what NOT to do in a relationship.......

JustJo · 04-13-2011, 07:41 AM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Don't keep talking about your ex for Goddess sake! I would like to respect that relationship but if you keeping bringing them up it no longer appears you are over it!

And really do try to get over that one before you get into the next one....it isn't fair to either person to have an invisible third person in the relationship.

Remember that the opposite of love isn't hate....it's indifference. If you have emotions tied up with the ex, and can't be indifferent to their actions....then you aren't really over them yet.

AtLast · 04-13-2011, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by JustJo

And really do try to get over that one before you get into the next one....it isn't fair to either person to have an invisible third person in the relationship.

Remember that the opposite of love isn't hate....it's indifference. If you have emotions tied up with the ex, and can't be indifferent to their actions....then you aren't really over them yet.

Yup! Deal & heal before moving on! I am not going to help you work through your last relationship and I don't want to be compared to an ex. Be good to yourself and take some time before dating again and pursuing someone else seriously.

Duchess · 04-13-2011, 07:30 PM

Don't cheat or play people. The shit will eventually hit the fan.

Duchess

Jess · 04-13-2011, 07:41 PM

I have done so many "NOTS" that I am still looking for the "what TO do in a relationship" thread...

The only thing I know for sure NOT to do, is...

Do NOT think for a minute that anything is the same as any past relationship. Every day and every event is new and just because past experiences had (A) result, this new one is completely different and may have (B) result.

Trying open-mindedness is always the best answer for me regarding relationships. That... and faith.

Good luck folks!

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Jess

I have done so many "NOTS" that I am still looking for the "what TO do in a relationship" thread...

Good luck folks!

OK I'll start a thread

Duchess · 04-13-2011, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

OK I'll start a thread

YAYYYYY!!!! Hey Sassy baby.

Soft*Silver · 04-13-2011, 08:25 PM

dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....

Diva · 04-13-2011, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by softness

dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....

May I just say, "WORD."?

girl_dee · 04-14-2011, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by softness

dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....

I cannot tell you how true this is! Why do people think their partner deserves anything less that first on the list? You can have all of these others in your life but when you put their needs before your partner's needs, you royally just screwed up. It sends a message "You are not important to me"

Random · 04-14-2011, 07:54 AM

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Originally Posted by softness

dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....

Could you elaborate on what you mean by this?

What I'm reading is that your partner needs to come before yourself?

I'm just wondering, because the way that I look at it.. Making any relationship more important than the relationship you have with yourself doesn't sound very healthy. People can come and go... You always have yourself.

msW8ing · 04-14-2011, 11:49 PM

Don't go into the relationship thinking " I can change this or that" . For Goddess sake. You fell in love with them for who they are (positives and negatives) NOT for what you think they should be.

foxyshaman · 05-06-2011, 10:54 AM

Don't EVER EVER turn your head from your "joyful ministrations" when you hear the crack of a well hit baseball during a game in the world series. Nope don't ever do that <again>.

Guy · 05-06-2011, 08:45 PM

Don't assume the worst, and secondly, just don't assume

Chazz · 05-07-2011, 03:30 PM

Don't sell her blood without telling her.

05-07-2011, 03:58 PM

Don't, whatever you do, decant lube from that industrial sized bottle into a smaller one that looks exactly like the bottle of antiseptic handwash that also lives on the bedside table...She really won't thank you!

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