Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

riotfemme · 10-03-2010, 03:53 PM

I am a mouthy, lefty, flirty, geeky, punky, crafty Queer Femme. My feminism is central to who I am and how I define myself. I believe passionately in sisterhood, in respecting my Femme sisters and listening to their voices and their stories.

I'm tattooed, pierced and always outrageously brightly dressed. I love vintage, 50s clothes, puffy skirts and teensy cardigans, mary-jane shoes and brightly coloured tights, liquid eyeliner and red lips. Red defines me, red lips, red nails, red hair. I walk with a wiggle, even in Birkenstocks (which I often wear because my tootsies like them) but I seldom totter.

I'm vegan, I bake, wearing floral aprons, face generally smeared with cake batter, glasses dusted with flour. Baking is an escape, it gives me time to meditate and create. Needless to say, as a result of all this baking, I am delightfully chubby.

I'm a babygrrrl, a bottom, not quite submissive but somewhere on that spectrum. I love my Daddi and feel so safe when she holds me. It's a connection, a relationship that I can't quite explain, so much of it is absolutely innate. I am often little, I feel safe to be that way with her. Being little with her helps me to be as big and as strong as I need to be to walk through the streets as a Femme, feeling at once invisible to the people I want to see me and visible to those that I don't wiggle and strut for...I should add at this juncture that I wiggle and strut for myself first

I was and am still a riot grrrl. My feminism and sense of myself as a Femme didn't start there but both were informed by and evolved through that movement. To this day shouty, feminist punk fires me up and I firmly believe that no outfit is complete without a feminist badge.

I'm a Femme.

LipstickLola · 10-05-2010, 08:41 AM

I am woman, hear me roar! (dates me, for sure

)
I am daughter, sister, cousin, aunt, mother, grandmother
I am tough as nails, can get you through anything
I am soft, emotive, compassionate, passionate
I am Scorpion
I am unique
I am witty, intelligent, grounded
I am late coming to the party

I am creative, musical, artistic
I am lover, caregiver, nurturer, teacher and friend

I can cook for a crowd
I can make a party out of nothing in a moments notice
I can make a silk purse out of pigs ear
I can haul a load of horses
I can put up 500 bales of hay
I can drive a tractor, and love doing it
I can fish, I can row
I can sew, I can mow

I wear jeans, I wear scrubs
I wear boots, I wear clogs
I wear chap stick, I wear lipstick
I wear matching underwear on special occasions
I wear a long skirt with cowboy boots if necessary, (fun things can hide under said skirt)
I have good teeth, good skin
I have brown eyes, brown hair with wisps of gray
I have lines around my eyes from laughing lots, from life
I will always smell good

I am low maintenance
I am laid back and slow to anger
I am slow to anger, but can simmer, and will ignite
I laugh out loud
I cry at parades
I will wipe your tears
I will hold your hand
I will follow your lead

I have a thing for sharpies, white shirts, and funky socks
I have a key holder size WD-40 with a sharpie
I have a screwdriver, tire gage, bag of mints, and potpourri in the door of my truck

I love old things, especially barns, books, leather, black and white photographs

I love my family, I love women, I love my animals, I love my girly truck

I love that I don't really fit a single label

I am just me

Lola

little_ms_sunshyne · 11-10-2010, 11:22 PM

I am a passionate, lustful, jealous, Latina

I was born in Mexico, speak fluent Spanish, and am in love with my culture.

I love the arts, reading, writing, and admiring beautiful architecture.

I am terribly clumsy but what I lack in common sense I make up for

I am a girly girl that isn't afraid to get her hands dirty and is obsessed over the way I smell!

I like wearing sexy lingerie even when no one is around because it makes me feel sexy! Every now and then I will even dance in front of the mirror...

I am 100% independent!!!

I love the idea of being lustfully in love!

Music is my first love and sometimes dictates my emotions!

My favorite word is Serendipity

Pixie · 11-10-2010, 11:54 PM

I am a sassy flirt. I like to whisper sweet nothings and I like to talk shit. I am caring and always want to take care of those in my life, but when used and abused I will leave.

I love wearing skirts and showing cleavage. I adore the 50's era, classy and subtle, self sufficient caretaker. And just because I like to dress up and wear makeup does not mean I won't crawl under the car or in the bed of the truck to get something done. I love being clean as much as I like being dirty.

I am giddy and giggly, but I have depth. You will rarely catch me with out a smile on my face or sitting still do nothing. I am not like everyone else.

I love being creative in the simplest of ways. I over analyze and under emphasize.

I am pixie.

katsarecool · 11-11-2010, 12:24 AM

I love this thread! That being said:

I am an Old School Femme who had Joan Nestle as my role model and mentor; I "knew" her long before I recognized that I was a lesbian.

I bleed and hurt when others bleed and hurt. I am always ever ready with "bandaids" but recognize when to back off too.

I feel that when everyone in this country is truly equal it will finally be a true democracy but until then it is a country where the "haves" hold power and control over the "have nots" and I will continue to do everything I can to level the playing fields.

I am strong, very opinionated, independent but yet I love to be held, protected and made to feel safe and loved by my lover.

I learned a long time ago when and how to pick my battles; when hackles rise sometimes it is ok to stay out of the fray. I also learned that to be a good person, mother, friend that I must take care of me first. I have learned to think more logical than emotional with knee jerk strong reactions. It is healthier this way.

While I enjoy being at home; doing projects around the house, using the occaisional power tool when needed, gardening, reading, hanging out with my furr babies I still get excited at the prospect of getting ready to go out and enjoy the process of making myself look stunning.

I also learned it is very possible to have fun without alcohol. I am a little shy and love to dance. Years ago, I had to get pumped up with a little vino or mixed coctail in order to be the first one out there on the dance floor. Not anymore though.

I do not like being told what to do, what to buy and how to live my life. I would perfer if someone used pull words rather than the push style all too prevelant. I can be pulled along well as long as there is logic and honesty behind those words. But when pushed my back gets up and the ole rebellious me surfaces.

I admit I am a clothes hoarder. I love golf shirts and Levis as much as I love something frilly and ultra feminine. I hoard shoes as well and once owned 75 pair of shoes mostly high heels in every color under the rainbow. And I love make up. I used to wear it every day, but when I "retired" I soon tired of it and now use it on special occaisions.

If I could help every child, animal, adult person in the world who is/has been abused and neglected I would.

As a Pisces, I am a dreamer; dream of a better life for so many people. But it is balanced with cold hard reality too.

And even after all these years; the site of a well groomed and "gentlemanly" butch can make this heart beat fast and loud!

Tcountry · 11-11-2010, 02:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pixie

I am a sassy flirt. I like to whisper sweet nothings and I like to talk shit. I am caring and always want to take care of those in my life, but when used and abused I will leave.

I love wearing skirts and showing cleavage. I adore the 50's era, classy and subtle, self sufficient caretaker. And just because I like to dress up and wear makeup does not mean I won't crawl under the car or in the bed of the truck to get something done. I love being clean as much as I like being dirty.

I am giddy and giggly, but I have depth. You will rarely catch me with out a smile on my face or sitting still do nothing. I am not like everyone else.

I love being creative in the simplest of ways. I over analyze and under emphasize.

I am pixie.

Don't forget...you can cook...even when distracted!

girl_dee · 09-02-2012, 07:09 PM

i love this thread, i was just reading back and even though my last post was a couple of years ago.. alllll the way back on page 6, i still feel the same way, only i feel i am an even stronger femme now.

i'm still just me.

10-05-2010, 08:41 AM	#2
LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678217	Here, there, everywhere I am woman, hear me roar! (dates me, for sure ) I am daughter, sister, cousin, aunt, mother, grandmother I am tough as nails, can get you through anything I am soft, emotive, compassionate, passionate I am Scorpion I am unique I am witty, intelligent, grounded I am late coming to the party I am creative, musical, artistic I am lover, caregiver, nurturer, teacher and friend I can cook for a crowd I can make a party out of nothing in a moments notice I can make a silk purse out of pigs ear I can haul a load of horses I can put up 500 bales of hay I can drive a tractor, and love doing it I can fish, I can row I can sew, I can mow I wear jeans, I wear scrubs I wear boots, I wear clogs I wear chap stick, I wear lipstick I wear matching underwear on special occasions I wear a long skirt with cowboy boots if necessary, (fun things can hide under said skirt) I have good teeth, good skin I have brown eyes, brown hair with wisps of gray I have lines around my eyes from laughing lots, from life I will always smell good I am low maintenance I am laid back and slow to anger I am slow to anger, but can simmer, and will ignite I laugh out loud I cry at parades I will wipe your tears I will hold your hand I will follow your lead I have a thing for sharpies, white shirts, and funky socks I have a key holder size WD-40 with a sharpie I have a screwdriver, tire gage, bag of mints, and potpourri in the door of my truck I love old things, especially barns, books, leather, black and white photographs I love my family, I love women, I love my animals, I love my girly truck I love that I don't really fit a single label I am just me Lola __________________ Happiness......it's a choice!!

11-10-2010, 11:54 PM	#4
Pixie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Equal Opportunity Friend Preferred Pronoun?: Girl Relationship Status: in service Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sacramento! Posts: 2,868 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,691 Thanked 4,103 Times in 1,332 Posts Rep Power: 15274784	I am a sassy flirt. I like to whisper sweet nothings and I like to talk shit. I am caring and always want to take care of those in my life, but when used and abused I will leave. I love wearing skirts and showing cleavage. I adore the 50's era, classy and subtle, self sufficient caretaker. And just because I like to dress up and wear makeup does not mean I won't crawl under the car or in the bed of the truck to get something done. I love being clean as much as I like being dirty. I am giddy and giggly, but I have depth. You will rarely catch me with out a smile on my face or sitting still do nothing. I am not like everyone else. I love being creative in the simplest of ways. I over analyze and under emphasize. I am pixie. __________________ Unexplored glimmering in the rough How does a diamond hide? -Pixie-

11-11-2010, 12:24 AM	#5
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323366	I love this thread! That being said: I am an Old School Femme who had Joan Nestle as my role model and mentor; I "knew" her long before I recognized that I was a lesbian. I bleed and hurt when others bleed and hurt. I am always ever ready with "bandaids" but recognize when to back off too. I feel that when everyone in this country is truly equal it will finally be a true democracy but until then it is a country where the "haves" hold power and control over the "have nots" and I will continue to do everything I can to level the playing fields. I am strong, very opinionated, independent but yet I love to be held, protected and made to feel safe and loved by my lover. I learned a long time ago when and how to pick my battles; when hackles rise sometimes it is ok to stay out of the fray. I also learned that to be a good person, mother, friend that I must take care of me first. I have learned to think more logical than emotional with knee jerk strong reactions. It is healthier this way. While I enjoy being at home; doing projects around the house, using the occaisional power tool when needed, gardening, reading, hanging out with my furr babies I still get excited at the prospect of getting ready to go out and enjoy the process of making myself look stunning. I also learned it is very possible to have fun without alcohol. I am a little shy and love to dance. Years ago, I had to get pumped up with a little vino or mixed coctail in order to be the first one out there on the dance floor. Not anymore though. I do not like being told what to do, what to buy and how to live my life. I would perfer if someone used pull words rather than the push style all too prevelant. I can be pulled along well as long as there is logic and honesty behind those words. But when pushed my back gets up and the ole rebellious me surfaces. I admit I am a clothes hoarder. I love golf shirts and Levis as much as I love something frilly and ultra feminine. I hoard shoes as well and once owned 75 pair of shoes mostly high heels in every color under the rainbow. And I love make up. I used to wear it every day, but when I "retired" I soon tired of it and now use it on special occaisions. If I could help every child, animal, adult person in the world who is/has been abused and neglected I would. As a Pisces, I am a dreamer; dream of a better life for so many people. But it is balanced with cold hard reality too. And even after all these years; the site of a well groomed and "gentlemanly" butch can make this heart beat fast and loud! __________________

10-03-2010, 03:53 PM	#1
riotfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme babygrrrl Relationship Status: committed to and utterly in love with my Daddi (wanderingpoet) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 3 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 20 Times in 2 Posts Rep Power: 0	I am a mouthy, lefty, flirty, geeky, punky, crafty Queer Femme. My feminism is central to who I am and how I define myself. I believe passionately in sisterhood, in respecting my Femme sisters and listening to their voices and their stories. I'm tattooed, pierced and always outrageously brightly dressed. I love vintage, 50s clothes, puffy skirts and teensy cardigans, mary-jane shoes and brightly coloured tights, liquid eyeliner and red lips. Red defines me, red lips, red nails, red hair. I walk with a wiggle, even in Birkenstocks (which I often wear because my tootsies like them) but I seldom totter. I'm vegan, I bake, wearing floral aprons, face generally smeared with cake batter, glasses dusted with flour. Baking is an escape, it gives me time to meditate and create. Needless to say, as a result of all this baking, I am delightfully chubby. I'm a babygrrrl, a bottom, not quite submissive but somewhere on that spectrum. I love my Daddi and feel so safe when she holds me. It's a connection, a relationship that I can't quite explain, so much of it is absolutely innate. I am often little, I feel safe to be that way with her. Being little with her helps me to be as big and as strong as I need to be to walk through the streets as a Femme, feeling at once invisible to the people I want to see me and visible to those that I don't wiggle and strut for...I should add at this juncture that I wiggle and strut for myself first I was and am still a riot grrrl. My feminism and sense of myself as a Femme didn't start there but both were informed by and evolved through that movement. To this day shouty, feminist punk fires me up and I firmly believe that no outfit is complete without a feminist badge. I'm a Femme.

11-10-2010, 11:22 PM	#3
little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,241 Times in 2,541 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I am a passionate, lustful, jealous, Latina I was born in Mexico, speak fluent Spanish, and am in love with my culture. I love the arts, reading, writing, and admiring beautiful architecture. I am terribly clumsy but what I lack in common sense I make up for I am a girly girl that isn't afraid to get her hands dirty and is obsessed over the way I smell! I like wearing sexy lingerie even when no one is around because it makes me feel sexy! Every now and then I will even dance in front of the mirror... I am 100% independent!!! I love the idea of being lustfully in love! Music is my first love and sometimes dictates my emotions! My favorite word is Serendipity

09-02-2012, 07:09 PM	#7
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i love this thread, i was just reading back and even though my last post was a couple of years ago.. alllll the way back on page 6, i still feel the same way, only i feel i am an even stronger femme now. i'm still just me.