Valentines day help?

[Soft*Silver]

Valentines Day is really overhyped. You arent suppose to make a mockery out of love. To go all out for a relationship that has just started leaves nothing for it to grow into OR it makes everything from here on in have to be bigger and grander. Love isnt suppose to be measured that way. Love isnt suppose to develop that way. Its not built on promotional holidays. Its built on where the two of you are. So where are you two in your relationship? Thats how you gauge what to get her...

a beautiful card, some pretty nail polish, an opera poster you found in an antique store for $5 ...combined with a nice simple spagetti dinner you make, watching Phatom of the the Opera on your set after, enjoying your special cookie together during...in candlelight...

so much better than the "perfect" first valentines gift. Relax...enjoy it...make it what it is, between the two of you...

[Jesse]

Spend some special time with her...perhaps a romantic picnic?

[ravfem]

Maybe one-on-one attention...take her away for the day...to the forest or a park in a neighboring city. Walk and sit and walk more. Look for fae gardens (oops, that was projecting a little too much me ).

If weather wont let y'all be outside, maybe a museum or a window shopping spree. A bookstore or music store where y'all can share favorites - new & old.

Sit & have coffee (or whatever) and ask her all kinds of open-ended questions about her - what she loves, what makes her happy, what would she do with $10 million?

People watch & make up stories about those people y'all find interesting. Touch her often, softly, quietly. Or loudly....

i should stop now.

Have fun!

[Soft*Silver]

Originally Posted by ravfem

If weather wont let y'all be outside, maybe a museum or a window shopping spree. A bookstore or music store where y'all can share favorites - new & old.
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see...for me....this would be the best valentine day of all...a trip to the museum and then at the end, a visit to the bookstore, where we would admire the trinkets until my suitor would watch until my eyes would light up and their hand would grab it out of mine and head to the counter...a $10 box of greeting cards with my favorite artist's work on the front! Wonderful! I would cherish them! and the day and most of all, my date!

[apretty]

a mixed tape
good chocolates (artisan truffles from here: yum)
perfume
flowers
gift certificate for a spa/massage
if you can cook, a home cooked meal (pasta puttanesca link: recipe)
a picnic
a vintage apron
a foreign film with lots of sex but make sure you apologize for not realizing that it was going to be as explicit and ask her if she'd rather leave, at about 45 minutes in.

good luck <3

[Chancie]

I love presents that will remind me of my beau's thoughtfulness long after the holiday has passed.

Among other things, Pete has given me a Russian Sage for my garden, a gift certificate for a local curtain store, and 500 pencils with the number pi to the fiftieth digit. She knows I like presents that will last, as opposed to cut flowers, for example.

Sometimes we wake up and Pete says, Let's go to Putney, or Keene, and off we go. We have uninterrupted time to talk in the car, and we eat a meal somewhere different, not necessarily expensive, and it feels like a very short vacation.

[JustJo]

I'm a big sap....so, that sways my opinions, but...

I think Valentine's Day and anniversaries are important....more important than the holidays like Christmas when you gift everyone. These two are about you as a couple.

Because of that, I'd say go with something that is signficant not to you, not to her...but to the relationship you have.

Clear as mud, right?

I mean....when Scoote and I first started together, the beach became a focal point for us. It's where we spent our best time, where we walked, laughed, relaxed. It was (and is) our place.

So, for our first anniversay, I got her a tide clock...it shows how many hours until low tide (the best shell hunting, and when we always want to be at the beach). It's not "romantic" to anyone else...but it fit for us.

So....what's your place? Or your activity? What do the two of you do that makes you smile and laugh and feel really together? I'd say think of that (whatever it is) and get her or make her something that celebrates those moments.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by softness

see...for me....this would be the best valentine day of all...a trip to the museum and then at the end, a visit to the bookstore, where we would admire the trinkets until my suitor would watch until my eyes would light up and their hand would grab it out of mine and head to the counter...a $10 box of greeting cards with my favorite artist's work on the front! Wonderful! I would cherish them! and the day and most of all, my date!

I have a Pooh bear that I came to own in a manner similar to this. We were browsing an antique store after a lovely dinner out and I saw it and it was soooo adorable. I think of her fondly when I hold the bear. It's a good memory.