Social anxiety disorder.

Rockinonahigh · 04-26-2011, 10:33 PM

Hello and wellcome to the planet,U will find all kinds of prople to be hear as u take the steps u need to take,we have agreat bunch of folks who are very diversed.
Some years ago I was injured in an accident wich left me pretty much home bound,I had had injuries before that I got over and went on my merry way.Not so this one,over the months of getting well I made my home and yard all I needed to have,at first it was for conveneance but gradualy I just didnt go anywhere I didnt have to go.Most people in my life just faded away so socialy I was in limbo.When I was ready to go back to work the idea of leaveing my house sent me into a tailspin..it was then I realised how home bound I had become and it wasnt cause of my injury anymore.Me the over achiver who has never been afraid of nothing couldnt get out the frount door without a panic attack..I could not beleave it.I made myself take one step at the time and over the time I did go back to work,have a social life and make plands for the future.Just take those baby steps right along with a deep breath and u will make it..oh and ist ok to sometimes take a back step just to check out where you have been...just keep takeing forward steps.

Goo · 04-29-2011, 06:41 AM

Welcome and I completely understand where you're coming from...I have S.A.D as well...Walmart and big chain stores are a panic attack waiting to happen.

Usually, when I do have to go to those kinds of stores, I have a bottle of Ativan in my pocket, so that way it nips it in the butt when it does happen.

Medusa · 04-29-2011, 06:47 AM

He Ledisko!

I think it's a healthy and wise move to do some interacting on a social forum such as this. While it can help insulate you from the real world if you choose an internet forum over live interactions, I think it can also help you find your voice, maybe give a little nudge into the "this isnt so scary"
direction.

I applaud you!!

Andrew, Jr. · 04-29-2011, 06:52 AM

I get you, Ledisko, I have that disorder too. It is tough.

Namaste,
Andrew

EnderD_503 · 04-29-2011, 06:58 AM

Welcome, and I kind of get where you're coming from. I don't feel it on the internet or large, noisey public places. As long as there's a commotion I'm good, it's more a fear of having "all eyes" on me in a quiet environment. It's mostly at people's houses or places where I can't leave without detection or potential embarrassment should I feel anxious or sick or something. I get a lot of sharp stomach pains/nausea accompanying the shortness of breath because of it, which sucks.

julieisafemme · 04-29-2011, 05:00 PM

Hi ledisko. I also have SAD but have improved greatly in the last 5 years with cognitive behavioral therapy and meds. I still get very shy around people I do not know. I hate parties with a passion. It comes and goes.

Welcome here to the Planet. I love interacting here and learning from people!

Nat · 04-29-2011, 05:40 PM

Welcome

I hope you enjoy your time here. It seems to me that anxiety is like a slip-knot. Not sure if that makes sense, but it seems to me like this cycle of making my world smaller to alleviate my anxiety, which works - but where the price is that my world gets smaller. It just seems like the anxiety tightens when I try to appease it. I used to be a social person, but I dread social interaction more and more. When I go to the grocery store or the gym or the laundry, I often find myself sitting outside in my van for a long time before I go inside. Sometimes I just go back home. I don't know when it happened - in fits and starts I guess over the last few years. Depression used to be my main schtick, but now anxiety has become at least as big an issue in my own life. I post here, I read here, but I don't interact so much anymore. I am about to spend about 24 hours with friends and going to a large event, and I don't feel up to it. Thankfully I have benzos which I will be taking. I try not to take them too often for fear they will stop working or that I will become addicted. But to endure being around both friends and strangers, I will be making use of them.

bigbutchmistie · 04-30-2011, 05:50 PM

I struggle a lot. I love my job and feel fine in that environment. However I won't go somewhere alone like a restaurant a movie etc makes me panic a lot. When I go to.the club I'm a people watcher. I'm not a dancer and tend to just watch people. For me to approach a femme well that's only happened a few times in my life.

I am extremely shy in person with new people I tend to meet people from online. It makes it easier. This is a daily battle

04-29-2011, 06:41 AM	#2
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04-29-2011, 06:47 AM	#3
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04-29-2011, 05:00 PM	#6
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04-29-2011, 05:40 PM	#7
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender (DID System) Preferred Pronoun?: he/him or alter-specific Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Central TX Posts: 3,537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,047 Thanked 13,968 Times in 2,589 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Welcome I hope you enjoy your time here. It seems to me that anxiety is like a slip-knot. Not sure if that makes sense, but it seems to me like this cycle of making my world smaller to alleviate my anxiety, which works - but where the price is that my world gets smaller. It just seems like the anxiety tightens when I try to appease it. I used to be a social person, but I dread social interaction more and more. When I go to the grocery store or the gym or the laundry, I often find myself sitting outside in my van for a long time before I go inside. Sometimes I just go back home. I don't know when it happened - in fits and starts I guess over the last few years. Depression used to be my main schtick, but now anxiety has become at least as big an issue in my own life. I post here, I read here, but I don't interact so much anymore. I am about to spend about 24 hours with friends and going to a large event, and I don't feel up to it. Thankfully I have benzos which I will be taking. I try not to take them too often for fear they will stop working or that I will become addicted. But to endure being around both friends and strangers, I will be making use of them. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

04-26-2011, 10:33 PM	#1
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Hello and wellcome to the planet,U will find all kinds of prople to be hear as u take the steps u need to take,we have agreat bunch of folks who are very diversed. Some years ago I was injured in an accident wich left me pretty much home bound,I had had injuries before that I got over and went on my merry way.Not so this one,over the months of getting well I made my home and yard all I needed to have,at first it was for conveneance but gradualy I just didnt go anywhere I didnt have to go.Most people in my life just faded away so socialy I was in limbo.When I was ready to go back to work the idea of leaveing my house sent me into a tailspin..it was then I realised how home bound I had become and it wasnt cause of my injury anymore.Me the over achiver who has never been afraid of nothing couldnt get out the frount door without a panic attack..I could not beleave it.I made myself take one step at the time and over the time I did go back to work,have a social life and make plands for the future.Just take those baby steps right along with a deep breath and u will make it..oh and ist ok to sometimes take a back step just to check out where you have been...just keep takeing forward steps.

04-29-2011, 06:52 AM	#4
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	I get you, Ledisko, I have that disorder too. It is tough. Namaste, Andrew

04-29-2011, 06:58 AM	#5
EnderD_503 Member How Do You Identify?: Queer, trans guy, butch Preferred Pronoun?: Male pronouns Relationship Status: Relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,329 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,090 Thanked 3,879 Times in 1,022 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Welcome, and I kind of get where you're coming from. I don't feel it on the internet or large, noisey public places. As long as there's a commotion I'm good, it's more a fear of having "all eyes" on me in a quiet environment. It's mostly at people's houses or places where I can't leave without detection or potential embarrassment should I feel anxious or sick or something. I get a lot of sharp stomach pains/nausea accompanying the shortness of breath because of it, which sucks.

04-30-2011, 05:50 PM	#8
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I struggle a lot. I love my job and feel fine in that environment. However I won't go somewhere alone like a restaurant a movie etc makes me panic a lot. When I go to.the club I'm a people watcher. I'm not a dancer and tend to just watch people. For me to approach a femme well that's only happened a few times in my life. I am extremely shy in person with new people I tend to meet people from online. It makes it easier. This is a daily battle