Valentines day help?

apretty · 02-04-2011, 01:30 AM

a mixed tape
good chocolates (artisan truffles from here: yum)
perfume
flowers
gift certificate for a spa/massage
if you can cook, a home cooked meal (pasta puttanesca link: recipe)
a picnic
a vintage apron
a foreign film with lots of sex but make sure you apologize for not realizing that it was going to be as explicit and ask her if she'd rather leave, at about 45 minutes in.

good luck <3

Chancie · 02-04-2011, 05:38 AM

I love presents that will remind me of my beau's thoughtfulness long after the holiday has passed.

Among other things, Pete has given me a Russian Sage for my garden, a gift certificate for a local curtain store, and 500 pencils with the number pi to the fiftieth digit. She knows I like presents that will last, as opposed to cut flowers, for example.

Sometimes we wake up and Pete says, Let's go to Putney, or Keene, and off we go. We have uninterrupted time to talk in the car, and we eat a meal somewhere different, not necessarily expensive, and it feels like a very short vacation.

JustJo · 02-04-2011, 08:42 AM

I'm a big sap....so, that sways my opinions, but...

I think Valentine's Day and anniversaries are important....more important than the holidays like Christmas when you gift everyone. These two are about you as a couple.

Because of that, I'd say go with something that is signficant not to you, not to her...but to the relationship you have.

Clear as mud, right?

I mean....when Scoote and I first started together, the beach became a focal point for us. It's where we spent our best time, where we walked, laughed, relaxed. It was (and is) our place.

So, for our first anniversay, I got her a tide clock...it shows how many hours until low tide (the best shell hunting, and when we always want to be at the beach). It's not "romantic" to anyone else...but it fit for us.

So....what's your place? Or your activity? What do the two of you do that makes you smile and laugh and feel really together? I'd say think of that (whatever it is) and get her or make her something that celebrates those moments.

The_Lady_Snow · 02-04-2011, 09:24 AM

You could blind fold her and spank her

Then bathe & lotion her!

suebee · 02-04-2011, 09:25 AM

Inexpensive just means you have to be more creative. Give her something - or a series of things - that shows what you know about her. Her favorite colour, food, music (you've got that one covered), clothing (used clothing stores are GREAT!), candy, place.....the possibilities are endless. Make it a challenge to spend little or no money on gifts. It forces you to work at it, and you can usually come up with a much more personal gift for your efforts. And added plus: this early in the relationship it can be tricky knowing how much money spent on a gift is enough or too much. You completely eliminate that little problem.
My favorite gifts I've given and received have mostly been things that cost little or no money.
Have fun!

Sue

The_Lady_Snow · 02-04-2011, 09:57 AM

Is this a vanilla or kink relationship?

Rope · 02-06-2011, 01:38 PM

I love Valentine's Day--it's just ONE MORE DAY to say I love you or I am thinking about you. When people complain about the over hyped holiday, I think so don't give Valentine's that are store bought, don't buy roses or chocolates, in fact, don't participate no one is making you do it.

It does help to know a persons likes and dislikes to decide on what to give them but really, the simpler the better in my opinion but then again, some people like the huge fuss. So it's really up to you and what you know about your femme.

I too like practical presents and I don't like being embarassed at work with some showy thing. I'm a butch that doesn't like receiving flowers.

Rope--

Guy · 02-06-2011, 02:07 PM

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Random · 02-12-2011, 07:14 AM

So broke college student...

hmmm...

which is her favorite opera?

I say...

get the keys to her apt

clean the heck out of it

make her fav dinner

have her favorite opera playing or check the dvd out at the library and watch it together...

take a picture of yourself, print it out and put it in a frame... maybe with a coupon from you to do something incredibly sweet for her... (or something she likes but doesn't get very often)

If you think about her, then you will know what to do for her... Don't think so much about what to buy, but what makes her eyes light up and her face get soft...

If you think about it, it will come...

02-04-2011, 08:42 AM	#3
JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,406 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I'm a big sap....so, that sways my opinions, but... I think Valentine's Day and anniversaries are important....more important than the holidays like Christmas when you gift everyone. These two are about you as a couple. Because of that, I'd say go with something that is signficant not to you, not to her...but to the relationship you have. Clear as mud, right? I mean....when Scoote and I first started together, the beach became a focal point for us. It's where we spent our best time, where we walked, laughed, relaxed. It was (and is) our place. So, for our first anniversay, I got her a tide clock...it shows how many hours until low tide (the best shell hunting, and when we always want to be at the beach). It's not "romantic" to anyone else...but it fit for us. So....what's your place? Or your activity? What do the two of you do that makes you smile and laugh and feel really together? I'd say think of that (whatever it is) and get her or make her something that celebrates those moments. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

02-04-2011, 09:24 AM	#4
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	You could blind fold her and spank her Then bathe & lotion her! __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

02-04-2011, 09:25 AM	#5
suebee Member How Do You Identify?: TOWANDA! Preferred Pronoun?: Queen Bee Relationship Status: Good 'n married. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Eastern Canada. But if I make a wrong turn at the lights I get stopped by a border guard. Posts: 1,499 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,355 Thanked 2,756 Times in 820 Posts Rep Power: 16450092	Inexpensive just means you have to be more creative. Give her something - or a series of things - that shows what you know about her. Her favorite colour, food, music (you've got that one covered), clothing (used clothing stores are GREAT!), candy, place.....the possibilities are endless. Make it a challenge to spend little or no money on gifts. It forces you to work at it, and you can usually come up with a much more personal gift for your efforts. And added plus: this early in the relationship it can be tricky knowing how much money spent on a gift is enough or too much. You completely eliminate that little problem. My favorite gifts I've given and received have mostly been things that cost little or no money. Have fun! Sue __________________ "Compassion, in which all ethics must take root, can only attain its full breadth and depth if it embraces all living creatures and does not limit itself to mankind." -Albert Schweitzer

02-04-2011, 09:57 AM	#6
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Is this a vanilla or kink relationship? __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

02-06-2011, 01:38 PM	#7
Rope Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hy Relationship Status: polyamorous Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 304 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 79 Thanked 1,277 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 8577864	I love Valentine's Day--it's just ONE MORE DAY to say I love you or I am thinking about you. When people complain about the over hyped holiday, I think so don't give Valentine's that are store bought, don't buy roses or chocolates, in fact, don't participate no one is making you do it. It does help to know a persons likes and dislikes to decide on what to give them but really, the simpler the better in my opinion but then again, some people like the huge fuss. So it's really up to you and what you know about your femme. I too like practical presents and I don't like being embarassed at work with some showy thing. I'm a butch that doesn't like receiving flowers. Rope-- __________________ www.ButchFemmeSocials.com

02-04-2011, 01:30 AM	#1
apretty Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: sea shell Relationship Status: married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: san diego Posts: 1,687 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,927 Thanked 4,373 Times in 1,012 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	a mixed tape good chocolates (artisan truffles from here: yum) perfume flowers gift certificate for a spa/massage if you can cook, a home cooked meal (pasta puttanesca link: recipe) a picnic a vintage apron a foreign film with lots of sex but make sure you apologize for not realizing that it was going to be as explicit and ask her if she'd rather leave, at about 45 minutes in. good luck <3

02-04-2011, 05:38 AM	#2
Chancie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme-inist Relationship Status: I'm lucky. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 3,774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,518 Thanked 14,541 Times in 2,744 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I love presents that will remind me of my beau's thoughtfulness long after the holiday has passed. Among other things, Pete has given me a Russian Sage for my garden, a gift certificate for a local curtain store, and 500 pencils with the number pi to the fiftieth digit. She knows I like presents that will last, as opposed to cut flowers, for example. Sometimes we wake up and Pete says, Let's go to Putney, or Keene, and off we go. We have uninterrupted time to talk in the car, and we eat a meal somewhere different, not necessarily expensive, and it feels like a very short vacation.

02-06-2011, 02:07 PM	#8
Guy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 1,858 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,258 Thanked 2,574 Times in 889 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	or if she likes sweets The World's Largest Gummy Worm is 128 times more massive than a traditional gummy worm. Measuring twenty-six inches long and weighing in at approximately 3 pounds, the World's Largest Gummy Worm is the most delicious 4,000-calorie candy worm in existence. Each World's Largest Gummy Worm features dual flavors, a ribbed body, and a five inch girth. It makes an amazing gift for now or later.

02-12-2011, 07:14 AM	#9
Random Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: back in the land of trees and snow Posts: 2,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,017 Thanked 5,327 Times in 1,378 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	So broke college student... hmmm... which is her favorite opera? I say... get the keys to her apt clean the heck out of it make her fav dinner have her favorite opera playing or check the dvd out at the library and watch it together... take a picture of yourself, print it out and put it in a frame... maybe with a coupon from you to do something incredibly sweet for her... (or something she likes but doesn't get very often) If you think about her, then you will know what to do for her... Don't think so much about what to buy, but what makes her eyes light up and her face get soft... If you think about it, it will come... __________________ ~Volunteer~ "It gets in your blood"