will have made fond memories.

Sachita · 09-20-2010, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by rockybcn

Exacto mundo Sachita!!! Maybe its an age thing(I´m old!!!)....but everything comes in stages...its how one wishes to take it to the next level of the flirtation(If there is one). I always enjoyed the courting stage. It gave me time to watch for consistancy in a person. When dating,she could tell me just everything she wanted me to know about herself ...but I observed for myself and time always revealed many truths. Have fun...enjoy the art of great conversation,lots of laughter, the comfort level in each others silence, the sweetness of holding hands. Because when you get old and she is still by your side....you will have made fond memories.

I envy you sweetie. kiss

Thats why I have the three month rule. I dont care if my pussy is dripping and I want to jump your bones... I wait. I know that without a foundation it won't last. Now there has been times when I broke that rule, not very often, BUT it was a needed moment. It did not last. In fact I know this cute little FTM and for some reason we have this amazing chemistry. Its been like that for years. A year can go by and we see each other and BAM. Its amazing. But when its done its done. I love him like family but have zero interest in a relationship. I wouldnt do him if I was in a committed relationship.

Now if that happened again and more often I might need to change that rule. lol but then I would look at it all as a spiritual evolution of spirit. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever connect with one completely or if that lies in my future. Life is ever changing.

Soft*Silver · 09-20-2010, 11:32 AM

I never realized I use the gift of laughter as the main part of my flirting style. Well, maybe I dont. I think I am just a happy joyous person and if I am attracted to someone, laughter just naturally comes of it. I am told I have a great laugh. I know I feel really at home in it so it springs from me.

to flirt with me, all someone has to say is the word "horse" in a sentance. LOL....

intelligence is important to me. And thats doesnt mean just IQ. Social intelligence, creative intelligence, and empathetic intelligence are equally if not more important to me.

girl_dee · 03-09-2012, 05:38 AM

even though i've been told i'm a natural flirt i don't think i've ever tried to flirt.

WomenMoveMe · 03-09-2012, 05:51 AM

I am the world's worst flirter. I have no skill whatsoever. I rarely even know I am being flirted with, much less how to return it. I always think I am just talking with someone, then I am told I was flirting. Who knew?

1QuirkyKiwi · 03-09-2012, 07:46 AM

I can’t flirt even if my life depended on it! I’ve been told numerous times that my naturally bubbly, cheerful and friendly personality “Sends out flirting” signals and is seen as a “Come on!”

Online is the worst for me, because it’s mistakenly assumed that I’m desperately trying to flirt with everyone when that is genuinely not that case.

When I’m interested in a woman, I’ll smile and gently hold hys/her gaze for a little longer.

09-20-2010, 07:51 AM	#2
rockybcn Member How Do You Identify?: a well blended yin yang butch Preferred Pronoun?: I'll take "sweetheart" for 500 Alex! Relationship Status: to be...or not to be...that is the question! Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 694 Thanked 316 Times in 132 Posts Rep Power: 4141647	When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know. __________________ I am brave and bold and know that my inner truth will always guide me in the right direction.

09-20-2010, 11:32 AM	#9
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,909 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I never realized I use the gift of laughter as the main part of my flirting style. Well, maybe I dont. I think I am just a happy joyous person and if I am attracted to someone, laughter just naturally comes of it. I am told I have a great laugh. I know I feel really at home in it so it springs from me. to flirt with me, all someone has to say is the word "horse" in a sentance. LOL.... intelligence is important to me. And thats doesnt mean just IQ. Social intelligence, creative intelligence, and empathetic intelligence are equally if not more important to me. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

03-09-2012, 07:46 AM	#12
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I can’t flirt even if my life depended on it! I’ve been told numerous times that my naturally bubbly, cheerful and friendly personality “Sends out flirting” signals and is seen as a “Come on!” Online is the worst for me, because it’s mistakenly assumed that I’m desperately trying to flirt with everyone when that is genuinely not that case. When I’m interested in a woman, I’ll smile and gently hold hys/her gaze for a little longer. __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

09-20-2010, 06:38 AM	#1
sweetbutch26 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch/stud/boi Preferred Pronoun?: mr/he :p Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Goldsboro NC Posts: 55 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34 Thanked 66 Times in 27 Posts Rep Power: 1507	i just get on my pretty boi swag say hello and be my normal sweet charming self

09-20-2010, 08:58 AM	#5
Laerkin Member How Do You Identify?: Girlie with a touch of bossy Preferred Pronoun?: She, but not hung up on the details Relationship Status: Parenting our furry family with SmoothButch Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Washington DC Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 772 Thanked 963 Times in 257 Posts Rep Power: 4366971	Ooooo. Good thread! I love flirting. Love love love. Flirting is certainly an art form and everyone executes it and responds to it a little differently. Flirting requires confidence, so right off the bat that's appealing. Flirting, for me, is about more than "Hey baby, you're hot." It's more about the smiles and the lingering eye contact. It's in the laughter and genuinely complimenting people. As the others have said, it's about honesty and establishing a connection that draws people in. Flirting requires engaged conversation and great listening skills and making people feel good about themselves. Of course, flirting with someone doesn't mean they get the message (some butches need to be hit over the head with a frying pan before they get the hint) and some people simply aren't interested. And that's okay too! In my opinion, flirting doesn't have to be sexual in nature and it can be innocent. It's fun to get to know new people and to make someone smile and to walk away feeling special. Fun topic. I can't wait to read the conversations that will develop out of this one. Lol.

09-20-2010, 09:03 AM	#6
Tucker Member How Do You Identify?: A pretty little thing Preferred Pronoun?: Fatale Relationship Status: Independently owned and operated Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Afternoons in Utopia. Posts: 832 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,090 Thanked 1,292 Times in 486 Posts Rep Power: 3051091	Flirting is the naughty looks from across the room, devious smiles, misbehaving, and generally not feeling bad for anything you say. Blame it on the moment.

03-09-2012, 05:38 AM	#10
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03-09-2012, 05:51 AM	#11
WomenMoveMe Member How Do You Identify?: I just wander about and be! Relationship Status: Caution: Dead End Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Kentucky Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,473 Thanked 2,100 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I am the world's worst flirter. I have no skill whatsoever. I rarely even know I am being flirted with, much less how to return it. I always think I am just talking with someone, then I am told I was flirting. Who knew?