Stone Butches

sharonsuburbia · 11-19-2010, 08:15 AM

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Originally Posted by cody

good morning too all the roling stones!!! or the kinda kinda not.. who knows

their is just something so fantatically melting about stones - i am pure putty in hys hands - the older i get the more hardwired i am for stoners - (i love the bike)

asphaltcowboi · 11-19-2010, 08:20 AM

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Originally Posted by sharonsuburbia

their is just something so fantatically melting about stones - i am pure putty in hys hands - the older i get the more hardwired i am for stoners - (i love the bike)

nice heels!

sharonsuburbia · 11-19-2010, 08:23 AM

thanks

i am trying to put up pics but i get message file os tp big - are you going to be around?

sharonsuburbia · 11-19-2010, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by cody

nice heels!

hat was for you ew are you going o be arounf

sharonsuburbia · 11-19-2010, 08:29 AM

i will go to chat

diamondrose · 11-19-2010, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by CherylNYC

Yeah, sort of. Of course I get your drift, but I'm always a little uncomfortable when anyone defines me by who I date. I'm a stonefemme because of my own personal boundaries. I'm not defined by those I date. I've known femmes who are far from stone, but find themselves dating stone butches. I'm a stonefemme who has dated butches who are not stone, (insert sad face here).

Well said. I agree and relate to this. I am who I am, a stone femme, because of my personal preferences and limitations.

rlin · 11-19-2010, 08:47 AM

i hope that my posts didnt put any negative energy against being stone...
there is nothing farther from the truth in my head...

i just dont want to embrace this until i know for sure that i am not reacting to some kind of outside influences or levels of comfort... or preferences of a lover even...

i just want to be me... whoever that is... truly...

Legendryder · 11-19-2010, 08:58 AM

We define ourselves my friend. Keep an open mind and find your own comfort zone. It will all work out exactly the way it should.

Random · 11-19-2010, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by rlin

i hope that my posts didnt put any negative energy against being stone...
there is nothing farther from the truth in my head...

i just dont want to embrace this until i know for sure that i am not reacting to some kind of outside influences or levels of comfort... or preferences of a lover even...

i just want to be me... whoever that is... truly...

I've kept from chiming in because I'm not butch...and I'm only semi stone... grin... soft stone if you would have it...

But...

A lover once told me that it was about feeling safe... and trust...

He said... The more I trust, the safer I feel, the more clothes come off...

He said... for a woman to get into his boxers, meant that that he trusted and he felt safe exposing the part of him that didn't match his inside view... (He was/is GID)

If he was feeling emotionally unsafe or the trust wasn't there, then the boxers and the a-line were NOT coming off..

If you've had a bad break up recently, an emotional trama that left you feeling unsafe to share yourself...

Something to think about....

I think there are so many reasons for someone being stone...

Energy exchange
Personal Satisfaction
Personal Programning
Protection

Human Sexuality is complicated and so very interesting..

Myself...

The more emotionally compromised I am, the more dominate I am... It's not safe to let anyone in close enough to share myself... So I turn it and make it all about them...

The more dominant I am, the less I want to be touched... I'm not even aware of my body and it's physically distasteful to be touched... It's the mindgasm, the taking my partner to where they only dream of going that blows me away... Touching me actually shuts me down and turns me off.. It's all about them, because it's safer for me that way...

The girl is me is crippled.. driven to the point of insanity...wounded almost beyond repair... Almost is the key word... Slowly... oh so slowly... (with the help of an incredibly patent and stubborn butch) I'm doing the work that will allow her to come to dinner and stay for a while...

Sorry.. Got on a tangent there...

What I'm trying to say is..

Only you know why you are the way you are..

There is not a damn thing wrong with being stone... With deriving pleasure from pleasing your partner... (and I have to say... Tantric? hell yes.. please and thank you...) if you are built that way... (personally, I think it's hot as hell to have someone orgasm from fucking me..)or if you choose to be stone...

But if you are questioning, if it's on your mind... Then maybe it might be something else...

Only you can know.....

11-19-2010, 08:23 AM	#3
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11-19-2010, 08:29 AM	#5
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11-19-2010, 08:47 AM	#7
rlin Member How Do You Identify?: human Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: nomad Posts: 712 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,450 Thanked 1,189 Times in 451 Posts Rep Power: 1004849	i hope that my posts didnt put any negative energy against being stone... there is nothing farther from the truth in my head... i just dont want to embrace this until i know for sure that i am not reacting to some kind of outside influences or levels of comfort... or preferences of a lover even... i just want to be me... whoever that is... truly...

11-19-2010, 08:58 AM	#8
Legendryder Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Queen City, MO Posts: 420 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14 Thanked 969 Times in 261 Posts Rep Power: 7270131	We define ourselves my friend. Keep an open mind and find your own comfort zone. It will all work out exactly the way it should.