For those for whom Mother's Day is not a Good Day

[Bard]

just want to clarify my Dad has been married 5 times now Jenn is the one her married when I was in high school and not living with him the one before her saw to that and I had been sent to the grandparents then to a foster home.. Jenn was more guiding to me as an Adult she let me come to her and has shown me so much in fact she gave me my father back... when my mother died I was sent to live with my dad and step # 4 I was told to call her MOM and she was one who never had kinds or wanted them I was a troubled kid with a lot of baggage and Damage she dealt with me by using a jockey whip enough said..

Funny thing is that I have found that my friends mothers have always tried to mother me like they know I am with out if that makes sence

Originally Posted by Bard

Mothers Day was a day I grew up hating my mom died when I was 9 and even before that I never thought she wanted me. I grew more and more bitter after my Momie2 ( the woman who raised me) passed away.. but I finally have come to see that my own mother LOVED me so much that she did what she thought was the best thing for me and that was never to get close to me because she knew how screwed up she was when she died in a drunk driving accident, she drove off a cliff I was ok my big brother on the other hand was a mess.. I think she knew in her heart that she was not able to mother me and so she found Mommie2 to take care of me , and that was a great gift.. now that I am a mother I see it differently and I also have been blessed with a amazing step mother who is a wonderful lady and mother because she did not have to be.. she came into my life when I was 15 and has been a rock for me I still have a twinge on mothers day I wonder if my mom would be proud of me and how I turned out but I know my Dad and Jenn sure are

[Ms. Meander]

For some reason, I was confused and thought last Sunday was Mother's Day. I spent 2 -3 days having an emotional reaction, until I discovered my mistake.

My initial reaction was, "oh great, now I have to go through this all over again next week!".

Then: I had a good laugh at myself.

Although my reasons for sadness are quite valid, I had a good look at the power suggestion, and the ability of my mind to take my feelings on a twisted ride. I see now that I need not have another hard weekend because of this. I have acknowledged my struggle to myself and others, felt my feelings, and come back to my strong center.

I plan to spend the real Mother's Day doing something nourishing for myself (or in a frenzy if I have not yet finished the paper due the next day!) and appreciating all that I am blessed with.

[Bard]

I want to thank Ruthie for starting this even as it was hard to post in it to say out loud what I felt for years but it felt good and it has me thinking about the mother I want to be to my goose.. I just never ever want her to doubt my love and support for her.. I remember when she was born Jenn asked me what we would have the goose call her as I cal her Jenn I told her she was Grandma and tok the time to tell her what I never had how even though it came after I was 22 I finally had a mother Her.. I just wish I would have taken advantage of that whan ahe first came into my life but I did not trust and she never pushed..
On a side note on FB right now many of my friends are posting to put a picture of your mom as your profile pict I so have had to bit back from putting snarkky replys yes I still have issues and anger BUT my neice is on my FB and to my big brother our mother was a saint and I wont hurt him lke that
be well all
and may you have peace

[Diva]

My youngest (not-so-young anymore!) child called me as I was dozing off last night to tell me that I was not to plan anything for Sunday, that I was her's that day! lol

<doing happy Mom dance>

[Apocalipstic]

I like the idea of nourishing myself this Mother's Day. I think Mommie would have liked that.

[scootebaby]

we are spending Mothers Day at Magic Kingdom this yr.......guess thats a good way to celebrate with our boys!

i have a hard time doing things for my mom on mothers day...getting a card especially...wanting it thank her for giving me birth(bc without her i wouldnt have been here to give birth to my son) but not going overboard on fake sentiment.....does anyone else have that issue?

[MaggieBluIze]

So ... Mother's Day is fast approaching and I was dreading it, greatly ...
I just heard from a very dear and sweet friend that they took a vacation day off for Sunday just so they can make it a fun, interesting, and NOT depressing day for me ... I am so very blessed. My family and my friends have been a true blessing in my life that I am so very thankful for. I will miss my daughter horribly, but will not let it destroy a day that will be filled with friendship, laughs, caring and love.

[ruthie14]

Andrew.. Came on today to bump this thread only to find you already had! THANKS soooo much!

This weekend is proving harder than I thought it would be. Keeping busy with friends. Went out last night and a lesbian couple I know brought out thier baby girl. Tiny little thing. Sweet as can be. Held her for a while and was ok at that time, but now all I can think about is why did God forget about me. I teach 1 years olds everyday.... see more neglect than I care to think about . I believe in God, but He is gonna have to fill me in on this decision of His when I see Him.

Step children still not talking to me. I expect no phone call or card to come from anyone. I have mothered hundreds in my life, yet mother to no one. Breaks my heart.

I will go out today to the farmers market I love which just opened for the season today. Get my nails done. Then go to a friends house for the Kentucky derby.

Tomorrow I will have to put up a good front for my Mom.. stiff upper lip. Smile as my heart is breaking. I will do my best... hopefully it will be good enough.