Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

[princessbelle]

Great posts in here!!!

I'm simple when it comes to going on a date. I just like the old fashion sort of stuff. A movie in home or out, a walk, a nice low budget dinner, hand holding, door opening, a smile, a touch, interesting converstation and hopefully a connection.

Best part about a great date is the offer of a second.

[Star Anise]

I do like to be taken out to dinner, but nothing too flashy...I like it more down to earth, a nice Italian/Greek/Turkish restaurant is good.

I don't really like going to the movies on dates, because I am really looking to make more of an emotional connection, and I personally don't think much of a connection is made, while two people stare at the same screen in silence (but that is just me.)

I do like a little bit of being "taken care of" doors open etc...I appreciate it as a sweet gesture, but on the other hand it isn't mandatory. LOL

Conversation though is a must, going for a walk is wonderful...Walking and talking, yep.

[betenoire]

please do not light my cigarettes. i have perfectly functionable fine motor skills. plus i can light my cigarette faster than you can light it for me. for some reason i have always hated that.

[weatherboi]

On my first date with Ms i picked Her up from the airport, we didn't go to dinner, we didn't do any of the traditional things spoken of here. She led Our/our first date. She likes it that way.

[Sachita]

I think it would be cool if someone made me a pretty flower bed or garden even if small. I think that would impress the shit out of me. I always said I'd marry the person I gardened with.

[Rivkeh]

....well,
how do I like to be treated on a date? I'm kind of old fashioned in some ways for instance I like doors being opened for me, and respect is very important, respect for my opinions and general respect. Listening--two way conversations are very attractive, and is care with appearance. Money spent, to me is not so much the issue, it is more about attention to details in a thoughtful way. Of course this is going to be different for everyone, these are just my preferences,
best wishes,
Riv

[bigbutchmistie]

Ive had dates with femmes that I have pulled out all the bells and whistles, and I have had dates that was just a simple walk in the park.

For me as a butch I love taking femmes on a simple date. Just a picnic lunch in the botanical gardens, or sitting on the shores of the lake looking up at the stars. So many different things. Its during those tiimes that you really get to know one another.

Give me a femme that likes those kinds of dates

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by weatherboi

On my first date with Ms i picked Her up from the airport, we didn't go to dinner, we didn't do any of the traditional things spoken of here. She led Our/our first date. She likes it that way.

Cause that's how I roll!!

I love dating, dating can lead to just a great night out, a good friend, a fast fuck or a relationship if that is what I choose to happen!!

That's the great thing about dating it can be spontaneous, planned, fun, fast, quiet, or POW!!!

McDonald's, an art gallery, the beach, a ride out to just anywhere as long as the intent is there to have a good time even if you find out that this will be an only one date thing.

Money is not necessary, good conversation a must!! Treat me like your equal and we'll be good unless I say otherwise!!! I also like to be on the same page that dating does not equate we are a couple, dating is simply that DATING.

My favorite dates, we and are middle of the week dates!!!

[Nat]

From my vague and blurry memories of dating:

Do not pause and wait for me to open the door for you. I often will open the door for you because i'm a chivalrous femme like that, but if I let you get to the door first and I'm all fancy for a date, I will act like I don't have arms if you pause and wait.

Brains and kindness are far more important to me than money.

Be yourself but be your best self. Don't try to be somebody else.

Do not defend strangers for flying the confederate flag. Do not say they aren't racist. Do not spend the rest of the night saying "I am not a racist - I hope you don't think that."

Please don't use the word "retarded" to criticize or make fun of people or ideas.

Inexpensive dates can be the most fun - but if you're paying and a waitperson is involved, please tip well. Cheaper food but better tip wins hands-down over expensive food and so-so tip. Also please treat anybody serving you like a human being whether it's at mcdonalds or fancyfrufru mcgees.

It's cute when it's obvious a person has put thought and creativity into planning a date - even though it's usually the awkward moments that make it obvious. It's also nice if a person can go with the flow and not be rigid about the plan.

Hanging out like friends would is often my favorite kind of date.

[MsTinkerbelly]

My first date with my Kasey was at Denny's...for those unaware, it is a chain restaurant just slightly better than Mc Donalds. She was just off a delayed flight from PA on business, and instead of the big plans she had made and since Denny's was right by a freeway, I suggested we meet there instead.

She was kind, considerate, and grateful that she didn't have to go through some long involved date while she was exhausted. She more than made up for that date the next time!

[steel_magnolia]

Originally Posted by princessbelle

Best part about a great date is the offer of a second.

I totally agree here! And down with the "3 Day Rule"! Who comes up with that? If you want to see me again, at least text. If I want to see you again I'll be waiting. Strike while the iron is hot, I say!