Personal Space -- In Your Face

Pixie · 11-02-2010, 06:22 PM

I know for me it totally depends on my mindset and situation. Most of the time I am fine, love being around people, I can talk to someone up close and personal......
........and others....I get claustrophobic, I get overwhelmed, I need to escape to my space and breath and purge all of the energy other than mine back onto the atmosphere away from me.

girl_dee · 03-11-2012, 08:03 PM

i love my space

i love the people i live with and being around them, but i love my very own space to just *be in* and i try to give them this too.

what i do not like is people who lack respect of privacy. I don't like having my physical or emotional boundaries crossed. (Unless your name is SYR)

Yah i like my own space to be in.

RockOn · 07-13-2012, 04:49 AM

I have no problem being in a crowd with one exception - Christmas shoppers are far too intense for me. There have been times I have been in a Mall before Christmas and had to literally run out of the Mall like a wide receiver - dodging and ducking. I have an affectionate nature and enjoy being touched/hugged by people I know and trust ... Like my 72 year old neighbor lady who moved next door a month ago. Sometimes she takes both my hands in hers when she talks to me. That feels really good to me.

I will say I become very rude in lines at the grocery store or places like WalMart if someone behind me bumps me more than once. Everyone gets the benefit of a "bump once" free card. After that, they will notice I have turned into an instant asshole, stand my space, capable of a nudge back. I never say a word. They will find they have no opportunity to look over my shoulder while I pay cashier. Years ago, I was at an ATM withdrawing cash - broad daylight. The fellow behind me was very close on my back. Before I punched in my secret code, I turned around, his face was very close to mine, looked at him hard directly in his eyes and told him to back off. He took 2 steps back and began ranting how he did not need my money because he had much more then me. I thought I would surely end up rolling there on the sidewalk with him, my body had already prepared itself and took over by hardening and bowing up ... adrenaline was flowing through my veins like hot lava. Thankfully nothing happened.

Smiling · 12-01-2014, 04:35 PM

What I have noticed about myself is that the more physically attracted I am to someone, the closer I will allow them to be in my personal space. With close friends, I will be okay with it occasionally, but typically only as long as is necessary.

lol, now that I think of it, it's actually probably a really easy way for someone to discreetly ascertain exactly where they stand with me. For instance, I have a coworker who really likes to get right up in my space a lot when we talk - we both do it - and it totally turns me on, lol. (And I always make sure I have plenty of interesting things that need to be discussed, lol).

As far as everyone else is concerned, I want room. Lots of it. And I hate it when people come up quietly behind me - I have an exaggerated startle reflex, so it pisses me off.

Vivacious1 · 12-01-2014, 08:03 PM

I am definitely a personal space kinda girl. With everyone actually. If someone is too close it makes me nutty. I am not a long hugger or much of a cuddler either... Crowded spaces make me cringe and when someone makes me feel cornered it's not a good thing.

MsTinkerbelly · 12-01-2014, 08:25 PM

I am very quick to hug, but i can "tell" when a hug wouldn't be welcome and I'm good with that!

I love being in the middle of a group of friends/loved ones, and we can all sitthisclose and i'm in heaven. But.....get me in a crowd of strangers and i am moving toward the nearest exit before you can blink.

I need lots of me time, but personal space isn't needed unless it is a stranger.

MsTinkerbelly · 05-28-2016, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

I am very quick to hug, but i can "tell" when a hug wouldn't be welcome and I'm good with that!

I love being in the middle of a group of friends/loved ones, and we can all sitthisclose and i'm in heaven. But.....get me in a crowd of strangers and i am moving toward the nearest exit before you can blink.

I need lots of me time, but personal space isn't needed unless it is a stranger.

Not much has changed, except I have become more like my mother with each passing year!

I used to be more reserved; not speaking to strangers for fear of rejection and not going to
unfamiliar places alone for the first time, which kept me from meeting some really nice people.

Now, I am THAT woman! The one that starts a conversation in a line, the one that brings the cookies to jury duty and sits in the circle laughing during break...boy have I changed, and I'm glad! Gone is the fear of what people think of me, gone is the need to not be seen in a crowd.

I wish I was this me 30 years ago.

candy_coated_bitch · 12-01-2014, 08:30 PM

I HATE HATE HATE people in my personal space. I have a very wide sphere of personal space, wider than most. Strangers in my space? Oh, hell no! I can't stand people behind me (it's a PTSD thing) and hate when people come up behind me in stores, or even when people I know startling me. I also hate lines, and especially those people who don't understand the concept of not breathing down your neck while standing behind you. I always give those people a dirty look and move away from them. Close talkers? Ew. I back away and back away and back away but close talkers don't tend to be hint takers I've found LOL.

I let only select people into my personal space. I have lots of friends I give hugs to upon seeing or leaving them--but I'm not very touchy feely with most of my friends beyond that. I'm not a cuddler unless it's a significant other or maybe one or two specific friends and then I am VERY affectionate.

That is all.

kittygrrl · 12-01-2014, 09:08 PM

Personal space has meant different things to me depending on my circumstances and the different places I've been. I lived in a commune where I had to share space and lived with lots of people and children all around me and set my mind to love it and it taught me many things. I've also had times in my life when I was very alone and was very comfortable just doing my own thing. I think where I am at right now is somewhere in the middle, sharing my space is definitely a good thing.

11-02-2010, 06:22 PM	#1
Pixie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Equal Opportunity Friend Preferred Pronoun?: Girl Relationship Status: in service Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sacramento! Posts: 2,868 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,691 Thanked 4,103 Times in 1,332 Posts Rep Power: 15274785	I know for me it totally depends on my mindset and situation. Most of the time I am fine, love being around people, I can talk to someone up close and personal...... ........and others....I get claustrophobic, I get overwhelmed, I need to escape to my space and breath and purge all of the energy other than mine back onto the atmosphere away from me. __________________ Unexplored glimmering in the rough How does a diamond hide? -Pixie-

12-01-2014, 04:35 PM	#4
Smiling Senior Member How Do You Identify?: with a distinct flair Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: somewhere else Posts: 1,852 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,623 Thanked 4,388 Times in 1,009 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	What I have noticed about myself is that the more physically attracted I am to someone, the closer I will allow them to be in my personal space. With close friends, I will be okay with it occasionally, but typically only as long as is necessary. lol, now that I think of it, it's actually probably a really easy way for someone to discreetly ascertain exactly where they stand with me. For instance, I have a coworker who really likes to get right up in my space a lot when we talk - we both do it - and it totally turns me on, lol. (And I always make sure I have plenty of interesting things that need to be discussed, lol). As far as everyone else is concerned, I want room. Lots of it. And I hate it when people come up quietly behind me - I have an exaggerated startle reflex, so it pisses me off. __________________ Beauty is truth's smile when she beholds her own face in a perfect mirror. -Rabindranath Tagore

12-01-2014, 08:03 PM	#5
Vivacious1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme Relationship Status: taken Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Louisiana Posts: 220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 195 Thanked 795 Times in 178 Posts Rep Power: 6042526	I am definitely a personal space kinda girl. With everyone actually. If someone is too close it makes me nutty. I am not a long hugger or much of a cuddler either... Crowded spaces make me cringe and when someone makes me feel cornered it's not a good thing. __________________ Well behaved women rarely make history ...

12-01-2014, 08:30 PM	#8
candy_coated_bitch Pixie Stick How Do You Identify?: The arteest formerly known as musicfemme. Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Happily taken. Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Northampton, MA Posts: 11,293 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,723 Thanked 31,821 Times in 6,109 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I HATE HATE HATE people in my personal space. I have a very wide sphere of personal space, wider than most. Strangers in my space? Oh, hell no! I can't stand people behind me (it's a PTSD thing) and hate when people come up behind me in stores, or even when people I know startling me. I also hate lines, and especially those people who don't understand the concept of not breathing down your neck while standing behind you. I always give those people a dirty look and move away from them. Close talkers? Ew. I back away and back away and back away but close talkers don't tend to be hint takers I've found LOL. I let only select people into my personal space. I have lots of friends I give hugs to upon seeing or leaving them--but I'm not very touchy feely with most of my friends beyond that. I'm not a cuddler unless it's a significant other or maybe one or two specific friends and then I am VERY affectionate. That is all. __________________ My Etsy Shop My Patreon My Website

03-11-2012, 08:03 PM	#2
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	i love my space i love the people i live with and being around them, but i love my very own space to just be in and i try to give them this too. what i do not like is people who lack respect of privacy. I don't like having my physical or emotional boundaries crossed. (Unless your name is SYR) Yah i like my own space to be in.

07-13-2012, 04:49 AM	#3
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I have no problem being in a crowd with one exception - Christmas shoppers are far too intense for me. There have been times I have been in a Mall before Christmas and had to literally run out of the Mall like a wide receiver - dodging and ducking. I have an affectionate nature and enjoy being touched/hugged by people I know and trust ... Like my 72 year old neighbor lady who moved next door a month ago. Sometimes she takes both my hands in hers when she talks to me. That feels really good to me. I will say I become very rude in lines at the grocery store or places like WalMart if someone behind me bumps me more than once. Everyone gets the benefit of a "bump once" free card. After that, they will notice I have turned into an instant asshole, stand my space, capable of a nudge back. I never say a word. They will find they have no opportunity to look over my shoulder while I pay cashier. Years ago, I was at an ATM withdrawing cash - broad daylight. The fellow behind me was very close on my back. Before I punched in my secret code, I turned around, his face was very close to mine, looked at him hard directly in his eyes and told him to back off. He took 2 steps back and began ranting how he did not need my money because he had much more then me. I thought I would surely end up rolling there on the sidewalk with him, my body had already prepared itself and took over by hardening and bowing up ... adrenaline was flowing through my veins like hot lava. Thankfully nothing happened.

12-01-2014, 08:25 PM	#6
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,897 Times in 5,017 Posts Rep Power: 0	I am very quick to hug, but i can "tell" when a hug wouldn't be welcome and I'm good with that! I love being in the middle of a group of friends/loved ones, and we can all sitthisclose and i'm in heaven. But.....get me in a crowd of strangers and i am moving toward the nearest exit before you can blink. I need lots of me time, but personal space isn't needed unless it is a stranger.

12-01-2014, 09:08 PM	#9
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: gf Relationship Status: Til you believe Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wrapped in a shawl Posts: 9,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,731 Thanked 22,161 Times in 7,228 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	Personal space has meant different things to me depending on my circumstances and the different places I've been. I lived in a commune where I had to share space and lived with lots of people and children all around me and set my mind to love it and it taught me many things. I've also had times in my life when I was very alone and was very comfortable just doing my own thing. I think where I am at right now is somewhere in the middle, sharing my space is definitely a good thing.