For those for whom Mother's Day is not a Good Day

JustJo · 05-03-2011, 10:22 AM

My mother is alive, but Mother's Day is still one I prefer to ignore.

Yes, I'll call her and wish her a happy Mother's Day, but it's almost painful to do, and it's out of responsibility and to set an example for my son rather than any genuine feeling.

I was not ever "mothered" by anyone...and, as a mother, I find myself making it up as I go along.

Difficult day that pushes all kinds of buttons for me.

justkim · 05-03-2011, 11:11 AM

Being a mommy has been my greatest joy and my biggest heartache...
I came back home to help my parents and in the process I am watching my mother slowly slip away...
Mother's Days are hard for many of us for various reasons...
My daughter will be 24 this year...
My own mother has NEVER acknowledge the fact that I am a mother myself...
This year I am certain it will be no different...

MsTinkerbelly, you will make it through this... You are a strong and wonderful women... She is smiling down on you and applauding all of your accomplishments...

For those who will struggle with this day... You can and will make it through...For I am sure that somewhere there is someone who looks at you and says... I wish she was my mom... I wish she was my daughter...

Diva · 05-03-2011, 11:35 AM

I'm a very strong woman, but Mother's Day can bring me to my knees.....and often does.

But, as I told Ms. T, living through it beats the alternative.

So I am hoping my daughter will spend some time with me, but I doubt that she will, as she will probably be working. It's a big day in the restaurant biz.

My Mom has been gone for 12 Mother's Days now....and I've missed her every day.....she was the most perfect and sweet~spirited woman I have ever known.

So would I love to enjoy a "normal" Mother's Day? Breakfast in bed? Taken to lunch? Goofy presents with "Mom" written all over them? Sure.......it's a dream of mine.

I had almost forgotten that Mother's Day was soon approaching.

05-03-2011, 10:22 AM	#1
JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,406 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	My mother is alive, but Mother's Day is still one I prefer to ignore. Yes, I'll call her and wish her a happy Mother's Day, but it's almost painful to do, and it's out of responsibility and to set an example for my son rather than any genuine feeling. I was not ever "mothered" by anyone...and, as a mother, I find myself making it up as I go along. Difficult day that pushes all kinds of buttons for me. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

05-03-2011, 11:11 AM	#2
justkim Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Relationship Status: <3 myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 2,023 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,062 Thanked 6,799 Times in 1,553 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Being a mommy has been my greatest joy and my biggest heartache... I came back home to help my parents and in the process I am watching my mother slowly slip away... Mother's Days are hard for many of us for various reasons... My daughter will be 24 this year... My own mother has NEVER acknowledge the fact that I am a mother myself... This year I am certain it will be no different... MsTinkerbelly, you will make it through this... You are a strong and wonderful women... She is smiling down on you and applauding all of your accomplishments... For those who will struggle with this day... You can and will make it through...For I am sure that somewhere there is someone who looks at you and says... I wish she was my mom... I wish she was my daughter... __________________ Kim "A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success." - Unknown -

05-03-2011, 11:35 AM	#3
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm a very strong woman, but Mother's Day can bring me to my knees.....and often does. But, as I told Ms. T, living through it beats the alternative. So I am hoping my daughter will spend some time with me, but I doubt that she will, as she will probably be working. It's a big day in the restaurant biz. My Mom has been gone for 12 Mother's Days now....and I've missed her every day.....she was the most perfect and sweet~spirited woman I have ever known. So would I love to enjoy a "normal" Mother's Day? Breakfast in bed? Taken to lunch? Goofy presents with "Mom" written all over them? Sure.......it's a dream of mine. I had almost forgotten that Mother's Day was soon approaching.