The Anti-Love List

T4Texas · 06-21-2011, 07:37 PM

I guess my list has grown over time and experience.

I dont want someone who gives up and wants to leave at the first sign of a problem.
Someone who is even remotely close to being bipolar
Someone who is under 30
Someone who only wants me for what they can get and not for me myself
Someone who is high maintenance
Someone who cant carry an intelligent conversation
Someone who doesnt have a job or a place to live
Someone who isnt mature regardless of the age
Someone who needs constant justification. I am an extremely supportive individual, but day in and out of buoying someone up gets old.
Someone who wont stand up for themselves
If you dont share at least a few similar interests...forget it.
Someone who knows that a relationship is not all about sex but about two people working together to make it work.
I also prefer non smokers and women without small children.
No guilt trippers or passive agressive types
No Liars
and since my life revolves around monogamy, No bi's, polys or other forms. WE dont share over here.

Please note that my choices are simply my preferences and not meant to slander or debase anyone that falls in those categories. live and let live I say.
Gawd, if I thought about this subject long enough I could probably go on forever. LOL

bigbutchmistie · 06-21-2011, 08:13 PM

Liars

Cheaters

Passive Agressive behavior

Someone without morals and values

Someone who smokes or is a drunk

Someone under 30

Someone who isn't girly. I love femme women in every sense of the word. No butch tombois completely femme

Someone who doesn't value monogamy

Someone has small kids or wants kids

Someone who doesn't believe in God

Someone who doesn't value the value of sex and intimacy in relationships.

Someone who doesn't get along with my friends

Someone who has cats as I'm highly allergic

Someone who tries to change me

Someone who can't hold intelligence conversation

Someone who uses me for what they can get

Immaturity

No job car or place of their own to live

Someone who runs at the first sign of trouble

Someone unsupportive in things I do

Someone who abuses physically and emotionally

Someone who witholds sex as a form of punishing me for mistakes made

Someone who is always late

Someone who doesn't accept my son Simon he's the cutest lil shih Tzu ever lol

Someone who is non affectionate

Someone with bad hygeine

If I think of more I will post later

Mister Bent · 06-21-2011, 08:28 PM

I'm against love, is this the right thread?

I'm really more "friendship and gratuitous sex."

bigbutchmistie · 06-21-2011, 08:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mister Bent

I'm against love, is this the right thread?

I'm really more "friendship and gratuitous sex."

LOL.

ummmmm

undone · 06-22-2011, 02:16 AM

non of these please...

One who does not like animals! Now I am not saying I want a zoo (unless I have a place big enough to be a zoo or a ranch)

One who doesn’t enjoy kids or family, I don’t have kids or ever want to be pregnant, but she should be able to get down on the floor and play, or tolerate a little family struggles here and there

One who is not capable of having a hard emotional conversation with out giving or assuming blame

One who doesn't find a way to see what it looks like from the out side in.

One who won't laugh at themselves on occasion.

One who can't help work through an issue her's, mine, ours they don’t go away they will just follow you till you figure it out.

One who will after a few years will decide that since the honey moon is over then so is the whole kit in caboodle.

One that assumes every thing said is out of a bad thought or mean space.

One who has boundary issues, emotional, family, friends, physical

One who doesn’t know how to take the lead and share it on occasion

One with out wonder, with out the urge to see, explore, new places, foods, experiences all of it!

One who puts some one else as more important than there spouse (with the exclusion of children)

One with a lot of insecurities some sure who doesn't but if a person is insecure about everything that is just to much

One who needs TVs, computer, or a some game system. If you can't live a week or two with out watching a screen, I would become way to frustrated.

One not a playful as I like to be, who can't be a little rough or tough when it's just fun

Leading to some one that isn't as strong as I am physically, emotionally, mentally.

One who thinks that sex is a ruling factor not intimacy and trust if you can keep those then sex is a natural.

One who only see's the negative side of things even most bad things have some kind of upswing to them!

One who feels the need to hover in public like I might disappear, or hook up with some one else.

Thinker · 06-22-2011, 08:29 AM

"Fun and Fluff" is different from "Cruel and Critical". So while you're having fun with this and thinking through the things you don't want, please choose your words carefully.

We can have fun without being hurtful to a group of people.

Carry on...

Thinker (moderator)

06-21-2011, 07:37 PM	#1
T4Texas Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Ready to play again! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 233 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 436 Thanked 647 Times in 167 Posts Rep Power: 6739721	I guess my list has grown over time and experience. I dont want someone who gives up and wants to leave at the first sign of a problem. Someone who is even remotely close to being bipolar Someone who is under 30 Someone who only wants me for what they can get and not for me myself Someone who is high maintenance Someone who cant carry an intelligent conversation Someone who doesnt have a job or a place to live Someone who isnt mature regardless of the age Someone who needs constant justification. I am an extremely supportive individual, but day in and out of buoying someone up gets old. Someone who wont stand up for themselves If you dont share at least a few similar interests...forget it. Someone who knows that a relationship is not all about sex but about two people working together to make it work. I also prefer non smokers and women without small children. No guilt trippers or passive agressive types No Liars and since my life revolves around monogamy, No bi's, polys or other forms. WE dont share over here. Please note that my choices are simply my preferences and not meant to slander or debase anyone that falls in those categories. live and let live I say. Gawd, if I thought about this subject long enough I could probably go on forever. LOL __________________ Chivalry is when you meet a woman you would rather die for, than live with.

06-21-2011, 08:28 PM	#3
Mister Bent Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: . Posts: 2,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,151 Thanked 5,824 Times in 1,721 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I'm all for anti I'm against love, is this the right thread? I'm really more "friendship and gratuitous sex." __________________ Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin to slit throats. - H. L. Mencken

06-22-2011, 08:29 AM	#6
Thinker Senior Member How Do You Identify?: transman Preferred Pronoun?: male Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 1,868 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 710 Thanked 4,133 Times in 1,079 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	"Fun and Fluff" is different from "Cruel and Critical". So while you're having fun with this and thinking through the things you don't want, please choose your words carefully. We can have fun without being hurtful to a group of people. Carry on... Thinker (moderator) __________________ Practice humility and kindness.

06-21-2011, 08:13 PM	#2
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Liars Cheaters Passive Agressive behavior Someone without morals and values Someone who smokes or is a drunk Someone under 30 Someone who isn't girly. I love femme women in every sense of the word. No butch tombois completely femme Someone who doesn't value monogamy Someone has small kids or wants kids Someone who doesn't believe in God Someone who doesn't value the value of sex and intimacy in relationships. Someone who doesn't get along with my friends Someone who has cats as I'm highly allergic Someone who tries to change me Someone who can't hold intelligence conversation Someone who uses me for what they can get Immaturity No job car or place of their own to live Someone who runs at the first sign of trouble Someone unsupportive in things I do Someone who abuses physically and emotionally Someone who witholds sex as a form of punishing me for mistakes made Someone who is always late Someone who doesn't accept my son Simon he's the cutest lil shih Tzu ever lol Someone who is non affectionate Someone with bad hygeine If I think of more I will post later

06-22-2011, 02:16 AM	#5
undone Junior Member How Do You Identify?: me! Preferred Pronoun?: Woman Relationship Status: Sold! Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Long Beach, CA but home is Portland Posts: 96 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 174 Thanked 178 Times in 63 Posts Rep Power: 507771	non of these please... One who does not like animals! Now I am not saying I want a zoo (unless I have a place big enough to be a zoo or a ranch) One who doesn’t enjoy kids or family, I don’t have kids or ever want to be pregnant, but she should be able to get down on the floor and play, or tolerate a little family struggles here and there One who is not capable of having a hard emotional conversation with out giving or assuming blame One who doesn't find a way to see what it looks like from the out side in. One who won't laugh at themselves on occasion. One who can't help work through an issue her's, mine, ours they don’t go away they will just follow you till you figure it out. One who will after a few years will decide that since the honey moon is over then so is the whole kit in caboodle. One that assumes every thing said is out of a bad thought or mean space. One who has boundary issues, emotional, family, friends, physical One who doesn’t know how to take the lead and share it on occasion One with out wonder, with out the urge to see, explore, new places, foods, experiences all of it! One who puts some one else as more important than there spouse (with the exclusion of children) One with a lot of insecurities some sure who doesn't but if a person is insecure about everything that is just to much One who needs TVs, computer, or a some game system. If you can't live a week or two with out watching a screen, I would become way to frustrated. One not a playful as I like to be, who can't be a little rough or tough when it's just fun Leading to some one that isn't as strong as I am physically, emotionally, mentally. One who thinks that sex is a ruling factor not intimacy and trust if you can keep those then sex is a natural. One who only see's the negative side of things even most bad things have some kind of upswing to them! One who feels the need to hover in public like I might disappear, or hook up with some one else.