This may sound stupid...

Greyson · 01-25-2011, 02:32 PM

Soft, my sincere condolances to you. Your grief is not "stupid" at all. If you experience loss, don't negate what you are feeling and who you are.

Almost two weeks ago I spent a weekend with pet rats. A mama rat and her babies. This was the first time in my life I have been exposed to rats as pets. I fell in love with the mama rat. She is such a good mom. I literally watched the rats for hours and played with them a bit.

This past weekend my girlfriend and I went and purchased all of the stuff we need to prepare for the adoption of the mama rat and one female baby. I have been a dog person for much of my life and now my heart has opened up to the Rat species. (The kind with four legs.) Best wishes to you.

Andrea · 01-25-2011, 02:37 PM

I am sorry for your loss. A loved one is loved no matter the shape they come in.

Please know that emotions are never stupid and you should never let anyone tell you how you should feel. Even when that someone is yourself.

Andrea

Abigail Crabby · 01-25-2011, 02:39 PM

You're not stupid at all..... ((((( Softhearted )))))

I've owned pet rats over the years and I've spent money on trying to save them when they got pneumonia, etc. Every pet is loved and grieved for when it passes

I'm so sorry for your loss....

Ebon · 01-25-2011, 02:39 PM

No way not stupid. I'm sorry you lost your friend. It's hard to lose someone you care about.

Jesse · 01-25-2011, 02:46 PM

So sorry for your loss Soft. hugs Pets are a vital part of us.

Blade · 01-25-2011, 02:58 PM

Critters of all kinds seem to wiggle their way into our hearts...we can't help but fall in love with them and their antics and silliness. They certainly have their own little personalities. Sorry for your loss, cry til you get it out. You'll feel so much better for having done so.

sylvie · 01-25-2011, 03:16 PM

awhh, i'm so sorry for your loss ((((Softhearted))))
our pets, big or little, become part of our family and we love them, it's not stupid whatsoever.. it's very normal to grieve and again, so sorry for your loss .. ♥

princessbelle · 01-25-2011, 03:16 PM

love is love is love.

So sorry for your loss.

Apocalipstic · 01-25-2011, 03:19 PM

So sorry for your loss! Maybe you and your other pet can spend extra time together to make this change easier for you both.

Best to you!

suebee · 01-25-2011, 03:55 PM

You've lost a member of your family. It's not only okay, but healthy to mourn. You need to talk to some like-minded people who understand what grieving an animal is like - and you certainly have touched many of us here with this thread.

I've never had rats myself. Don't know how I missed out on that - I've had just about everything else. But my brother had them for his kids for years. They had mazes for them that covered almost one entire wall of the basement. They were lucky rats! Rats are intelligent creatures; full of fun and love. Anyone who has known one can understand why you would be feeling the way you do.

My sympathies on the loss of your family member. I hope the other rat can adjust to his/her loss as well.

Sue

girl_dee · 01-31-2011, 02:29 PM

ever heard that song *Ben* by young Michael Jackson? It was about his pet rat.. pets are pets...

citybutch · 01-31-2011, 03:34 PM

I don't think it is stupid at all...

I loved my rats when I had them. And cried when they died...

I am so sorry for your loss...

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