Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Abuse

atomiczombie · 06-05-2011, 07:35 PM

1. Have you ever been a victim of domestic violence/intimate partner abuse. by this I mean - have you ever been abused by your partner physically, emotionally, etc.

Not physically, but my ex-wife was both verbally and emotionally abusive to me.

2. Where did this event take place? (city, State).

At the time we lived in Walnut Creek, Ca

3. Did you seek services? shelter, supportive services, counseling?

I left her and then saw a Therapist.

4. What was the outcome of the services you sought? (were you helped?, did you feel you were discriminated against in any way, etc.?).

The therapist I worked with helped me a great deal. She helped me understand why I stayed with someone for so long who was so mean, and now I see the red flags and avoid them.

5. what do you thing should change in regards to LGBT services for victims of domestic violence/ intimate partner abuse?

I really don't know because I haven't needed much in the way of services, myself. It wasn't a matter for the police and I didn't need a shelter. I stayed with my folks for a month and then got my own apartment. My friends and other family gave me a lot of support, and my folks paid for my therapy. I was very lucky!

WickedFemme · 06-05-2011, 07:42 PM

Thank you so much for responding and I am so happy to hear that you got the support and help that you needed at the time.

It makes such a difference when you have family/friends to go to in a crisis.

domestic violence isn't always in the form of physical violence... as you said it is also emotional, verbal and social.

Again, thank you for responding to my questions.

WickedFemme · 06-05-2011, 07:55 PM

I'll answer these questions as well:

1. Yes, I have been a victim of domestic violence in both heterosexual and same sex relationships. i survived severe physical abuse by men... I had a gun held to my head, I was stalked and I was beaten beyond recognition in my face. I also survived emotional and social abuse by a woman.

2. in New York and California

3. yes, I sought therapy and my mother rescued me from both situations and I stayed at her house. I was fortunate enough to have the resources to get therapy for years. It took me a very long time to gain and regain self-esteem and learn and apply personal boundaries.

4. I felt very fortunate with the help I received. When I was in a situation with a woman I was discriminated against by police officers and felt i had nowhere to go and no one to talk to.. it was very socially isolating and I felt re-traumatized. It took me years to recover.

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06-05-2011, 07:42 PM	#2
WickedFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Very Happily Married to Bobbi46 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: where I want to be Posts: 313 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 355 Thanked 994 Times in 221 Posts Rep Power: 7014692	Thank you Atomic! Thank you so much for responding and I am so happy to hear that you got the support and help that you needed at the time. It makes such a difference when you have family/friends to go to in a crisis. domestic violence isn't always in the form of physical violence... as you said it is also emotional, verbal and social. Again, thank you for responding to my questions.

06-05-2011, 07:55 PM	#3
WickedFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Very Happily Married to Bobbi46 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: where I want to be Posts: 313 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 355 Thanked 994 Times in 221 Posts Rep Power: 7014692	I'll answer these questions as well: 1. Yes, I have been a victim of domestic violence in both heterosexual and same sex relationships. i survived severe physical abuse by men... I had a gun held to my head, I was stalked and I was beaten beyond recognition in my face. I also survived emotional and social abuse by a woman. 2. in New York and California 3. yes, I sought therapy and my mother rescued me from both situations and I stayed at her house. I was fortunate enough to have the resources to get therapy for years. It took me a very long time to gain and regain self-esteem and learn and apply personal boundaries. 4. I felt very fortunate with the help I received. When I was in a situation with a woman I was discriminated against by police officers and felt i had nowhere to go and no one to talk to.. it was very socially isolating and I felt re-traumatized. It took me years to recover.