Anybody want to talk about sexual expression (performance?) as we age? Nitty gritty stuff.

AtLast · 06-13-2011, 02:12 PM

Thank the Goddesses for people dealing with reality without shame! No way with severe poly-osteoarthritis, RA and fibromyalgia am I going to be able to swing from the rafters as I used to!!

But... ADAPTATION is everything! So is having a partner that isn't stuck on sex as static!

And yanno... there is a lot of sexiness and arousal with all the pre-adjustment/adaptation talk! The human voice is one of the most sensual tools of the trade.

LOL, I remember visiting my Mom at the senior facility she lived in and seeing many smiles and winks among the residents.

Hollylane · 06-13-2011, 02:26 PM

I haven't made a graphic post in awhile. So, here it comes.....but don't be surprised by my vanilla

My partner and I always preferred for him to be behind me. Due to his constant knee/leg pain, we now do this with me draped over the best height appropriate piece of furniture. I push back onto him to further help the process.

His sex drive is currently MIA(as is mine due to illness), but I find other ways to satisfy our need for intimacy and skin to skin contact. Even if that means I just squish him with my entire body for our mutual entertainment & giggles/laughter.

iamkeri1 · 06-13-2011, 02:45 PM

Those who prefer rear entry may be assisted by this pillow.

http://www.therightposition.com/store/product.php?productid=1&cat=1&page=1

Come to think of it, don't know why it wouldn't help in any sexual activity where one partner stands - or anything else you might think of.

Smooches,
Keri

Rockinonahigh · 06-13-2011, 03:52 PM

Omg..hear we goooooo,yep this subject is much needed for those who feel a way to injoy sex a diffrent way.Tipin my hat to ya keri..way to go.
What im fixin to say happened to me not onec but a fue times in varying degrees, and has been the royal pan in the ass..really.OK,hear goes.The last time I has sex With anyone ..well this is what happened.We were going 90 when I had a spaz in my lower back wich cramped up my left leg real bad..talking pain hear folks.ANyway I roll to the side of the bed to get in a siting position but was to close to the edge,fell off the bed landing on the floor like a sack of potatos.When I come to my sences I had one pissed off femme giveing me hell for quiting at the worse time.Not a good situation at all,needless to say I dont see this person anymore.NOr am I wanting to have this happen again, so after a time I just quit trying.So now the truth is out for the world to see.When rereading this in hopes I dont have to many typos I had a good laugh about it,really I did,life can be stranger than fiction.

iamkeri1 · 06-13-2011, 04:01 PM

Rockin
That is so funny and so horrible at the same time. I feel for you my friend. But you can't give up. This is what we need this thread for. Femme on top might help if she has no limitations that would make that difficult for her.

Be more specific about what you were "going 90" at and maybe someone will have a workable solution for you.
Smooches,
Keri

Rockinonahigh · 06-13-2011, 04:12 PM

[QUOTE=iamkeri1;358276]Rockin
That is so funny and so horrible at the same time. I feel for you my friend. But you can't give up. This is what we need this thread for. Femme on top might help if she has no limitations that would make that difficult for her.

Be more specific about what you were "going 90" at and maybe someone will have a workable solution for you.
Smooches,
Keri[/QUOTE

Change "goin 90" to hot and heavy..was more like it.I guarentee if I ever find someone else to have sex with we will have a good talk about this sort of thing.ONe thing that over the years that I find is when you tell someone u r a stone butch they have this notion that its one way only or that im going to freak out if we try something else.My stoness is reflected in that I am not into penetration ...her yes if she wants, me no way.My stoneness has changed over the years,as in life all things change in varying degrees.

Starrynightaw · 06-13-2011, 05:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Omg..hear we goooooo,yep this subject is much needed for those who feel a way to injoy sex a diffrent way.Tipin my hat to ya keri..way to go.
What im fixin to say happened to me not onec but a fue times in varying degrees, and has been the royal pan in the ass..really.OK,hear goes.The last time I has sex With anyone ..well this is what happened.We were going 90 when I had a spaz in my lower back wich cramped up my left leg real bad..talking pain hear folks.ANyway I roll to the side of the bed to get in a siting position but was to close to the edge,fell off the bed landing on the floor like a sack of potatos.When I come to my sences I had one pissed off femme giveing me hell for quiting at the worse time.Not a good situation at all,needless to say I dont see this person anymore.NOr am I wanting to have this happen again, so after a time I just quit trying.So now the truth is out for the world to see.When rereading this in hopes I dont have to many typos I had a good laugh about it,really I did,life can be stranger than fiction.

Thats amazingly funny and sad all at the same time. Im sorry to hear things have gotten like that.

Rockinonahigh · 06-13-2011, 06:45 PM

One thing I really beleave in is foreplay,its not a quick stop but a destanation thats not in a hurry,lots of people have forgoten that sex is suposed to be enjoyed,not rushed,we muxt have some humor included when its needed.

Leigh · 06-13-2011, 07:10 PM

I've quite often dated partners older than Me, and we've had to accommodate some physical problems but in the end it all worked out. Rockin I'm really sorry that happened to you, I guess I would just think if your in pain that the femme would understand and be more concerned about how your doing and not whether or not you can finish what you began. Foreplay most certainly comes first but I think that no matter the age or physical condition one partner may be dealing with, experimentation and a great imagination will definately help when coming up with new ways to have fun :-)

atomiczombie · 06-16-2011, 06:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Omg..hear we goooooo,yep this subject is much needed for those who feel a way to injoy sex a diffrent way.Tipin my hat to ya keri..way to go.
What im fixin to say happened to me not onec but a fue times in varying degrees, and has been the royal pan in the ass..really.OK,hear goes.The last time I has sex With anyone ..well this is what happened.We were going 90 when I had a spaz in my lower back wich cramped up my left leg real bad..talking pain hear folks.ANyway I roll to the side of the bed to get in a siting position but was to close to the edge,fell off the bed landing on the floor like a sack of potatos.When I come to my sences I had one pissed off femme giveing me hell for quiting at the worse time.Not a good situation at all,needless to say I dont see this person anymore.NOr am I wanting to have this happen again, so after a time I just quit trying.So now the truth is out for the world to see.When rereading this in hopes I dont have to many typos I had a good laugh about it,really I did,life can be stranger than fiction.

Sounds like the girl was very insensitive to your unfortunate physical limitation. I wouldn't date someone who got pissed in this situation. Don't blame yourself. Just find someone who is more understanding and compassionate.

06-13-2011, 07:10 PM	#9
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06-13-2011, 02:12 PM	#1
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06-13-2011, 02:45 PM	#3
iamkeri1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme woman Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Florida Posts: 905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 302 Thanked 2,153 Times in 659 Posts Rep Power: 16642920	Those who prefer rear entry may be assisted by this pillow. http://www.therightposition.com/store/product.php?productid=1&cat=1&page=1 Come to think of it, don't know why it wouldn't help in any sexual activity where one partner stands - or anything else you might think of. Smooches, Keri

06-13-2011, 03:52 PM	#4
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Omg..hear we goooooo,yep this subject is much needed for those who feel a way to injoy sex a diffrent way.Tipin my hat to ya keri..way to go. What im fixin to say happened to me not onec but a fue times in varying degrees, and has been the royal pan in the ass..really.OK,hear goes.The last time I has sex With anyone ..well this is what happened.We were going 90 when I had a spaz in my lower back wich cramped up my left leg real bad..talking pain hear folks.ANyway I roll to the side of the bed to get in a siting position but was to close to the edge,fell off the bed landing on the floor like a sack of potatos.When I come to my sences I had one pissed off femme giveing me hell for quiting at the worse time.Not a good situation at all,needless to say I dont see this person anymore.NOr am I wanting to have this happen again, so after a time I just quit trying.So now the truth is out for the world to see.When rereading this in hopes I dont have to many typos I had a good laugh about it,really I did,life can be stranger than fiction.

06-13-2011, 04:01 PM	#5
iamkeri1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme woman Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Florida Posts: 905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 302 Thanked 2,153 Times in 659 Posts Rep Power: 16642920	Rockin That is so funny and so horrible at the same time. I feel for you my friend. But you can't give up. This is what we need this thread for. Femme on top might help if she has no limitations that would make that difficult for her. Be more specific about what you were "going 90" at and maybe someone will have a workable solution for you. Smooches, Keri

06-13-2011, 04:12 PM	#6
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	[QUOTE=iamkeri1;358276]Rockin That is so funny and so horrible at the same time. I feel for you my friend. But you can't give up. This is what we need this thread for. Femme on top might help if she has no limitations that would make that difficult for her. Be more specific about what you were "going 90" at and maybe someone will have a workable solution for you. Smooches, Keri[/QUOTE Change "goin 90" to hot and heavy..was more like it.I guarentee if I ever find someone else to have sex with we will have a good talk about this sort of thing.ONe thing that over the years that I find is when you tell someone u r a stone butch they have this notion that its one way only or that im going to freak out if we try something else.My stoness is reflected in that I am not into penetration ...her yes if she wants, me no way.My stoneness has changed over the years,as in life all things change in varying degrees.

06-13-2011, 06:45 PM	#8
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	One thing I really beleave in is foreplay,its not a quick stop but a destanation thats not in a hurry,lots of people have forgoten that sex is suposed to be enjoyed,not rushed,we muxt have some humor included when its needed.