I am so QUEER!

SelfMadeMan · 02-23-2011, 05:26 PM

Another queer checking in! Great idea for a thread sweetie!

rlin · 02-23-2011, 05:51 PM

i was gay... then i was queer...
lately i have moved to being a big ol homo...

i love the look on peeps faces when i say it...

Stacy · 02-23-2011, 06:07 PM

Thanks to everyone who has popped in and contributed to the convo. I love me some queers!

TickledPink · 02-23-2011, 06:16 PM

Present.

Deborah · 02-23-2011, 06:40 PM

I have been told more than once I wasn't a lesbian...I think I AM queer though...

Arwen · 02-23-2011, 09:10 PM

It's difficult for me to explain why Queer works better for me than any other label. Part of my explanation would involve why I ruled the others out but then that tends to make people feel as if I'm putting their choices down or negating them somehow.

So for me, my Queer identity revolves around who I partner with. I'm still Queer if I'm single. I'm still me and that is who I am.

Gah. LOL I'm finding it very difficult to voice this.

Oh hell. I'm here. I'm Queer. Let's go shopping.

Gemme · 02-23-2011, 09:14 PM

I'm as Queer as a 3 dollar bill. And a little bit giddy too.

weatherboi · 02-23-2011, 09:19 PM

i never claimed queer...queer claimed me!!!
i was born this way!!!

Femminator · 06-13-2012, 06:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TickledPink

Present.

I so love this!

pajama · 06-13-2012, 06:38 PM

For me, coming around to claiming queer took a while, I only solidly claimed it about a couple of years ago.

For years I would see the definition that Stacy posted and think "yeah that's alot of me". But Queer always carried a social stigma where I come from - the South. It always seemed like saying the N word or F*g word. Derrogatory somehow.

But as my journey progressed, I am so diverse in my sexuality and presentation that no other labels truely fit me. I am bi-sexual, except I haven't been with a bio-male in over 17 years. But I didn't feel claiming Lesbian was proper, seemed misleading some. I present rather butch, but sexually am way more feminine. So I never felt quite right identifying as Butch, because I felt there were expectations that went along with that. (I am also evolving and learning that there are all kinds of butch.) I am attracted to all kinds and don't limit myself, so identifying as the opposite of what I prefer to date didn't work either.

Then a couple of years ago, I dated Dixie and she identified as Queer. She's very unique in many, many ways and I liked the way she embraced it. So I thought, "I can do this too." So there you go.....I'm QUEER. Get to know me and you will learn all my diversities.

A

agape · 07-17-2013, 12:39 AM

Queer here as well
Att first I really didn't want to call myself that but in the end I had to give up...

my gender identity is too complicated to explain in other terms...

my sexual orientation is too complicated to explain in other terms...

my romantic orientation is too complicated to explain in other terms...

etc...

But above all, I got tired having to defend my identity to ppl all the time. I felt that all other identities I had to somehow "prove" more of less and since I couldn't do that, I found that frustrating.

But the term queer is harder to question. Why wouldn't I be queer?

I don't know if anyone gets what I'm saying?

iamkeri1 · 02-23-2011, 10:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rlin

i was gay... then i was queer...
lately i have moved to being a big ol homo...

i love the look on peeps faces when i say it...

rlin
I must say i love the "big ol homo" thing too. I'd love to be there to see you use it.
Smooches,
Keri

Jomore · 02-24-2011, 03:44 AM

Queer here!
Can't explain me to myself let alone to you.
What a joyous rollercoaster ride it's been. :

EnderD_503 · 02-24-2011, 07:55 AM

Queer is pretty much the only existing word I know of that comes close to describing my sexual orientation, lol. I've never been a lesbian (though I've always loved women

), but for some time I thought maybe I was some kind of heterosexual (since I am a guy that likes women). But that doesn't make sense to me. Even though I'm a guy who likes girls I don't feel that term fits me. I could see that fitting if I was into strictly dating straight girls like some transguys and male ids do, but considering that my preference is for queer femmes or femmes somewhere in the LGBT (or...I guess...LBT...Q? Technically? lol) spectrum...hetero doesn't make sense.

Plus, who the hell is even properly heterosexual anymore? j/k

Stacy · 02-24-2011, 08:10 AM

Good Morning Queers!

I love poppin' in and seeing more names in this thread.

I have a job interview today, and my queer ass is NERVOUS!

Wish me luck and think good thoughts for me.

It is for a job at the local women's shelter. My daughter works there, and I think it would suit me so well.

So I'm off to shower and get ready.

Be back later! Love & Peace yo!

SelfMadeMan · 02-24-2011, 09:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Deviant

Good Morning Queers!

I love poppin' in and seeing more names in this thread.

I have a job interview today, and my queer ass is NERVOUS!

Wish me luck and think good thoughts for me.

It is for a job at the local women's shelter. My daughter works there, and I think it would suit me so well.

So I'm off to shower and get ready.

Be back later! Love & Peace yo!

They're gonna LOVE you!!! How could they not?? Good luck, I KNOW you'll nail this (cuz you nail well, just sayin )

foxyshaman · 02-24-2011, 09:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Deviant

Good Morning Queers!

I love poppin' in and seeing more names in this thread.

I have a job interview today, and my queer ass is NERVOUS!

Wish me luck and think good thoughts for me.

It is for a job at the local women's shelter. My daughter works there, and I think it would suit me so well.

So I'm off to shower and get ready.

Be back later! Love & Peace yo!

Good Luck...

SelfMadeMan · 02-24-2011, 09:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EnderD_503

Queer is pretty much the only existing word I know of that comes close to describing my sexual orientation, lol. I've never been a lesbian (though I've always loved women

), but for some time I thought maybe I was some kind of heterosexual (since I am a guy that likes women). But that doesn't make sense to me. Even though I'm a guy who likes girls I don't feel that term fits me. I could see that fitting if I was into strictly dating straight girls like some transguys and male ids do, but considering that my preference is for queer femmes or femmes somewhere in the LGBT (or...I guess...LBT...Q? Technically? lol) spectrum...hetero doesn't make sense.

Plus, who the hell is even properly heterosexual anymore? j/k

Ditto what he said :-)

Quintease · 04-06-2011, 06:28 PM

I've had a lot of conversations about this, as being a lesbian with a boyfriend causes a few raised eyebrows y'know..

I don't ID as queer, though I assume I will one day.. it wasn't relevant in my former lesbian life. I am aware that Queer has a lot of history and value, probably as much as lesbian, and it would also be an umbrella my bf would be happy to stand under with me.

One day I will make the switch, much like that fateful day when I decided I didn't need chocolate any more and began eating dried fruit instead.

Captain Franki · 04-28-2011, 01:13 PM

I love queer. Queer is the only word that works for my sexuality, precisely because it's so murky.

I used to consider myself straight. I think I was about 15 when I started considering the possibility I could be bicurious and for years hovered between describing myself as straight, bisexual or bicurious. I made huge announcmeents I'd retract later. I just had a nagging sense I had the possibility in me to be with a woman, despite the fact I loved boys. I obsessed over boys all the time and dated/slept with them exclusively. When I came to uni signed up to the lgbt society thinking it might help me somehow... but did nothing with that except get a card for cheap entry to gay clubs, then unrelated to this I made friends with a bunch of mostly gay men and became a fag hag going to gay clubs to dance in what i felt was a friendlier environment than most straight clubs. I pretty much ignored the lesbians. I don't know why. The lesbian world was just this giant impenetrable fortress to me and I had a bunch of misconceptions, and besides I hung out with the gay guys as a 'straight' friend. I tried to kiss a girl once, but I just failed miserably and gave up. Despite being on the surface straight I had a huge inexplicable obsession with gay places, people and related media.

A bunch of ins and outs later, I finally figured out I was actually trans* and came out last year. As I began to explore my gender my attractions, sexuality and the words I used to describe it got more and more swirly until there was only one word that fit right - queer. For a mixture of reasons I've finally came across the queer crowd. Queer to me is part of the gay community, but also seperate. It's more radicalised. More accepting. I used to find the gay spaces friendly but now I consider myself trans and sexually queer, now i'm outside of the binary it feels controlling and less safe. To be fair... it's not always bad, and mostly better than straight spaces. I find the best places are those where there are a mix of liberal queers and liberal queer-friendly sorts. I think trans* is a huge part of what seperates queer from gay, along with bi/omni/pan sexualities and the ever-cliched 'open mind'.

Queer is fierce. Queer says fuck, no I won't. Queer says we are the underdogs and proud. Queer says I'll do what I want but not at the expense of fucking over my neighbours. Queer means my current preference is not girls or boys but bois.

It also means half my friends are vegans so I get the bacon all to myself.

This was a really long life story.

02-23-2011, 06:07 PM	#3
Stacy Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 475 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 396 Thanked 920 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 8450334	Thanks to everyone who has popped in and contributed to the convo. I love me some queers! __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Suess http://i431.photobucket.com/albums/q...star_green.gif

02-23-2011, 06:40 PM	#5
Deborah Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: Babydoll is a start.... Relationship Status: Mrs. Livingston 4/20/2013 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville where my heart belongs... Posts: 611 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,451 Thanked 1,454 Times in 276 Posts Rep Power: 14676215	I have been told more than once I wasn't a lesbian...I think I AM queer though... __________________ "Slow to trust but I'm quick to love, I push too hard and I give too much, I aint saying I'm perfect, but I promise I'm worth it" "The Good Within Me Honors The Good Within You"

02-23-2011, 09:10 PM	#6
Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,108 Times in 6,412 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	It's difficult for me to explain why Queer works better for me than any other label. Part of my explanation would involve why I ruled the others out but then that tends to make people feel as if I'm putting their choices down or negating them somehow. So for me, my Queer identity revolves around who I partner with. I'm still Queer if I'm single. I'm still me and that is who I am. Gah. LOL I'm finding it very difficult to voice this. Oh hell. I'm here. I'm Queer. Let's go shopping. __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?

02-23-2011, 09:14 PM	#7
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07-17-2013, 12:39 AM	#11
agape Member How Do You Identify?: queer Preferred Pronoun?: don't care Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: earth Posts: 375 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,537 Thanked 671 Times in 203 Posts Rep Power: 9378959	Queer here as well Att first I really didn't want to call myself that but in the end I had to give up... my gender identity is too complicated to explain in other terms... my sexual orientation is too complicated to explain in other terms... my romantic orientation is too complicated to explain in other terms... etc... But above all, I got tired having to defend my identity to ppl all the time. I felt that all other identities I had to somehow "prove" more of less and since I couldn't do that, I found that frustrating. But the term queer is harder to question. Why wouldn't I be queer? I don't know if anyone gets what I'm saying? __________________ "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear." Martin Luther King, Jr.

02-23-2011, 05:26 PM	#1
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02-23-2011, 05:51 PM	#2
rlin Member How Do You Identify?: human Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: nomad Posts: 712 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,450 Thanked 1,189 Times in 451 Posts Rep Power: 1004849	i was gay... then i was queer... lately i have moved to being a big ol homo... i love the look on peeps faces when i say it...

02-23-2011, 06:16 PM	#4
TickledPink Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Girly Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Miss Pink Relationship Status: Shacked UP Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The Holt-Mason Chateau Decherd/I'm a NashVegas Girl! Posts: 1,041 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 586 Thanked 1,996 Times in 606 Posts Rep Power: 9218476	Present.

02-23-2011, 09:19 PM	#8
weatherboi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Owned boy Preferred Pronoun?: Hey boy!!! Relationship Status: counting freckles slowly under Her direction!!! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: i have 2 sets of geographic coordinates!!! Posts: 6,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,797 Thanked 12,549 Times in 2,993 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	i never claimed queer...queer claimed me!!! i was born this way!!!

06-13-2012, 06:38 PM	#10
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	For me, coming around to claiming queer took a while, I only solidly claimed it about a couple of years ago. For years I would see the definition that Stacy posted and think "yeah that's alot of me". But Queer always carried a social stigma where I come from - the South. It always seemed like saying the N word or F*g word. Derrogatory somehow. But as my journey progressed, I am so diverse in my sexuality and presentation that no other labels truely fit me. I am bi-sexual, except I haven't been with a bio-male in over 17 years. But I didn't feel claiming Lesbian was proper, seemed misleading some. I present rather butch, but sexually am way more feminine. So I never felt quite right identifying as Butch, because I felt there were expectations that went along with that. (I am also evolving and learning that there are all kinds of butch.) I am attracted to all kinds and don't limit myself, so identifying as the opposite of what I prefer to date didn't work either. Then a couple of years ago, I dated Dixie and she identified as Queer. She's very unique in many, many ways and I liked the way she embraced it. So I thought, "I can do this too." So there you go.....I'm QUEER. Get to know me and you will learn all my diversities. A

02-24-2011, 03:44 AM	#13
Jomore Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He/hy Relationship Status: Ridiculous Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 13 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 0	Queer here! Can't explain me to myself let alone to you. What a joyous rollercoaster ride it's been. : __________________ Jo More ! Scholar/Poet/Lover/Warrior

02-24-2011, 07:55 AM	#14
EnderD_503 Member How Do You Identify?: Queer, trans guy, butch Preferred Pronoun?: Male pronouns Relationship Status: Relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,329 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,090 Thanked 3,878 Times in 1,022 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Queer is pretty much the only existing word I know of that comes close to describing my sexual orientation, lol. I've never been a lesbian (though I've always loved women ), but for some time I thought maybe I was some kind of heterosexual (since I am a guy that likes women). But that doesn't make sense to me. Even though I'm a guy who likes girls I don't feel that term fits me. I could see that fitting if I was into strictly dating straight girls like some transguys and male ids do, but considering that my preference is for queer femmes or femmes somewhere in the LGBT (or...I guess...LBT...Q? Technically? lol) spectrum...hetero doesn't make sense. Plus, who the hell is even properly heterosexual anymore? j/k

02-24-2011, 08:10 AM	#15
Stacy Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 475 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 396 Thanked 920 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 8450334	Good Morning Queers! I love poppin' in and seeing more names in this thread. I have a job interview today, and my queer ass is NERVOUS! Wish me luck and think good thoughts for me. It is for a job at the local women's shelter. My daughter works there, and I think it would suit me so well. So I'm off to shower and get ready. Be back later! Love & Peace yo! __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Suess http://i431.photobucket.com/albums/q...star_green.gif

04-06-2011, 06:28 PM	#19
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	I've had a lot of conversations about this, as being a lesbian with a boyfriend causes a few raised eyebrows y'know.. I don't ID as queer, though I assume I will one day.. it wasn't relevant in my former lesbian life. I am aware that Queer has a lot of history and value, probably as much as lesbian, and it would also be an umbrella my bf would be happy to stand under with me. One day I will make the switch, much like that fateful day when I decided I didn't need chocolate any more and began eating dried fruit instead. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

04-28-2011, 01:13 PM	#20
Captain Franki Junior Member How Do You Identify?: FAAB Genderqueer; Camp as Christmas; Utterly Confused; Pokemon Master Preferred Pronoun?: They or any other neutral pronoun Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 37 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 43 Times in 18 Posts Rep Power: 148639	I love queer. Queer is the only word that works for my sexuality, precisely because it's so murky. I used to consider myself straight. I think I was about 15 when I started considering the possibility I could be bicurious and for years hovered between describing myself as straight, bisexual or bicurious. I made huge announcmeents I'd retract later. I just had a nagging sense I had the possibility in me to be with a woman, despite the fact I loved boys. I obsessed over boys all the time and dated/slept with them exclusively. When I came to uni signed up to the lgbt society thinking it might help me somehow... but did nothing with that except get a card for cheap entry to gay clubs, then unrelated to this I made friends with a bunch of mostly gay men and became a fag hag going to gay clubs to dance in what i felt was a friendlier environment than most straight clubs. I pretty much ignored the lesbians. I don't know why. The lesbian world was just this giant impenetrable fortress to me and I had a bunch of misconceptions, and besides I hung out with the gay guys as a 'straight' friend. I tried to kiss a girl once, but I just failed miserably and gave up. Despite being on the surface straight I had a huge inexplicable obsession with gay places, people and related media. A bunch of ins and outs later, I finally figured out I was actually trans* and came out last year. As I began to explore my gender my attractions, sexuality and the words I used to describe it got more and more swirly until there was only one word that fit right - queer. For a mixture of reasons I've finally came across the queer crowd. Queer to me is part of the gay community, but also seperate. It's more radicalised. More accepting. I used to find the gay spaces friendly but now I consider myself trans and sexually queer, now i'm outside of the binary it feels controlling and less safe. To be fair... it's not always bad, and mostly better than straight spaces. I find the best places are those where there are a mix of liberal queers and liberal queer-friendly sorts. I think trans* is a huge part of what seperates queer from gay, along with bi/omni/pan sexualities and the ever-cliched 'open mind'. Queer is fierce. Queer says fuck, no I won't. Queer says we are the underdogs and proud. Queer says I'll do what I want but not at the expense of fucking over my neighbours. Queer means my current preference is not girls or boys but bois. It also means half my friends are vegans so I get the bacon all to myself. This was a really long life story.