Sexual Orientation......Who does or does not have one?

[Chazz]

Originally Posted by Lynn

I don't mind labels, as long as I get to pick my own, based on what they mean to me.

I'm perfectly comfortable with lesbian. I'd say that lesbian really fits me. Dyke is OK, too. I'm attracted to women, especially women who are more masculine and who are comfortable with that in themselves. I love butches, but I wouldn't say that I have embraced the identity of "femme."

I tend to label as butch identified, and sexual. Although I am pegged as "masculine" by everyone, I prefer to identify as "butch" when the situation allows because I am not male identified.

Saying I'm butch-identified provides an opportunity to dispel, the still pervasive myth, that all butches are "male-wannabes". That exact term has been repeated to me so often (most recently at dating sites) by straight and bi women, AND LESBIANS, I clarify at first contact. It's surprising how many people see still confuse gender-presentation with gender identification