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Old 04-14-2011, 04:38 PM   #1
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I moved in with MBE. I have stuff, but not really a TON of stuff.

Our styles are similar. Due to not having enough space, stuff is kinda everywhere. We are slowly working on that.

We have two spare rooms. One will serve as a playroom/office/guest room. The other will be the scrapbooking room. MBE likes to scrapbook. So, that room will have that, and I will organize my art supplies somewhere. It's possible I have a couple plastic 5 drawer tubs, or something like that in the living room to put my projects in. I don't like having them EVERYWHERE, but I also don't like having to go hunt for them.

When we add to our family, it's likely that the scrapbooking stuff will move to our bedroom. I'm hoping to put in cabinets with doors for storage. Lots of them.

We are just recently beginning to seriously talk about how to renovate the house. Within the next year or so, we want to move, but we also know work needs to be done before we can consider selling the house.
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This is a really interesting thread as I'm not sure how me and the missus are going to ever live together.

I'm a minimalist and like everything really tidy and in order, she is a hoarder and messy and disorganised.

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Lots of multi-purpose furniture. Buffets, dressers, bookshelves, china cabinets.
June has good ideas here. Also, if space allows, give her one room to put whatever she wants in it however she wants it. Mesh the rest of your stuff (kitchen utensils, books, clothes in the closets, etc) however you see fit, but give her that space.

And. Don't. Go. In. There.

It would drive you bonkers. BUT if you've meshed your stuff and she has a room of all her stuff and she still has more stuff, that's the line. She needs to pick and choose and get rid of whatever won't fit.

This is coming from someone who keeps a LOT of stuff, btw. Sometimes you just have to let go.
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Our life together looks very different today than it did 5 years ago.

5 years ago, Jack and I were just moving in together and each of us had a lot of "stuff". I had tons of books and clothes, random kitchenware, and lots of random decorative stuff. She had lots of "mantiques" and odd pieces of furniture (some of it hideous, some of it awesome).

As we moved in and started unpacking the crates together, it became clear to both of us that we had similar tastes but that we had way too much of everything. I think for the first year, we purged a little but mostly kept 80% of the stuff we had each brought with us.

Now, I look up and see a house that is filled with things that we have picked out together. Really the only pieces of furniture that we have in this entire house that we have not acquired together are the couch and loveseat and a vintage chaise from the 60s. Every single other piece of furniture in this house was purchased or found by both of us, from the mattresses on the beds to the barstools. I kinda love that. It looks like "us" in here and not "Jackhammer over there and Medusa over here".

We still have lots of decorative things that we each brought in to the relationship and have displayed our favorite pieces in the library. Slowly over the years we have cleared out the things that we only kinda loved in favor of keeping the things we really loved. It works for us!
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