Trans Men and Butches Raising Femme Daughters.

raising2alone · 02-28-2011, 12:54 AM

Hi all,

This is an awesome topic, I too have a daughter, even though she is only 2, she is decidely feminine. She has a twin brother so it's a balancing act most of the time to nurture them both in whatever direction the day takes them. I must say it has been very enlightening thus far. We all learned in school about nurture versus nature and what pushes our little ones. I have to say it is very much nature to this point. Since I have two seperate genders, I buy toys that they just want, no thought as to if it is a truck or doll. They have equal access to all of them and they have truly gravitated toward what society would consider "gender specific" toys. My daughter loves dolls and my son cars and trains. Being FtM, I have to be careful not to add my own bias when they are playing

. We all play with everything, from doll houses to trains, but left alone, they know what they prefer. My daughter is very nurturing and a caretaker and my son is a little self centered...ok, time for the ladies to chime in there...LOL.

Anyway, this will be a great thread to help me as my daughter ages and yes, she will travel many paths as will he and I am blessed already and will love them without judgement and totally unconditionally all of their lives. To me they were spiritual beings long before they came to this earth in their little bodies. I let them explore and ask questions already and they are little sponges.

I want to thank all of the women on here that will become role models if even through cyber space for my daughter as she continues to travel through her journey.....and my son as well. I do firmly believe it takes a village to raise a child so I need many villages

. (Also thanking everyone that will post, we can all learn from one another to be sure

).

Peace and blessings all....

02-28-2011, 12:54 AM	#15
raising2alone Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Name says it all Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Kansas Posts: 28 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5 Thanked 43 Times in 20 Posts Rep Power: 15142	Great advice Hi all, This is an awesome topic, I too have a daughter, even though she is only 2, she is decidely feminine. She has a twin brother so it's a balancing act most of the time to nurture them both in whatever direction the day takes them. I must say it has been very enlightening thus far. We all learned in school about nurture versus nature and what pushes our little ones. I have to say it is very much nature to this point. Since I have two seperate genders, I buy toys that they just want, no thought as to if it is a truck or doll. They have equal access to all of them and they have truly gravitated toward what society would consider "gender specific" toys. My daughter loves dolls and my son cars and trains. Being FtM, I have to be careful not to add my own bias when they are playing . We all play with everything, from doll houses to trains, but left alone, they know what they prefer. My daughter is very nurturing and a caretaker and my son is a little self centered...ok, time for the ladies to chime in there...LOL. Anyway, this will be a great thread to help me as my daughter ages and yes, she will travel many paths as will he and I am blessed already and will love them without judgement and totally unconditionally all of their lives. To me they were spiritual beings long before they came to this earth in their little bodies. I let them explore and ask questions already and they are little sponges. I want to thank all of the women on here that will become role models if even through cyber space for my daughter as she continues to travel through her journey.....and my son as well. I do firmly believe it takes a village to raise a child so I need many villages . (Also thanking everyone that will post, we can all learn from one another to be sure ). Peace and blessings all....