Have You Found Your Soul Mate?

asphaltcowboi · 12-09-2010, 05:18 PM

yes i think my soul mate is reba! im just sure of it

Gemme · 12-09-2010, 10:54 PM

I've done some thinking on this matter since I last posted and I think a soul mate is someone that just 'gets' me, be it friend or lover or little old man waiting for the bus on the corner.

I still feel the term holds a certain amount of weight but the weight doesn't have to be in the form of a shackle, I've learned. Organic gets me. My flaws are still there, but through his eyes, they are minimized and his through mine (except the damn snoring...because it's my ears that tell me about that not so little flaw).

But the weight and responsibility can be equally shared and, thus, becomes not a burden but something that builds strength.

Puplove · 12-10-2010, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I've done some thinking on this matter since I last posted and I think a soul mate is someone that just 'gets' me, be it friend or lover or little old man waiting for the bus on the corner.

I still feel the term holds a certain amount of weight but the weight doesn't have to be in the form of a shackle, I've learned. Organic gets me. My flaws are still there, but through his eyes, they are minimized and his through mine (except the damn snoring...because it's my ears that tell me about that not so little flaw).

But the weight and responsibility can be equally shared and, thus, becomes not a burden but something that builds strength.

Yeah! What you said.

Gráinne · 01-14-2011, 07:28 PM

I want someone who compliments my life and makes me want to grow and better myself. I don't believe in the One, the SoulMate, because it is too tempting to pass up perfectly good people because they don't fit some fairy tale picture of what that soulmate should look like. I don't believe in "love happily ever after", because life and love takes work. I also don't believe in meeting the "other half" that completes me. I complete myself. I don't want "half a person", I want a fully complete person with or without me.

Someone else mentioned that now that we live longer, there are different partners for each period of our lives. "Till death do us part" might work when we only lived until 40, but we're living a lot longer than that now. Who can say that the person we flipped for at 20 would stir us up at 50? Maybe rarely, but not much.

I think there are many possible partners we could be compatible with, and so it pays to be even more dilligent about "screening" who we go with.

Sam · 01-14-2011, 07:31 PM

i literally dont believe, but i dare to be proved wrong ha

Passionaria · 01-14-2011, 07:58 PM

No, I have not, but I have had some delicious fun looking for them, a bit like wine tasting night at Whole Foods. I can admit to favoring a smooth, fragrant Spanish Tempranillo.

Nightshade · 01-14-2011, 08:07 PM

I don't believe in a soul. But I get the spirit (<-- see what I did there?) of the question.

I don't believe there is one person who is our perfect partner. I do believe there are people who see us for who we truly are and not who they want us to be, or even who WE want them to see. I believe there are people who are wonderful fits for our personalities, our lifestyles, our strengths and weaknesses. There are partners in crime and zigs to our zags.

I've met several of these folks who fit me well, and for one reason or another (choices, life experiences, issues, scars and whatnot) we've parted ways.

I hope someday to find someone with their eyes wide open who likes what they see and can stay for the duration.

Gemme · 01-14-2011, 09:04 PM

He gave me the last frownie after a really shitty day.

I think I found mine.

girl_dee · 01-14-2011, 09:06 PM

I guess I won't know until the end of the journey.

12-09-2010, 05:18 PM	#1
asphaltcowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: HAPPY Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 1,509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,367 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,042 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	yes i think my soul mate is reba! im just sure of it __________________

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Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,879 Times in 25,665 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	I've done some thinking on this matter since I last posted and I think a soul mate is someone that just 'gets' me, be it friend or lover or little old man waiting for the bus on the corner. I still feel the term holds a certain amount of weight but the weight doesn't have to be in the form of a shackle, I've learned. Organic gets me. My flaws are still there, but through his eyes, they are minimized and his through mine (except the damn snoring...because it's my ears that tell me about that not so little flaw). But the weight and responsibility can be equally shared and, thus, becomes not a burden but something that builds strength. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

01-14-2011, 07:28 PM	#4
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,866 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,119 Thanked 7,392 Times in 1,459 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I want someone who compliments my life and makes me want to grow and better myself. I don't believe in the One, the SoulMate, because it is too tempting to pass up perfectly good people because they don't fit some fairy tale picture of what that soulmate should look like. I don't believe in "love happily ever after", because life and love takes work. I also don't believe in meeting the "other half" that completes me. I complete myself. I don't want "half a person", I want a fully complete person with or without me. Someone else mentioned that now that we live longer, there are different partners for each period of our lives. "Till death do us part" might work when we only lived until 40, but we're living a lot longer than that now. Who can say that the person we flipped for at 20 would stir us up at 50? Maybe rarely, but not much. I think there are many possible partners we could be compatible with, and so it pays to be even more dilligent about "screening" who we go with. __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

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Nightshade Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: . Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: here Posts: 125 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 503 Thanked 236 Times in 84 Posts Rep Power: 42019	I don't believe in a soul. But I get the spirit (<-- see what I did there?) of the question. I don't believe there is one person who is our perfect partner. I do believe there are people who see us for who we truly are and not who they want us to be, or even who WE want them to see. I believe there are people who are wonderful fits for our personalities, our lifestyles, our strengths and weaknesses. There are partners in crime and zigs to our zags. I've met several of these folks who fit me well, and for one reason or another (choices, life experiences, issues, scars and whatnot) we've parted ways. I hope someday to find someone with their eyes wide open who likes what they see and can stay for the duration.

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