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Old 05-20-2011, 11:23 PM   #1
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Wooo hooo, keep it up quitters!! Heh, that sounds funny to say!

This past Tuesday I hit the 8 week mark of not smoking. Not one cigarette...have not caved in like I thought I would! I almost had one last night because I had some drama yesterday that made me want to blow my top, but I didn't do it. I had a cigarette in my hand. (a friend was over for a glass of wine on the patio and to listen to me vent...she had smokes with her.) I handed it back to her. I decided that the one stirring up the drama does NOT get the power to make me cave in to smoking again!!

I think I have gotten past or over a huge hurdle!
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On day five....

I've noticed these things....

I can certainly smell smoke now. Even in a store today i smelled it on someone that was standing next to me.

I believe, even though i'm using the E-ciggs, i am in withdrawal. I am not exactly myself....a little more jumpy, a little less patience, a little bit of a "down" feeling. I'm not PMSin...so i'll blame it on the ciggs.

I'm hanging in there though and i know i can do this.

This time is THE time.

Keep up the good work all!!!!!!!!!! Those of you weeks, months, years you blow me away....so very PROUD OF YOU!!!!!
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On day five....

I've noticed these things....

I can certainly smell smoke now. Even in a store today i smelled it on someone that was standing next to me.

I believe, even though i'm using the E-ciggs, i am in withdrawal. I am not exactly myself....a little more jumpy, a little less patience, a little bit of a "down" feeling. I'm not PMSin...so i'll blame it on the ciggs.

I'm hanging in there though and i know i can do this.

This time is THE time.

Keep up the good work all!!!!!!!!!! Those of you weeks, months, years you blow me away....so very PROUD OF YOU!!!!!

Congrats!!!
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That's brilliant Just_G, well done for not caving and having a cig, once you've got over that hump you know you can deal with stress without resorting to cigs again....it's great when you see the weeks of being nicotine free build up too huh? There comes a time where you even forget how long it is. I remember my quit date but lost track of the weeks at about month 9.

Woohooo princessbelle, go you! Stick in there you really can do it. Keep us posted on progress



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One week today. I no longer have any ciggs in my house. My ashtrays are now all cleaned and put away.


These are things that i still struggle at the end of week one....
Still want a cigg but not near as much as i did last week.
Every once in a while have that "panic" feeling of OMG i dont' have any ciggs in the house.
The "habit" after eating, drinking coffee, driving is still aching in there.
Still getting the nicotine from the E-cigg but it's decreasing daily.

These are good things....
I can really smell my candles way better than i did before and they are delightful.
I am going way longer than i was a week ago before i use my e cigg.
My nerves and patience are way better than even just a few days ago.
I've been through my first semi crises (spraining my ankle) and didn't go back to smoking.
My skin looks brighter with a little glow like when your preggy.
First thing i thought of when i work up this morning was "i hope the sun shines a lot today" and not "i need a ciggerette".

Horray.
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One week today. I no longer have any ciggs in my house. My ashtrays are now all cleaned and put away.


These are things that i still struggle at the end of week one....
Still want a cigg but not near as much as i did last week.
Every once in a while have that "panic" feeling of OMG i dont' have any ciggs in the house.
The "habit" after eating, drinking coffee, driving is still aching in there.
Still getting the nicotine from the E-cigg but it's decreasing daily.

These are good things....
I can really smell my candles way better than i did before and they are delightful.
I am going way longer than i was a week ago before i use my e cigg.
My nerves and patience are way better than even just a few days ago.
I've been through my first semi crises (spraining my ankle) and didn't go back to smoking.
My skin looks brighter with a little glow like when your preggy.
First thing i thought of when i work up this morning was "i hope the sun shines a lot today" and not "i need a ciggerette".

Horray.


Magic! You are doing so well princessbelle. You'll be off that e-cig before you know it. I'm so glad you're seeing positive results so soon.

One thing I've only really noticed recently, after over a year not smoking, is that I haven't had a tooth abcess or infection for the same length of time. I used to get 3 or 4 a year. Result!
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Keep it up, princessbelle!

And throw away those ashtrays! No need for them anymore and smoking visitors can smoke outside and take their butts with them!
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On day five....

I've noticed these things....

I can certainly smell smoke now. Even in a store today i smelled it on someone that was standing next to me.

I believe, even though i'm using the E-ciggs, i am in withdrawal. I am not exactly myself....a little more jumpy, a little less patience, a little bit of a "down" feeling. I'm not PMSin...so i'll blame it on the ciggs.

I'm hanging in there though and i know i can do this.

This time is THE time.

Keep up the good work all!!!!!!!!!! Those of you weeks, months, years you blow me away....so very PROUD OF YOU!!!!!
Stay strong! I quit cold turkey 4 months ago. I even had someone smoke in front of me and I didn't want anything to do with it. In fact I thought wow that smells pretty bad(no offense to anyone that does smoke). It's hard as hell but if you want to beat it you can.
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Congratulations to all of the non-smokers and anyone even thinking of quitting!

I have been struggling to quit for years. There have been a couple times I have quit for a while but have always gone back to it in times of stress. It is the last great (destructive/unhealthy) coping mechanism I have left. Had.

I last smoked over 60 hours ago. My official quit date being the 24th. I have been reluctant to post about it because I have been feeling like a miserable wretch and I have this thing about keeping my misery largely to myself.

I have just awaken at 4am in a pool of sweat. My sleep has been out of whack these few days and I feel like I have been in a haze. I am more sensitive than usual, irritable and weepy. But I keep reminding myself WHY I am doing this. There are of course the myriad of health reasons which are the facts behind the motivation but when it comes down to that moment when I am struggling through a craving, I have to keep telling myself that I WANT this.

Also, in the past year I have made several attempts. The first few days/week are absolutely the hardest part and I keep putting myself through this torture only to pick up the smokes again, setting myself up to have to go through it again in the future. I am done with that. I am done with smoking. I am done torturing myself. I am done poisoning myself. And soon, I will be through this withdrawal and I will be free.

But for the moment, I am still a wretched mess.
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Thank-you for posting how you're feeling Ms.Meander. You've been brave to post the bad bits about giving up. As you've said the worst bit is the first few days.

You want it and you can have it. All it takes is some deep breathing exercises (or some such, the deep breathing worked for me) through your cravings and keep reminding yourself that you're doing this fabulous thing for yourself. Being a bit mad for a while is a small price to pay.

You can do it!

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Ms. Meander...

You are at the crossroads - This is soooooooooooo amazing and Incubus is so correct about the breathing.

Good for YOU!

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You are at the crossroads - This is soooooooooooo amazing and Incubus is so correct about the breathing.

Good for YOU!

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More than a month Julie! That's awesome.
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Congratulations to all of the non-smokers and anyone even thinking of quitting!

I have been struggling to quit for years. There have been a couple times I have quit for a while but have always gone back to it in times of stress. It is the last great (destructive/unhealthy) coping mechanism I have left. Had.

I last smoked over 60 hours ago. My official quit date being the 24th. I have been reluctant to post about it because I have been feeling like a miserable wretch and I have this thing about keeping my misery largely to myself.

I have just awaken at 4am in a pool of sweat. My sleep has been out of whack these few days and I feel like I have been in a haze. I am more sensitive than usual, irritable and weepy. But I keep reminding myself WHY I am doing this. There are of course the myriad of health reasons which are the facts behind the motivation but when it comes down to that moment when I am struggling through a craving, I have to keep telling myself that I WANT this.

Also, in the past year I have made several attempts. The first few days/week are absolutely the hardest part and I keep putting myself through this torture only to pick up the smokes again, setting myself up to have to go through it again in the future. I am done with that. I am done with smoking. I am done torturing myself. I am done poisoning myself. And soon, I will be through this withdrawal and I will be free.

But for the moment, I am still a wretched mess.
Keep it up! Keep going!

You have been through the withdrawal before, so you know that it ends...then after getting over that main hump, it is mostly psychological.

You CAN do it. You WILL do it!

And freedom is exactly the right word. I had never seen it as freedom before until a few months after I had quit, but that is SO correct.

Keep posting for support!
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Thank you all for being so supportive. I think sharing is an important part of this process. By letting others know what I am trying to accomplish, I make myself responsible to someone other than myself. Which just might be enough to make me think twice when in a difficult moment - which just might be enough to keep me from caving in.

I have been "deep breathing" through cravings, as mentioned. It is a helpful tool. I think of all that smoke-free oxygen being delivered to my lungs - it almost makes me light-headed sometimes!

Congratulations Julie - You are amazing and inspiring!
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I have been "deep breathing" through cravings, as mentioned. It is a helpful tool. I think of all that smoke-free oxygen being delivered to my lungs - it almost makes me light-headed sometimes!

Congratulations Julie - You are amazing and inspiring!
Horrayyyyyyy!!!!!!!!! Way to go!!! Hang in there...you are doing awesome!!!!!

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