Why can't common sense and good will be more, well, common?

NJFemmie · 12-17-2009, 06:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

It depends upon what's being offered/taken and where it is, I think. People in the South seem to look down upon gestures that would be deemed 'charity' but are more open at giving and receiving gestures that would be considered 'good manners'.

*shrug*

This applies to just about anywhere. Pride.
So I guess one would have to disguise what would be considered charity as a good, common gesture just to get by... lol. (I kind of think of them as one and the same at times).

Gemme · 12-17-2009, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by NJFemmie

This applies to just about anywhere. Pride.
So I guess one would have to disguise what would be considered charity as a good, common gesture just to get by... lol. (I kind of think of them as one and the same at times).

Very true.

Diva · 12-19-2009, 10:46 AM

I know I HATE it when I feel like someone feels sorry for me. H.A.T.E. I.T. And this last year, it has been rough financially.....and I have had to swallow my pride a few times. It's been a good lesson for me to be on the receiving end of people's kindness. And makes me so thankful for the "things" which I DO have, and for the people and love in my life. That makes me pretty wealthy, truth be told.

julieisafemme · 12-19-2009, 12:48 PM

Jews have the "fake it till you make it" rule where you just give and receive. You don't have to like the giving or receiving. You just do it because it is a mitzvah. Not a good deed or ma'asim tovim but a commandment. So it is the intention to do right and following up with action that makes the difference. I like this because it allows me to follow a rule rather than make judgement calls or expect something back. Where I have the hardest time is looking past myself and being right. If I can do that and follow the rule it is amazing how the outcome of a situation can change.

So why can't common sense and good will be more common? Because it is hard! If I could love, accept and cut myself some more slack it becomes easier.

homoe · 12-25-2015, 06:21 PM

Yup, just seems like common sense has gone out the window! I'm mainly referring to the lunch lady who dared to give a free meal to a hungry student and was fired for it! R E A L L Y ????????? The school district's response was that there are "programs" that help those in need! Give me a break!!!!

Shystonefem · 12-25-2015, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

Yup, just seems like common sense has gone out the window! I'm mainly referring to the lunch lady who dared to give a free meal to a hungry student and was fired for it! R E A L L Y ????????? The school district's response was that there are "programs" that help those in need! Give me a break!!!!

Not much makes me angry but, when I saw this, I was pissed.

Uli · 12-25-2015, 09:08 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

Yup, just seems like common sense has gone out the window! I'm mainly referring to the lunch lady who dared to give a free meal to a hungry student and was fired for it! R E A L L Y ????????? The school district's response was that there are "programs" that help those in need! Give me a break!!!!

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Originally Posted by Shystonefem

Not much makes me angry but, when I saw this, I was pissed.

In case it helps either of you feel better, I read yesterday that the school district offered her job back to her. I'm not sure if she accepted or not.

12-19-2009, 10:46 AM	#3
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12-19-2009, 12:48 PM	#4
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12-25-2015, 06:21 PM	#5
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