Stone Butches

CherylNYC · 07-08-2011, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

morning Stoners...

ok i should know the answer to this ?
but ... does dating a stone butch .... make me a stone femme??
soo many variations

No, it doesn't. Having your own stone boundaries around where and how you can touch your partner makes you a stone femme. For most women who ID as stonefemme, penetrating a partner is a big boundary.

You aren't defined by who you partner with. You are who you are.

Gemme · 07-08-2011, 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by CherylNYC

I don't see why being a stonefemme, or a stone butch for that matter, means that we aren't lesbians. My late gf IDed as such, and I certainly do, too. She was an old school butch who IDed as a lesbian, stone butch, butch dyke, and/or leatherdyke top. All of those IDs were female to her, and she didn't feel compelled to call herself anything other than a woman. A very, VERY butch woman. She had a vagina and a clit, just like any other woman. Being stone meant that she was the pitcher. My stonefemme nature means I'm the catcher. No more, no less.

I'm a lesbian and my sex is stone sex. I assume that no one on this site is going to be foolish enough to tell me that I'm not a lesbian because I'm a stonefemme.

Of course not!

I don't id as a lesbian. It just doesn't fit for me. I wouldn't wear ill-fitting clothes (well, usually) and I won't wear an ill-fitting identity on my sleeve either. I am, however, thoroughly Stone Femme.

Identities aren't exclusive, thank goodness. I like the blends and meshed identities that we have here on the site. It helps to make like interesting.

Electrocell · 07-08-2011, 06:17 PM

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ScandalAndy · 07-08-2011, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Electrocell

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no no, you are spota help!!

cuddlyfemme · 07-09-2011, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Electrocell

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Hi Cell! Its always nice to see you

Electrocell · 07-09-2011, 07:35 AM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

no no, you are spota help!!

When you have femmes debating it's just better to keep your mouth shut lol.

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

Hi Cell! Its always nice to see you

Always nice to see you too Cuddly.

ScandalAndy · 07-09-2011, 08:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Electrocell

When you have femmes debating it's just better to keep your mouth shut lol.

Always nice to see you too Cuddly.

Ahhh, I see your point, but this is the butch zone, so I, for one, would like some butch input please.

Electrocell · 07-09-2011, 09:21 AM

I recently was with this femme who was just use to what I call lesbian sex. 69 etc. She was also use to being the aggressor in the relationship(sometimes that's good

) Well I intoduced her to my butch cock and she enjoyed the hell out of it. Don't get me wrong I use my hands and my mouth still ( have to have foreplay ya know.) I also know if you don't use your cock right it can be a turn off for some femmes. So far I haven't had any complaints lol. Hope I'm allowed to say this lol.

QueenofSmirks · 07-10-2011, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

Of course not!

I don't id as a lesbian. It just doesn't fit for me. I wouldn't wear ill-fitting clothes (well, usually) and I won't wear an ill-fitting identity on my sleeve either. I am, however, thoroughly Stone Femme.

Identities aren't exclusive, thank goodness. I like the blends and meshed identities that we have here on the site. It helps to make like interesting.

I, too, do not identify as a "lesbian". The term doesn't feel right to me, and I long ago discarded it as part of any identifier for myself. I wholeheartedly embrace the word queer, but even more to my liking and fit, I identify as a queer femme.

QueenofSmirks · 07-10-2011, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by CherylNYC

No, it doesn't. Having your own stone boundaries around where and how you can touch your partner makes you a stone femme. For most women who ID as stonefemme, penetrating a partner is a big boundary.

You aren't defined by who you partner with. You are who you are.

'm in agreement with a lot of what you said, but some stonefemmes actually DO identify as such because their partner ID's as stonebutch. That isn't to say that it's right or necessary for everyone, but I have read posts from other femmes that do claim their stonefemme identity is in direct relation to the fact that they date stonebutches.

07-08-2011, 06:17 PM	#3
Electrocell Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: he/hy Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: TN Posts: 1,334 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,535 Thanked 2,768 Times in 981 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	<--------------- Sits back in the corner and quietly listens . __________________ Love and accept me for me not someone you want me to be.

07-09-2011, 09:21 AM	#8
Electrocell Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: he/hy Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: TN Posts: 1,334 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,535 Thanked 2,768 Times in 981 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I recently was with this femme who was just use to what I call lesbian sex. 69 etc. She was also use to being the aggressor in the relationship(sometimes that's good ) Well I intoduced her to my butch cock and she enjoyed the hell out of it. Don't get me wrong I use my hands and my mouth still ( have to have foreplay ya know.) I also know if you don't use your cock right it can be a turn off for some femmes. So far I haven't had any complaints lol. Hope I'm allowed to say this lol. __________________ Love and accept me for me not someone you want me to be.