How do you nurture yourself?

Jesse · 11-01-2010, 09:14 PM

I love your responses, and find your posts comforting to me on some tough days. Thank you.

For me right now, my biggest effort at self nurturing is learning to accept ALL of me without blame, guilt or judgment.

By accepting, I don't mean that I allow myself to continue in unhealthy behaviors, rather I aim to acknowledge that they exist...that they are. Then I can look at them with open eyes and decide if it is something I choose to act on or if I feel better making a different choice. I do this with feelings and thought as well during meditation, allowing all feelings to be whether positive or negative, then allowing them to pass. It's working for me and helps me to find peace.

Jesse · 11-17-2010, 03:40 PM

Happy Hump Day!

One of the areas I am dealing with now is self nurturing while single. As a single person I need to remind myself to go and do things. As a transman it can be difficult to find much in the way of a social life when single. So I decided that I need to find some things I can do alone if necessary, that require me to leave the safety of my house...yup you guessed it, that leaves masturbation out...at least for me. Lol!

I began by signing my dog up for some obedience classes, even though he did not need the classes as he has been trained well, we both needed the socialization. So we go every Saturday for an hour and it is a blast for us both. After this class he will begin his agility training.

Next I started taking him to the park. This gives us both physical exercise, more bonding time, people watching (mostly squirrel watching for him) and inner peace.

Today I signed up for weekly Tai Chi classes. Ah! Something I have to do all on my own without the Bear there for comfort. Now all I need is someone to remind me to go on Tuesdays!

Peace

AtLast · 11-17-2010, 04:00 PM

Stress reduction techniques are nurturing for me. Can include music and dance, relaxation exercises and meditation, self hypnosis. Plain exercise that I can do.... making sure I take a good walk each day with my pooch and simply taking in the beauty around me. Honoring my spiritual needs has always been a key factor for self-nurturance for me in ways that fit me, not any organization or particular religion.

Most important is when I recognize what is causing imbalance, taking control and doing something about these things.

girl_dee · 11-17-2010, 04:42 PM

Hot baths and essential oils!

I like to get my feet pedicured when I can

Living stress free

11-01-2010, 09:14 PM	#1
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I love your responses, and find your posts comforting to me on some tough days. Thank you. For me right now, my biggest effort at self nurturing is learning to accept ALL of me without blame, guilt or judgment. By accepting, I don't mean that I allow myself to continue in unhealthy behaviors, rather I aim to acknowledge that they exist...that they are. Then I can look at them with open eyes and decide if it is something I choose to act on or if I feel better making a different choice. I do this with feelings and thought as well during meditation, allowing all feelings to be whether positive or negative, then allowing them to pass. It's working for me and helps me to find peace. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

11-17-2010, 03:40 PM	#2
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Happy Hump Day! One of the areas I am dealing with now is self nurturing while single. As a single person I need to remind myself to go and do things. As a transman it can be difficult to find much in the way of a social life when single. So I decided that I need to find some things I can do alone if necessary, that require me to leave the safety of my house...yup you guessed it, that leaves masturbation out...at least for me. Lol! I began by signing my dog up for some obedience classes, even though he did not need the classes as he has been trained well, we both needed the socialization. So we go every Saturday for an hour and it is a blast for us both. After this class he will begin his agility training. Next I started taking him to the park. This gives us both physical exercise, more bonding time, people watching (mostly squirrel watching for him) and inner peace. Today I signed up for weekly Tai Chi classes. Ah! Something I have to do all on my own without the Bear there for comfort. Now all I need is someone to remind me to go on Tuesdays! Peace __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

11-17-2010, 04:00 PM	#3
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Stress reduction techniques are nurturing for me. Can include music and dance, relaxation exercises and meditation, self hypnosis. Plain exercise that I can do.... making sure I take a good walk each day with my pooch and simply taking in the beauty around me. Honoring my spiritual needs has always been a key factor for self-nurturance for me in ways that fit me, not any organization or particular religion. Most important is when I recognize what is causing imbalance, taking control and doing something about these things.

11-17-2010, 04:42 PM	#4
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Hot baths and essential oils! I like to get my feet pedicured when I can Living stress free