Dating and Race

The_Lady_Snow · 09-23-2010, 01:57 PM

Are you wanting to make friendships that are more
diverse?

Dragonfly · 09-23-2010, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Are you wanting to make friendships that are more
diverse?

I guess I don't think about that as much as I should, I mean I don't look at someones outsides and even try to know their specific race anyway so until it comes up.... so that would be hard for me to list and check it off or something to create diversity. I have a wide range of types of friends. The ones who happen to be of the "non white looking" race she is... Well they do not date my race, though willin to be great friends, do not necessarily find my race to be possible life mates.. Their answers were more limited to that viewpoint. I hoped to hear from those that do date outside their race, and their opinions on comfort levels and being a good potential date/partner.

Ebon · 09-23-2010, 02:25 PM

I've never dated outside of my race, I always date humans. However I have dated people that were a different color from me or have come from different cultures, even different countries. I have never had a problem, it has never been an issue. I guess I don't attract people that would even think to have to ask if I would date them because they are a certain color. I would rather not associate with people that limit themselves as far as skin color or culture goes because we won't have much in common as friends or otherwise. That could be me being narrow minded but I don't care.

Gemme · 09-23-2010, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Organicbutch

I've never dated outside of my race, I always date humans. However I have dated people that were a different color from me or have come from different cultures, even different countries. I have never had a problem, it has never been an issue. I guess I don't attract people that would even think to have to ask if I would date them because they are a certain color. I would rather not associate with people that limit themselves as far as skin color or culture goes because we won't have much in common as friends or otherwise. That could be me being narrow minded but I don't care.

Wait.

I'm human (AND not black?)?

Wow.

Dragonfly,

I'm glad that you and the person you are interested in have been able to talk about yourselves and the possibility of dating. It sounds like you two have a lot to discuss, but keep in mind that there's a time and place for everything. There's no rush to have every race-related conversation right NOW. Take your time and just breathe.

You are a sweet person and I'm sure that she will see that and help you with any questions that come up along the way.

waxnrope · 09-23-2010, 02:47 PM

Im sooo confused. Everyone is interpreting, but I got no confirmation or clarity from the OP.

Apocalipstic · 09-23-2010, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by waxnrope

Im sooo confused. Everyone is interpreting, but I got no confirmation or clarity from the OP.

True true, I am just not getting where skin color is the important part unless it would be easier to be rejected for a really generalized thing like skin tone rather than who she is as a person?

Tell them you like them and see where it all falls out...worst that can happen is they say no?

The_Lady_Snow · 09-23-2010, 02:54 PM

I am still at a loss

Soft*Silver · 09-23-2010, 03:02 PM

Dragonfly, if you are asking when is the right time in the course of a new friendship/relationship to ask if the person dates someone of a different color, the time is when the question needs an answer. Obviously its now.

Just ask her out. If she says yes, its because she likes you, not because of what color you are.

stop fussing. Dating is suppose to be fun. You are swooning over her. Stop looking for pitfalls and just ask her out...

Apocalipstic · 09-23-2010, 02:43 PM

I am not shy, so bear with me please

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Do you think it would be easier to be rejected because of skin color than because the person is just not interested in you?

I am not sure what kind of person you are attracted to, but I learned a long time ago to let people I am interested in know I am interested in a non-threatening way. No guessing games...I just ask them if they would like to hang out sometime or I ask for their email address or somehow make sure they know it's OK to ask Me out.

Because really, it does not matter who they usually date, it matters if they are attracted to you.

I would not have had/have the relationships I have had if I had not just sucked it up and made the first move. I like very masculine Butches and many of them can be a bit...well...clueless unless I make it known I like them.

Dragonfly · 09-24-2010, 06:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Organicbutch

I've never dated outside of my race, I always date humans. However I have dated people that were a different color from me or have come from different cultures, even different countries. I have never had a problem, it has never been an issue. I guess I don't attract people that would even think to have to ask if I would date them because they are a certain color. I would rather not associate with people that limit themselves as far as skin color or culture goes because we won't have much in common as friends or otherwise. That could be me being narrow minded but I don't care.

I really love the way you worded this post. Thank you!

09-23-2010, 01:57 PM	#1
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09-23-2010, 02:54 PM	#7
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09-23-2010, 02:43 PM	#9
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09-23-2010, 02:47 PM	#5
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