What is/are your biggest fears?

katsarecool · 11-21-2010, 06:02 PM

Not getting to see my grandchildren grow up.
I wasn't afraid of big needles but now I am!
I am not afraid of dying; just not in the for seeable future.
Spiders, no matter what size creep me out.
Family reunions; the family is so dysfunctional they all feel the need to get rip roaring drunk then dump on each other. Normally they shove shit under the rug. I hate that! Not my kids and their family. I am talking about siblings and my step-father that was negilgent, abusive and mean-spirited to us all. Besides this I am fearless!

Apocalipstic · 11-21-2010, 06:53 PM

Family reunions are almost more than I can bear to think of. shudder.

asphaltcowboi · 11-21-2010, 07:02 PM

my biggest fear is gaurdrails at 80 mph.

JustJo · 11-21-2010, 07:04 PM

I work myself into a fit just knowing that I'll have to face a needle.
Drowning.
Spiders, but only if they're big or hairy...tarantulas totally freak me out.

I don't have fears about my family, but know that my mother is bad for me so I keep my exposure limited....and I've cut my sister out completely purely for self-preservation.

I can handle crowds, enclosed spaces, public speaking...but like many here I wonder sometimes if I'll see my son grow up (having health issues and having had him at 35....I know I likely will, but it's on my mind)....and groups of men laughing can put me on high alert, even when I know it's irrational.

I'm squeamish...so the sight of blood, or even discussion of things bloody or medical that gets too detailed can make me feel light-headed and I get that "seeing in black and white, ears ringing, I'm going to pass out" feeling. It's not a fear exactly, but still something I avoid like crazy.

Venus007 · 11-22-2010, 01:01 AM

Loosing the ability to be self determining in my life

Becoming a prisoner in my body

Forgetting all I have fought for and learned and relapsing/regressing to my broken past

Being homeless (it has been nearly 20 years since I was homeless and I still keep an eye out for safe places to sleep and shower)

Diva · 11-22-2010, 02:22 AM

When I was little ~ about 5, I guess ~ my Mom put me in swimming lessons. At one point, we were supposed to open our eyes under water and be able to tell the instructor how many fingers he held under the water. I just kept guessing....wrong, of course. And finally, he pushed my head underwater until I would open my eyes.

I jumped out of that pool and never went back.

From that point on, I was scared of the water. When I was in college, I had to pass a swimming test in order to graduate. I failed the test repeatedly, so I had to take a semester of swimming. I learned the basics, but I still couldn't open my eyes underwater.

In 1991, I went to New Braunfels with a bunch of women. We were gonna inner-tube down the Guadalupe. I thought I could do this. Yes, I was scared.

Well....as luck would have it, I didn't paddle to the banks when I was supposed to and my partner and I got swept into the rapids and sucked under.

Long story short (right), I almost drowned. I was pulled to safety by a couple of paramedics who just happened to be close-by.

I'm terrified of drowning. And I'm a Pisces.....sign of The Fish. Go figure.

Words · 11-22-2010, 02:41 AM

Crossing bridges by foot, especially those with traffic underneath (for some reason, the rapid movement of the traffic freaks me out).

I'm always afraid that I'll succumb to a sudden temptation to jump and inevitably have to wait for someone to hold my hand and walk me across with my eyes closed.

Words

Tcountry · 11-25-2010, 10:27 AM

...Not being there...to protect or help a loved one...

Turtle · 11-22-2010, 02:43 AM

eeeeuooooow - spiders, good thing my honey's not scared of em.

big crowds - NO!!

most of the other things are getting better with each try :-)

and a fear that's too big to say, cuz I don't want to jinx them

Random · 11-22-2010, 02:48 AM

I have three..

1 Heights without a rail or some sort of barrerer... I can do it but I break out in the sweats and the shakes... Why, yes I do love driving through the mountains....

2 Something horrible would happen to my son.. It used to be my biggest fear, but now that he is out on his own, it's lessened... Lol.. I can't know where he is and what he is doing every day...

3 Not knowing where a loved one is... If someone was supposed to be home at x time and they are not and I haven't gotten a phone call, txt, email... I start to panic... They are dead on the side of the road... I used to say... It's not that I care where you go or how long you stay... I just need to know when to start worring, when to start calling the hospitals and driving the streets.. (I once left a voice mail on a friends phone at 12am telling him that he didn't call me when he was supposed to and now I'm imagining that he has ripped out his stitches and laying in a pool of blood and if he didn't call me back within a half hour, I was calling the ambulance to go make sure he was alive...)

girl_dee · 11-22-2010, 07:41 AM

not breathing to the point that i actually smother to death

Billy · 11-25-2010, 10:48 AM

Elavators Don't like them , I avoid them especially if there are a lot of people in there ..Years ago I was in one , it started to get full , and before I could get off on any floor , it stopped real fast and this drunk guy flew into Me and My first reaction was to turn and bodyslam him to the back of the elavator He hit that back and slid down , oppssss

The one at the hotel for the reunion was a lil freaky for Me , but it was never full and it was fast ...lol

Nat · 11-25-2010, 10:50 AM

I think i have to get out of bed and drive to it right now.

JAGG · 12-01-2010, 08:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Diva

When I was little ~ about 5, I guess ~ my Mom put me in swimming lessons. At one point, we were supposed to open our eyes under water and be able to tell the instructor how many fingers he held under the water. I just kept guessing....wrong, of course. And finally, he pushed my head underwater until I would open my eyes.

I jumped out of that pool and never went back.

From that point on, I was scared of the water. When I was in college, I had to pass a swimming test in order to graduate. I failed the test repeatedly, so I had to take a semester of swimming. I learned the basics, but I still couldn't open my eyes underwater.

In 1991, I went to New Braunfels with a bunch of women. We were gonna inner-tube down the Guadalupe. I thought I could do this. Yes, I was scared.

Well....as luck would have it, I didn't paddle to the banks when I was supposed to and my partner and I got swept into the rapids and sucked under.

Long story short (right), I almost drowned. I was pulled to safety by a couple of paramedics who just happened to be close-by.

I'm terrified of drowning. And I'm a Pisces.....sign of The Fish. Go figure.

I've taught hunderds of people to swim, actually do more than swim, to survive in the water. I can teach you too . If you ever want to learn, I can do it in 1 afternoon. Can't teach you to swim in 1 afternoon that takes a few days, but teach you to not fear water anymore and love it, instead of fear it. You can keep your eyes closed the whole time if you like.

miss entycing · 12-01-2010, 08:23 PM

finding out I was right about everything... and then some.

11-21-2010, 06:02 PM	#1
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323367	Not getting to see my grandchildren grow up. I wasn't afraid of big needles but now I am! I am not afraid of dying; just not in the for seeable future. Spiders, no matter what size creep me out. Family reunions; the family is so dysfunctional they all feel the need to get rip roaring drunk then dump on each other. Normally they shove shit under the rug. I hate that! Not my kids and their family. I am talking about siblings and my step-father that was negilgent, abusive and mean-spirited to us all. Besides this I am fearless! __________________

11-21-2010, 06:53 PM	#2
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11-21-2010, 07:02 PM	#3
asphaltcowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: HAPPY Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 1,509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,367 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,042 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	my biggest fear is gaurdrails at 80 mph. __________________

11-21-2010, 07:04 PM	#4
JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,404 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I work myself into a fit just knowing that I'll have to face a needle. Drowning. Spiders, but only if they're big or hairy...tarantulas totally freak me out. I don't have fears about my family, but know that my mother is bad for me so I keep my exposure limited....and I've cut my sister out completely purely for self-preservation. I can handle crowds, enclosed spaces, public speaking...but like many here I wonder sometimes if I'll see my son grow up (having health issues and having had him at 35....I know I likely will, but it's on my mind)....and groups of men laughing can put me on high alert, even when I know it's irrational. I'm squeamish...so the sight of blood, or even discussion of things bloody or medical that gets too detailed can make me feel light-headed and I get that "seeing in black and white, ears ringing, I'm going to pass out" feeling. It's not a fear exactly, but still something I avoid like crazy. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

11-22-2010, 01:01 AM	#5
Venus007 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Serene Highness ;} Relationship Status: Dreamily contemplating some outrage against conventional morality Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Houston area Posts: 1,362 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,417 Thanked 4,749 Times in 1,139 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Biggest fears Loosing the ability to be self determining in my life Becoming a prisoner in my body Forgetting all I have fought for and learned and relapsing/regressing to my broken past Being homeless (it has been nearly 20 years since I was homeless and I still keep an eye out for safe places to sleep and shower) __________________ . "I need no warrant for being, and no word of sanction upon my being. I am the warrant and the sanction. " Ayn Rand, Anthem "So you'll die happily for your sins. You'd rather die in guilt then live in love?" Timothy Leary

11-22-2010, 02:22 AM	#6
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	When I was little ~ about 5, I guess ~ my Mom put me in swimming lessons. At one point, we were supposed to open our eyes under water and be able to tell the instructor how many fingers he held under the water. I just kept guessing....wrong, of course. And finally, he pushed my head underwater until I would open my eyes. I jumped out of that pool and never went back. From that point on, I was scared of the water. When I was in college, I had to pass a swimming test in order to graduate. I failed the test repeatedly, so I had to take a semester of swimming. I learned the basics, but I still couldn't open my eyes underwater. In 1991, I went to New Braunfels with a bunch of women. We were gonna inner-tube down the Guadalupe. I thought I could do this. Yes, I was scared. Well....as luck would have it, I didn't paddle to the banks when I was supposed to and my partner and I got swept into the rapids and sucked under. Long story short (right), I almost drowned. I was pulled to safety by a couple of paramedics who just happened to be close-by. I'm terrified of drowning. And I'm a Pisces.....sign of The Fish. Go figure.

11-22-2010, 02:41 AM	#7
Words Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme submissive Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 969 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,449 Thanked 4,258 Times in 677 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Crossing bridges by foot, especially those with traffic underneath (for some reason, the rapid movement of the traffic freaks me out). I'm always afraid that I'll succumb to a sudden temptation to jump and inevitably have to wait for someone to hold my hand and walk me across with my eyes closed. Words

11-25-2010, 10:27 AM	#8
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11-22-2010, 02:43 AM	#9
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11-22-2010, 02:48 AM	#10
Random Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: back in the land of trees and snow Posts: 2,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,017 Thanked 5,327 Times in 1,378 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I have three.. 1 Heights without a rail or some sort of barrerer... I can do it but I break out in the sweats and the shakes... Why, yes I do love driving through the mountains.... 2 Something horrible would happen to my son.. It used to be my biggest fear, but now that he is out on his own, it's lessened... Lol.. I can't know where he is and what he is doing every day... 3 Not knowing where a loved one is... If someone was supposed to be home at x time and they are not and I haven't gotten a phone call, txt, email... I start to panic... They are dead on the side of the road... I used to say... It's not that I care where you go or how long you stay... I just need to know when to start worring, when to start calling the hospitals and driving the streets.. (I once left a voice mail on a friends phone at 12am telling him that he didn't call me when he was supposed to and now I'm imagining that he has ripped out his stitches and laying in a pool of blood and if he didn't call me back within a half hour, I was calling the ambulance to go make sure he was alive...) __________________ ~Volunteer~ "It gets in your blood"

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11-25-2010, 10:48 AM	#12
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11-25-2010, 10:50 AM	#13
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12-01-2010, 08:23 PM	#15
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