Stone Butches

[cuddlyfemme]

Good morning all you wonderful Stone Butches! Have a wonderful day

[LaneyDoll]

Originally Posted by sassy_girl

I don't understand limiting your dating pool by what someone has wanted or wanted in sex. I could never not want to be with someone because of what they want or don't want sexually, I suppose if that would be a dealbreaker for me ( I can't even imagine) it would be different.

I guess I just don't see what is wrong with two people getting together and discovering what energy/magic/vibes they get off each other and rolling with it. The way I have been with one lover does not define how I will be with another lover..

It all just seems so predefined. I'm trying to understand I suppose.

Sidenote, I am reading this thread start to finish so I may make more than one comment; this is the first post I wanted to reply to.

Well said! I tend to be pretty accepting of people and their preferences. I am that way b/c I learned a long time ago to never close a door-life will close plenty for you. There again, I am an extremely open-minded person and I am still learning that it is a rare quality. I have always been of the mindset that as long as "we" enjoy each other and find what works for "us" then that is what matters. I have dated butch women, andro women and stone butches and I have found that we always seem to find what suits us.

[Electrocell]

Now this looks like a thread I need to subscribe to.

[MaggieBluIze]

Good Morning!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Electrocell]

Slept in this morn and man it felt good. Have to get busy here soon working on my car and a lady friend's truck.

[MaggieBluIze]

It feels so wonderful to be able to do that ... I agree!!

I think that's really great you're going to be helping your friend with her truck ... I would give anything (just about ) to have a friend close by that knew how to work on vehicles when needed. That is an amazingly wonderful skill to have.

[Electrocell]

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze

It feels so wonderful to be able to do that ... I agree!!

I think that's really great you're going to be helping your friend with her truck ... I would give anything (just about ) to have a friend close by that knew how to work on vehicles when needed. That is an amazingly wonderful skill to have.

I just do what needs to be done lol definetly don't want to be a full time mechanic lol.

[msW8ing]

[Electrocell]

Wanders in ,looks around, shrugs and leaves.

[Converse]

Originally Posted by Electrocell

Wanders in ,looks around, shrugs and leaves.

Hello.

[Converse]

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

[princessbelle]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

Good questions. For me, i had been on the dash site and dance awhile before i had my first experience with a Stone. I had read a lot, so i was at least somewhat knowledgable of what stone meant. I adjusted quite easily and just tried to be polite and respectful and i certainly hope that was accomplished.

What i have found, however, is that even with the ID as stone, it is still so individualized that nothing is written in...yes i'm gonna say it....stone.

I, personally, don't seek out stone, or FTM or whatever the ID. If i'm attracted, i'm attracted. If it goes farther than that and things get moving, communication is the key of course. Yes i would ask the questions of boundries which are VERY important with any ID.

I've dated a couple, ok a few, stones and none of them are exactly the same with the way they see themselves or their boundries.

Dating someone who IDs as stone, in my experience, is not a cut and dry identity and thankfully it is unique, informative, and exciting each time.

[Electrocell]

Originally Posted by Converse

Hello.

Hi and welcome.

[lillith]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

The very first time I heard the term, I thought, "OK. They must smoke a lot of weed." I asked that question, and was very fortunate to have someone in my life who gently laughed and said, "No." When hy explained things to me, it made sense to me, but I also felt a curious mixture of excitement and repulsion. I told hym that I needed some time to digest what hy said. I understood why I was excited, but I couldn't wrap my head around why I was repulsed. After a couple of days and some serious searching, I came to the conclusion that it was too hetero. I was dedicated to my lesbian sex. I explained all of this to hym, and we agreed friends would be best. There was a nagging, deep feeling I couldn't shake about it all, though. I approached hym and asked hym to show me. And good God-Almighty, did hy ever! Things were so profound that I could no longer say that I was lesbian. I had been "flipped," as it were.

It has been many years since that story, and I have learned that there is no predescribed definition. I have met stones who are hardcore no you don't touch me except for my back to stones who don't look at their biological sex as something other than a mini cock that should be worshiped. I think the point for me is that I am who I am. I am a pleaser and giver and a receiver. What all those mean depends on the relationship and what is agreed to and at any point agreements can change because there are no set rules for me.

[CherylNYC]

Because I'm a stonefemme my ideal partner would be a stone butch. My late gf was nearly stone, so it worked out very well for us. She allowed a certain amount of touching under some rare circumstances, but it wasn't common for her to be very interested in that sort of thing.

Originally Posted by lillith

... There was a nagging, deep feeling I couldn't shake about it all, though. I approached hym and asked hym to show me. And good God-Almighty, did hy ever! Things were so profound that I could no longer say that I was lesbian. I had been "flipped," as it were.

...I have met stones who are hardcore no you don't touch me except for my back to stones who don't look at their biological sex as something other than a mini cock that should be worshiped.

I don't see why being a stonefemme, or a stone butch for that matter, means that we aren't lesbians. My late gf IDed as such, and I certainly do, too. She was an old school butch who IDed as a lesbian, stone butch, butch dyke, and/or leatherdyke top. All of those IDs were female to her, and she didn't feel compelled to call herself anything other than a woman. A very, VERY butch woman. She had a vagina and a clit, just like any other woman. Being stone meant that she was the pitcher. My stonefemme nature means I'm the catcher. No more, no less.

I'm a lesbian and my sex is stone sex. I assume that no one on this site is going to be foolish enough to tell me that I'm not a lesbian because I'm a stonefemme.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

I don't think I had a conscious thought process in the matter, but looking back on past relationships, I see a very distinct movement...a graduation from one end of the spectrum to the other, with Stone being the final destination. So, when I was finally with someone who was Stone, I just *knew*.

Sure, there were specific boundaries to define and outline and, as previously mentioned, those are very specific to the individual, but relationships felt right for the first time ever. I didn't have to try so hard to be 'right' or do the 'right' things and I wasn't made to feel guilty or selfish about my own boundaries. I felt seen for the first time in forever.

That fact....the ease of it all...was surprising to me. I tend to unintentionally...subconsciously...make things more difficult than they need to be but not this.

[lillith]

Originally Posted by CherylNYC

Because I'm a stonefemme my ideal partner would be a stone butch. My late gf was nearly stone, so it worked out very well for us. She allowed a certain amount of touching under some rare circumstances, but it wasn't common for her to be very interested in that sort of thing.



I don't see why being a stonefemme, or a stone butch for that matter, means that we aren't lesbians. My late gf IDed as such, and I certainly do, too. She was an old school butch who IDed as a lesbian, stone butch, butch dyke, and/or leatherdyke top. All of those IDs were female to her, and she didn't feel compelled to call herself anything other than a woman. A very, VERY butch woman. She had a vagina and a clit, just like any other woman. Being stone meant that she was the pitcher. My stonefemme nature means I'm the catcher. No more, no less.

I'm a lesbian and my sex is stone sex. I assume that no one on this site is going to be foolish enough to tell me that I'm not a lesbian because I'm a stonefemme.

Cheryl, I appreciate your candid answer. You are absolutely right, no one here can tell you what your ID is. Part of the point of my post was to describe my experience as well as to show the broad range of ideas that Stone encompasses. I just don't ID as a lesbian and that doesn't make my ID any more or less than anyone else's or your's for that matter. It is not where I am in life.

[BullDog]

I am a stone butch and I am a lesbian, therefore I have lesbian sex.

[cuddlyfemme]

Good Morning Handsome Stone Butches and wonderful Stone Femme's!

[morningstar55]

morning Stoners...



ok i should know the answer to this ?
but ... does dating a stone butch .... make me a stone femme??
soo many variations