For the T-Femmes and SOFFAs...

[julieisafemme]

Originally Posted by apretty

for those of you that identify as 't-femmes'--what was that process from xyz/femme/human to t-femme (assuming you weren't born t-femme)?

and do you/your partners ever feel that your 'trans'-based identity is fetish/objectification/dehumanizing?

I don't think this is a bad question. Bit I am not sure why this offends you. At the conference I went to there was a big discussion on "tranny chasing" and fetishizing of trans men and women. I don't think someone who identifies as a transsensual femme is objectifying transmen but I think how I feel about it not as important as how a transman or woman would feel. I was really upset that there was not a place for me to explore these questions. Because I have always been attracted to people who straddle gender. To me that can be butch or trans.