What TO DO in a relationship.....

Soft*Silver · 04-13-2011, 08:28 PM

I disagree. I have to sometimes have time to process. I need a night for my internal soul to talk it out to my silly self. I actually wake up and understand it all and can work it out at the breakfast table with smoothness. But I need that night to process in my sleep....

Quote:

Originally Posted by wolfbittenpoet

Take every moment as a gift. Never go to bed angry.

Queerasfck · 04-13-2011, 08:31 PM

Bathe regularly.

Soft*Silver · 04-13-2011, 08:39 PM

never make tv the only thing that stays on in the bedroom

keep alcohol and drugs to a minimum in regard to intimacy. Its an issue if its the only way you can face being who you are and being with who you are with (meaning, the same sex)

keep your own house clean. I mean that literally. I dont want to hear one more time about how bad a butch is about keeping up a house. Bullshit. I am not interested in becoming someone's house slave and then having a white glove judgement determine my femininity. You want me to keep your sink clean? Show me how well you keep it clean yourself. Tit for tat.

if you plan on loving me, dont tell me later you didnt understand what I meant when i said I love horses and big dogs. At this point in my life, that is grounds for skinning you alive and wearing you for chaps (oh wait..is this one for the other thread?)

justkim · 04-13-2011, 09:00 PM

Create together...
Date nights...
Dance in the living room...
Prepare meals together...
Remember it is okay to disagree but it doesn't need to turn into a full on war...
If you find talking about something hard right a letter...
Notes...
Appreciate the person you are with...
Respect one another...
Remember that every day isn't always a good day and that is okay...
The little things...
They matter...

bright_arrow · 04-13-2011, 10:09 PM

Sing your favorite songs together

Take long drives
Be considerate of each others thoughts and feelings
Share your thoughts and feelings
Be honest
Don't use their past against them
Schedule at-home date nights, cook dinner together and then cuddle and watch a movie
Buy flowers
Never go to bed angry
Kiss in the morning, before bed, and as many times as you can in between
Hold hands in public
Always ask them how their day was, and honestly and sincerely listen
Laugh
Love with an open heart
Don't be afraid to take a chance
Understand the difference between needing them and being needy
Dance along to the radio
Have some alone time away from home (cabin on the lake, camping)

04-13-2011, 08:31 PM	#2
Queerasfck Senior Member How Do You Identify?: still ballin' Relationship Status: Triple X Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west side Posts: 2,544 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,716 Thanked 6,488 Times in 1,638 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Bathe regularly. __________________ http://www.advertisingarchives.co.uk...28750fb328.jpg

04-13-2011, 08:39 PM	#3
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	other than the basics of love respect honesty... never make tv the only thing that stays on in the bedroom keep alcohol and drugs to a minimum in regard to intimacy. Its an issue if its the only way you can face being who you are and being with who you are with (meaning, the same sex) keep your own house clean. I mean that literally. I dont want to hear one more time about how bad a butch is about keeping up a house. Bullshit. I am not interested in becoming someone's house slave and then having a white glove judgement determine my femininity. You want me to keep your sink clean? Show me how well you keep it clean yourself. Tit for tat. if you plan on loving me, dont tell me later you didnt understand what I meant when i said I love horses and big dogs. At this point in my life, that is grounds for skinning you alive and wearing you for chaps (oh wait..is this one for the other thread?) __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

04-13-2011, 09:00 PM	#4
justkim Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Relationship Status: <3 myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 2,023 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,062 Thanked 6,799 Times in 1,553 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Create together... Date nights... Dance in the living room... Prepare meals together... Remember it is okay to disagree but it doesn't need to turn into a full on war... If you find talking about something hard right a letter... Notes... Appreciate the person you are with... Respect one another... Remember that every day isn't always a good day and that is okay... The little things... They matter...

04-13-2011, 10:09 PM	#5
bright_arrow ☆ the stars are aligned ☆ How Do You Identify?: one queer mama Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: married to my Boo Daddy <3 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: nor cal Posts: 2,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,644 Thanked 9,363 Times in 2,296 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Sing your favorite songs together Take long drives Be considerate of each others thoughts and feelings Share your thoughts and feelings Be honest Don't use their past against them Schedule at-home date nights, cook dinner together and then cuddle and watch a movie Buy flowers Never go to bed angry Kiss in the morning, before bed, and as many times as you can in between Hold hands in public Always ask them how their day was, and honestly and sincerely listen Laugh Love with an open heart Don't be afraid to take a chance Understand the difference between needing them and being needy Dance along to the radio Have some alone time away from home (cabin on the lake, camping)