what NOT to do in a relationship.......

girl_dee · 04-01-2011, 09:58 AM

Never repeat the same words you used in the last relationship. This goes along with bringing up the ex over and over.

Never allow the ex and your partner to become buddy, buddy unless you have been very very honest.

Never Allow yourself to be unhappy, life is too short.

Soft*Silver · 04-01-2011, 12:22 PM

unlike old folklore, what is mine is not yours.

Legendryder · 04-01-2011, 12:28 PM

Do not talk about your ex. Period. Unless you are directly asked, then keep it short and honest. There is nothing worse than hearing about who you have replaced. Especially if it is all bad. It makes me think you get off talking down about people. Big turn off.

AtLast · 04-01-2011, 12:38 PM

Think it isn't such a big deal she doesn't care for dogs at the same level as you do. BIG MISTAKE!!

girl_dee · 04-01-2011, 12:58 PM

don't care more about what's going on online than your real life.

AtLast · 04-01-2011, 01:20 PM

Lying is not a good way to build trust....

girl_dee · 04-01-2011, 01:27 PM

Very good one AtLast.

How about not explaining the whole truth or sugar coating yourself? The truth will come out and it's never pretty when it does.

Soft*Silver · 04-01-2011, 01:32 PM

sometimes people lie to themselves and we just get caught up in it. I know I got caught up in in the past and I wasnt on guard enough to catch it. I wanted to be in love. I put blinders on. So I say we also need to take our blinders off and look good and hard at what people do as well as what they say and take time to make sure they are what they say they are..and time is the only fool proof measure of words....and its often the one thing we dont want to give in a relationship when we want to fall in love....

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Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Lying is not a good way to build trust....

Soft*Silver · 04-01-2011, 01:30 PM

I dont care if someone doesnt care about horses as much as I do...but never again will I let someone dangle horses in front of me like a carrot. As soon as I see that, when I know they dont have a snit of ability or interest of their own, fuckem. Me, myself, and I are the only ones who will ever give me horses again. Because that way no one but me will ever be able to take them away from me...no one, not no how is going to do THAT again to me EVER again...

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Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Think it isn't such a big deal she doesn't care for dogs at the same level as you do. BIG MISTAKE!!

Diva · 04-01-2011, 02:50 PM

~Be thoughtful.
~Be considerate of my heart.

wolfbittenpoet · 04-01-2011, 02:56 PM

Do not expect every transguy to be the same.
Every human in this world is different don't act like we aren't.

Apocalipstic · 04-01-2011, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by wolfbittenpoet

Do not expect every transguy to be the same.
Every human in this world is different don't act like we aren't.

Do not expect every Femme, Butch, Human to be the same either. Indeed we are all different. Some of us wayyy different. lol.

AtLast · 04-01-2011, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Do not expect every Femme, Butch, Human to be the same either. Indeed we are all different. Some of us wayyy different. lol.

Thank you! Why would this only apply to trans folks?

Best to leave prior lovers/partners personalities and misgivings in the past and focus on who is before you now. What does gender have to do with this?

04-01-2011, 12:22 PM	#2
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04-01-2011, 09:58 AM	#1
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04-01-2011, 12:28 PM	#3
Legendryder Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Queen City, MO Posts: 420 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14 Thanked 969 Times in 261 Posts Rep Power: 7270132	Do not talk about your ex. Period. Unless you are directly asked, then keep it short and honest. There is nothing worse than hearing about who you have replaced. Especially if it is all bad. It makes me think you get off talking down about people. Big turn off.

04-01-2011, 12:38 PM	#4
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04-01-2011, 12:58 PM	#5
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	don't care more about what's going on online than your real life.

04-01-2011, 01:20 PM	#6
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Lying is not a good way to build trust....

04-01-2011, 01:27 PM	#7
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