How to tell if she's into you...

justpjhere · 03-01-2011, 07:10 PM

id say when she shows up at in the morning on your day off with your favorite coffee and said i thought you might like coffee...lol

Koffeelvr · 08-11-2013, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by justpjhere

id say when she shows up at in the morning on your day off with your favorite coffee and said i thought you might like coffee...lol

If someone did this for me, I would be grinning all day long.

EmJay · 08-11-2013, 02:32 PM

It really sucks when you get all the right words.. But your left waiting for the actions to follow. Especially because all those perfect words make you want those actions so badly. *Heart is working hard to mend and try and move past this situation right now*

If you think telling a girl you are in to her, care for her, love her.. is the right thing to do, because you think that's what she wants to hear.. You are wrong. You just mess with our mind, and our heart.. And it hurts more in the end than just being straight up and saying your not for me.

^^^ that is what makes it sooo damn hard to tell if someone is really in to you or not.. Took me time to figure it out, longer than I would have hoped for.. But at least I get it now. Maybe it's not even that it is hard to tell.. Maybe sometimes you know it, but you just don't want to accept the truth.

homoe · 12-23-2018, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by justpjhere

id say when she shows up at in the morning on your day off with your favorite coffee and said i thought you might like coffee...lol

If this happens and you're not sure if she's into you, you're beyond a 2 x 4 !

Bèsame* · 12-24-2018, 08:37 AM

when she flies across many states to kiss you💋💋

Esme nha Maire · 12-24-2018, 08:47 AM

If anyone figures out how to tell if someone is really into you, please let me know! I am TERRIBLE at telling such things, unless a person is really obvious about it.. On one occasion, someone was trying to chat me up for a solid half hour before my then partner rescued me - she and her friend had been having bets as to how long it'd take before I twigged!

Martina · 12-24-2018, 09:22 AM

It's not always possible to tell. If they ask you out for coffee, it's a good bet. If you're still not sure, ask them. Say are you interested in dating or are you looking for new friends? Dating ain't for the meek.

Chad · 12-24-2018, 11:02 AM

Yes, this is hard especially when dealing with femmes not from this site. I have a lunch date planned with a young lady that I met out in the world. I am a little scared. There will be that uncomfortable discussion about sex that I am not looking forward to. It is so much easier with ladies from this site because we all know were we stand.

Vincent · 12-24-2018, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Martina

It's not always possible to tell. If they ask you out for coffee, it's a good bet. If you're still not sure, ask them. Say are you interested in dating or are you looking for new friends? Dating ain't for the meek.

Yep
I'm with you,I'm just up front,either way.
My main question these days is "am I into her?"
as Mama Cass said "unrequited loves a bore"

WheatToast · 12-28-2018, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Vincent

Yep
I'm with you,I'm just up front,either way.
My main question these days is "am I into her?
as Mama Cass said "unrequited loves a bore"

The longer I've been dating women, the less accurately I can read cues.
Sometimes I think I'm getting hit on, then she'll mention her wife or girlfriend. Other times someone may be sending me huge signals and I'm oblivious.
I was in an art supply store the other night and ran into a young salesclerk who usually only works weekends. She acted really glad to see me, and she even came from around the counter to hug me.
I always figured she was straight, so her enthusiasm for me didn't register at first. Then when she asked her male sales associate to take a pic of us, she sort of glued the side of her body up against mine. I said, "God, what's next, a boob grab?"
By the time the flash lit, her right hand was firmly attached to my left breast--and she held it there for a few more beats after the picture was taken.

I still didn't catch on!!

By the time she asked for my number and suggested we get together so we could "compare art," it dawned on me that she may have been dropping hints.

Too bad she's half my age.

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Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,284 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	It's not always possible to tell. If they ask you out for coffee, it's a good bet. If you're still not sure, ask them. Say are you interested in dating or are you looking for new friends? Dating ain't for the meek. __________________ "No matter how cynical I get, I just can't keep up" - Lily Tomlin

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08-11-2013, 02:32 PM	#3
EmJay Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Canada Posts: 124 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 338 Thanked 447 Times in 96 Posts Rep Power: 3970856	It really sucks when you get all the right words.. But your left waiting for the actions to follow. Especially because all those perfect words make you want those actions so badly. Heart is working hard to mend and try and move past this situation right now If you think telling a girl you are in to her, care for her, love her.. is the right thing to do, because you think that's what she wants to hear.. You are wrong. You just mess with our mind, and our heart.. And it hurts more in the end than just being straight up and saying your not for me. ^^^ that is what makes it sooo damn hard to tell if someone is really in to you or not.. Took me time to figure it out, longer than I would have hoped for.. But at least I get it now. Maybe it's not even that it is hard to tell.. Maybe sometimes you know it, but you just don't want to accept the truth.