What do YOU need to feel loved? - Page 9

BullRider_Dillon · 05-19-2011, 09:26 AM

Fidelity! Really,how hard is it???

Stud_puppy1991 · 05-22-2011, 09:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

Ok I will write in detail

Romance

Lots and lots of affection

Sweet emails, texts

Laughter

Being supportive

Being loyal

Being patient with me

Being understanding

Be sensitive to my needs and others needs

OMG, I am the same, but I also need for someone to give me unconditional love and to love me for me, not a mold.

Quintease · 05-23-2011, 05:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by violaine

consistency

That along with 'normality'.

Amber2010 · 06-21-2011, 05:11 PM

We are not together in the way most are... For me to feel love is in the voice... It makes my heart race and I can't help but smile and sometimes even giggle...
It is in the texts.. When I hear my phone go off at work or anywhere I look down and again my heart is racing and I am excited before I even read what hy says ....
It is in the actions... I can have bad days and still feel loved... the support the caring ... the quick words of " I love you so so much" it melts me right there... I wake up and am thinking of hym I go to sleep and the same...
To me that is real love... More then I have ever had... I am respected... cared about... supported.. and most of all I have it all unconditionally .. I love you Dallas so much!

Dallas2010 · 06-21-2011, 08:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Amber2010

We are not together in the way most are... For me to feel love is in the voice... It makes my heart race and I can't help but smile and sometimes even giggle...
It is in the texts.. When I hear my phone go off at work or anywhere I look down and again my heart is racing and I am excited before I even read what hy says ....
It is in the actions... I can have bad days and still feel loved... the support the caring ... the quick words of " I love you so so much" it melts me right there... I wake up and am thinking of hym I go to sleep and the same...
To me that is real love... More then I have ever had... I am respected... cared about... supported.. and most of all I have it all unconditionally .. I love you Dallas so much!

Oh sweetheart I love you so so much

lespere · 06-27-2011, 05:39 PM

I feel most loved with a combination of physical touch, cuddling as well as romantic / sexual and listening.

To me feeling most loved is to be supported and encouraged to what makes me the happiest, and allows me to care for someone in the same way.

I read an interesting book a few years ago about how each of us shows and feels love in different ways - how to help identify what makes you and your Sig Other feel most loved - called "The Five Love Languages":. While not all parts of the book were in sync with my beliefs I felt the message was a good one.

cinderella · 06-27-2011, 05:53 PM

attention (the good kind)
tenderness and kindness
consideration
helpfullness - the unselfish kind
strength - moral, spiritual, and character
integrity & honesty without brutality
humor - able to laugh at themselves first
humanity - a strong love for nature and all it's living creatures (except bugs - I hate bugs! lol)
affectionate - without shame or embarrassment in showing it
unbridled passion and romance (even the corny kind, I love it!)

well that's the short list...

girl_dee · 06-27-2011, 06:11 PM

Her hand at my throat and a me at Her boots.....

bigbutchmistie · 06-27-2011, 06:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Stud_puppy1991

OMG, I am the same, but I also need for someone to give me unconditional love and to love me for me, not a mold.

I agree I should have put that as well.

Also someone who values relationships as I do. Someone who doesn't move from relationship to relationship.

Quintease · 06-28-2011, 03:53 PM

This book is amazing! I wish I'd read it long ago

amnesia.bfp · 06-28-2011, 04:03 PM

I don't remember.

Who am I?

gotoseagrl · 06-28-2011, 04:06 PM

... peace.

Gráinne · 06-28-2011, 11:27 PM

High love for myself-without that, no one else is getting through my walls.

Acceptance for all I am, faults and all, BUT also someone who will push me in the ample behind when I make up my mind to better myself. Challenge me, dare me.

I don't need gifts, but if you want to give me one, make it something personal-like you know who I am. The best are made, or planned. Something simple like my favorite dinner on the "good" dishes, followed by slow dancing in the living room...etc.

For example, it would rock my world if she would massage me; better still if she snuck out and took massage classes just to learn how to pleasure me

. I was married to a man who gave me a gift certificate for the cheapest massage at a spa, and I had to drive myself there and back. No more.

I must have laughter, enough to make my sides hurt and so I can't breathe, tears rolling down my face. I won't ever be with someone who can't make me laugh. I hope I make my future girlfriend laugh the same way.

I must have someone who listens to me and who doesn't talk to me while walking out of the room.

Be reliable and authentic.

Tolerate me when I'm a big kid and love cool things, whether you think they are or not; better yet, sometimes be a big kid yourself. This does not mean being childish or un-adult when seriousness is needed.

I like the physical part of a relationship often. Very often. This is my primary "love language", from that book. It does not always mean sex; I love contact, period. Don't expect me to warm all over you in bed if you've not touched me at all during the rest of the day.

That's a long list, all to say I can't define it but I know when I feel it

bigbutchmistie · 07-10-2011, 05:19 PM

Accept me for who I am and dont try and change me.

Being affectionate

Being intimate without being sexual

Dependable in every situation.

Being able to be silly and laugh

Trusting without reservation

Pouring out my hopes dreams and goals. The most intimate parts of my soul. And know Im being supported.

Little things like massaging my back, or leaving notes in my lunch. So many things. Doesnt have to be grand gestures. Its the little things that mean the most to me.

JAGG · 07-10-2011, 06:49 PM

I always feel loved. I need nothing to have that feeling. Others can add to it but no one, and nothing can take away from it.

girl_dee · 07-10-2011, 06:54 PM

I agree Jagg, no tasks need be done to feel it.

justkim · 07-10-2011, 07:23 PM

It just is... a feeling...

The cute widdle wesbian · 08-03-2011, 12:25 AM

I believe in the 5 love languages for basically what everyone does to express love, and basically how they feel most loved. There's a lot of other stuff mixed in, we can never make it easy lol, but the 5 love languages are: Words of affirmation, acts of service, giving/recieving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. I'm definitely physical touch and my wife is words of affirmation, which simply means that she sometimes has to bat me off her with a stick when I'm feeling too sentimental and I have to shut her up when she's that way. lol, but we balance each other out. She loves my touchy feely ways, how I constantly need hugging and kissing and rubbing and holding and lots of cuddling, if she didn't like that then it would be a disaster for both of us lol, and I like hearing her mooshy wooshy lovy dovy 5-minute long explanations and 3-page letters of her love for me, if I didn't I'd me much too easily annoyed with her. It's the click that we have with each other, even though sometimes she thinks I'm hanging off her too much and I think she talks too much. :P

So that's what makes me feel loved, lots of touching. I'm horrible at expressing my deep feelings through words, I'm the clumsiest person there is with words, but I'm great with touch. So that's how I feel the love, but I also love hearing the words, which I guess would be my second love language in a sense. Just don't expect me to make a speech of love, I feel like a rambling fool when I get started.

Mister Bent · 08-22-2011, 01:50 PM

J. Mason · 08-22-2011, 07:07 PM

Honesty and respect and some beer.

05-19-2011, 09:26 AM	#161
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06-21-2011, 05:11 PM	#164
Amber2010 Member How Do You Identify?: Happy, Crazy, Bubbly, Funny, Strong, Outgoing, Friendly Preferred Pronoun?: Femme Relationship Status: Complicated Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 920 Thanked 594 Times in 154 Posts Rep Power: 3787185	To feel loved We are not together in the way most are... For me to feel love is in the voice... It makes my heart race and I can't help but smile and sometimes even giggle... It is in the texts.. When I hear my phone go off at work or anywhere I look down and again my heart is racing and I am excited before I even read what hy says .... It is in the actions... I can have bad days and still feel loved... the support the caring ... the quick words of " I love you so so much" it melts me right there... I wake up and am thinking of hym I go to sleep and the same... To me that is real love... More then I have ever had... I am respected... cared about... supported.. and most of all I have it all unconditionally .. I love you Dallas so much!

06-27-2011, 05:39 PM	#166
lespere Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: SF East Bay Posts: 11 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 16 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 0	Feeling loved I feel most loved with a combination of physical touch, cuddling as well as romantic / sexual and listening. To me feeling most loved is to be supported and encouraged to what makes me the happiest, and allows me to care for someone in the same way. I read an interesting book a few years ago about how each of us shows and feels love in different ways - how to help identify what makes you and your Sig Other feel most loved - called "The Five Love Languages":. While not all parts of the book were in sync with my beliefs I felt the message was a good one.

06-27-2011, 05:53 PM	#167
cinderella Member How Do You Identify?: Pinky's mommy :) Preferred Pronoun?: Su Majestad Relationship Status: Happy with my puppy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Pocono Mtns., Pa. Posts: 1,238 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4 Thanked 1,501 Times in 638 Posts Rep Power: 14266108	So many things, but these will suffice for a start... attention (the good kind) tenderness and kindness consideration helpfullness - the unselfish kind strength - moral, spiritual, and character integrity & honesty without brutality humor - able to laugh at themselves first humanity - a strong love for nature and all it's living creatures (except bugs - I hate bugs! lol) affectionate - without shame or embarrassment in showing it unbridled passion and romance (even the corny kind, I love it!) well that's the short list... __________________ Who needs reality when you have Turner Classic Movies!! The is an organ of fire.

06-28-2011, 03:53 PM	#170
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06-28-2011, 11:27 PM	#173
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,115 Thanked 7,387 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	High love for myself-without that, no one else is getting through my walls. Acceptance for all I am, faults and all, BUT also someone who will push me in the ample behind when I make up my mind to better myself. Challenge me, dare me. I don't need gifts, but if you want to give me one, make it something personal-like you know who I am. The best are made, or planned. Something simple like my favorite dinner on the "good" dishes, followed by slow dancing in the living room...etc. For example, it would rock my world if she would massage me; better still if she snuck out and took massage classes just to learn how to pleasure me . I was married to a man who gave me a gift certificate for the cheapest massage at a spa, and I had to drive myself there and back. No more. I must have laughter, enough to make my sides hurt and so I can't breathe, tears rolling down my face. I won't ever be with someone who can't make me laugh. I hope I make my future girlfriend laugh the same way. I must have someone who listens to me and who doesn't talk to me while walking out of the room. Be reliable and authentic. Tolerate me when I'm a big kid and love cool things, whether you think they are or not; better yet, sometimes be a big kid yourself. This does not mean being childish or un-adult when seriousness is needed. I like the physical part of a relationship often. Very often. This is my primary "love language", from that book. It does not always mean sex; I love contact, period. Don't expect me to warm all over you in bed if you've not touched me at all during the rest of the day. That's a long list, all to say I can't define it but I know when I feel it __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

07-10-2011, 05:19 PM	#174
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Accept me for who I am and dont try and change me. Being affectionate Being intimate without being sexual Dependable in every situation. Being able to be silly and laugh Trusting without reservation Pouring out my hopes dreams and goals. The most intimate parts of my soul. And know Im being supported. Little things like massaging my back, or leaving notes in my lunch. So many things. Doesnt have to be grand gestures. Its the little things that mean the most to me.

07-10-2011, 06:49 PM	#175
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,531 Times in 4,137 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Love I always feel loved. I need nothing to have that feeling. Others can add to it but no one, and nothing can take away from it. __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

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07-10-2011, 07:23 PM	#177
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08-03-2011, 12:25 AM	#178
The cute widdle wesbian Junior Member How Do You Identify?: A very pretty butch Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: In Coyote country Posts: 13 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 20 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 179035	I believe in the 5 love languages for basically what everyone does to express love, and basically how they feel most loved. There's a lot of other stuff mixed in, we can never make it easy lol, but the 5 love languages are: Words of affirmation, acts of service, giving/recieving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. I'm definitely physical touch and my wife is words of affirmation, which simply means that she sometimes has to bat me off her with a stick when I'm feeling too sentimental and I have to shut her up when she's that way. lol, but we balance each other out. She loves my touchy feely ways, how I constantly need hugging and kissing and rubbing and holding and lots of cuddling, if she didn't like that then it would be a disaster for both of us lol, and I like hearing her mooshy wooshy lovy dovy 5-minute long explanations and 3-page letters of her love for me, if I didn't I'd me much too easily annoyed with her. It's the click that we have with each other, even though sometimes she thinks I'm hanging off her too much and I think she talks too much. :P So that's what makes me feel loved, lots of touching. I'm horrible at expressing my deep feelings through words, I'm the clumsiest person there is with words, but I'm great with touch. So that's how I feel the love, but I also love hearing the words, which I guess would be my second love language in a sense. Just don't expect me to make a speech of love, I feel like a rambling fool when I get started.

08-22-2011, 01:50 PM	#179
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