What do YOU need to feel loved?

jey_z76 · 09-21-2010, 11:32 PM

Well, instead of posting what I need, I figured I would just let everyone know the kind of person I am.

We all know that while relationships can be incredibly fulfilling, they aren't always easy. They're hard work and require oodles of love, patience and, well, sometimes the ability to know when to keep your mouth shut! Those in relationships need to let their partner know some things about themselves. Here are a few things about me.....

I would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected.

I enjoy romance. Pretty much of a hopeless romantic! But sometimes I doubt my skills to be romantic.

I care about my woman's appearance. Everyone knows that I am very visual but women often forget just how helpless I am to what I see. The right visual stimulation can hypnotize me. And I am sure it has the same effect on others.

I want my partner to know how much I care.

A woman who smiles, makes it easier for me to approach her by conveying an attitude of confidence and playfulness.

I rarely get listened to, at least not beyond a few minutes. Most of the time that is all I really need, but since I hate to be rejected, it is easier for me to keep conversations superficial.

I am stubborn.....that's not much of a secret! I would like to have my partner be able to take my shit as well as give it right back to me! I sometimes need a reality check of how I am acting!

Ok......these are just a few things about me!

Leader · 09-22-2010, 12:23 AM

trust
communication
touch
laughter
passion
sensitivity

going deep...

love.

Tcountry · 09-22-2010, 01:20 AM

Love is a mutual agreement between two hearts and souls...

I need a woman to BE HERSELF...
To actually Trust that I genuinely love her for who she is...
That even though I am cheezy/smooth, it is not an ACT, it is just me...
One who can take all my honesty, good and bad, and return the favor...
One who gets my humor, sometimes smartass/sarcstic...
& one who can comfort me...even when she is wrapped up in my arms...

DamonK · 09-22-2010, 03:27 AM

Don't define me by what I'm not. Define me by what I am.

Don't look to complete me. Complement me.

Know my devotion is unwavering. And allow me to expect the same from you.

Treat me as you would want to be treated.

Accept me with all my faults, and know I will do the same for you.

I'm simply a human being. I'm frequently wrong. Don't remind me of every time I'm wrong.

Support me as I support you.

You can make suggestions concerning my conditions, and we can make a decision together, but don't ever make a decision about "me" without me.

Luckily...MBE does all this.

Gemme · 09-23-2010, 03:56 PM

I need to be heard. You don't have to understand my motivations/reasons/etc, but HEAR me tell you what I need from you.

paposeco · 09-23-2010, 04:54 PM

Trust.
If you Trust me with your heart, then I feel Loved and once that happens...oooooh baby girl, 'Katie bar the door', I'm at your command

Jesse · 10-26-2010, 10:29 PM

In order to feel loved...

I need to be able to trust before I can feel loved and in order for that trust to take form, I need to see that what you say and what you do match up as one and the same.

I am a deep and constant thinker and need for you to reach those depths with me. I can't live well in shallow land.

I need emotional intimacy as much as I need sexual intimacy, if not more.

I need to know we are on the same team and that you have my back.

I need honesty and truth

I need for you to be doing your work as far as your health goes; emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health. And I need for you to gently kick my ass if I am not doing mine.

I need shared laughter and a time to be like kids when appropriate to do so. Humor is important to me.

09-21-2010, 11:32 PM	#1
jey_z76 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Preferred Pronoun?: I'm not picky Relationship Status: Still single Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Austin Posts: 28 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 17 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 16	What I Need To Feel Loved..... Well, instead of posting what I need, I figured I would just let everyone know the kind of person I am. We all know that while relationships can be incredibly fulfilling, they aren't always easy. They're hard work and require oodles of love, patience and, well, sometimes the ability to know when to keep your mouth shut! Those in relationships need to let their partner know some things about themselves. Here are a few things about me..... I would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected. I enjoy romance. Pretty much of a hopeless romantic! But sometimes I doubt my skills to be romantic. I care about my woman's appearance. Everyone knows that I am very visual but women often forget just how helpless I am to what I see. The right visual stimulation can hypnotize me. And I am sure it has the same effect on others. I want my partner to know how much I care. A woman who smiles, makes it easier for me to approach her by conveying an attitude of confidence and playfulness. I rarely get listened to, at least not beyond a few minutes. Most of the time that is all I really need, but since I hate to be rejected, it is easier for me to keep conversations superficial. I am stubborn.....that's not much of a secret! I would like to have my partner be able to take my shit as well as give it right back to me! I sometimes need a reality check of how I am acting! Ok......these are just a few things about me! __________________ *~ It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. ~*

09-22-2010, 12:23 AM	#2
Leader Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 79 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 197 Thanked 205 Times in 53 Posts Rep Power: 582189	trust communication touch laughter passion sensitivity going deep... love. __________________ . I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to see. - John Burroughs

09-22-2010, 01:20 AM	#3
Tcountry Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Country Boi Preferred Pronoun?: call it as u see it Relationship Status: Completely...complete ;) Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Either at the beach or in the pool Posts: 1,665 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,929 Thanked 4,287 Times in 1,181 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	good question... Love is a mutual agreement between two hearts and souls... I need a woman to BE HERSELF... To actually Trust that I genuinely love her for who she is... That even though I am cheezy/smooth, it is not an ACT, it is just me... One who can take all my honesty, good and bad, and return the favor... One who gets my humor, sometimes smartass/sarcstic... & one who can comfort me...even when she is wrapped up in my arms... __________________ "You don't Find life worth living; You MAKE IT that way"

09-23-2010, 03:56 PM	#5
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,882 Times in 25,665 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	I need to be heard. You don't have to understand my motivations/reasons/etc, but HEAR me tell you what I need from you. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

09-23-2010, 04:54 PM	#6
paposeco Member How Do You Identify?: TG Male Preferred Pronoun?: he,him,sir,dood... Relationship Status: ISO my Queen... Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: ..is nice & peaceful. Posts: 272 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 286 Thanked 301 Times in 127 Posts Rep Power: 178137	Trust Trust. If you Trust me with your heart, then I feel Loved and once that happens...oooooh baby girl, 'Katie bar the door', I'm at your command

09-22-2010, 03:27 AM	#4
DamonK Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: May 2010 Location: . Posts: 2,199 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,527 Thanked 7,762 Times in 1,881 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Don't define me by what I'm not. Define me by what I am. Don't look to complete me. Complement me. Know my devotion is unwavering. And allow me to expect the same from you. Treat me as you would want to be treated. Accept me with all my faults, and know I will do the same for you. I'm simply a human being. I'm frequently wrong. Don't remind me of every time I'm wrong. Support me as I support you. You can make suggestions concerning my conditions, and we can make a decision together, but don't ever make a decision about "me" without me. Luckily...MBE does all this.

10-26-2010, 10:29 PM	#7
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,779 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	In order to feel loved... I need to be able to trust before I can feel loved and in order for that trust to take form, I need to see that what you say and what you do match up as one and the same. I am a deep and constant thinker and need for you to reach those depths with me. I can't live well in shallow land. I need emotional intimacy as much as I need sexual intimacy, if not more. I need to know we are on the same team and that you have my back. I need honesty and truth I need for you to be doing your work as far as your health goes; emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health. And I need for you to gently kick my ass if I am not doing mine. I need shared laughter and a time to be like kids when appropriate to do so. Humor is important to me. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”