What is your fondest coming out memory?

Glenn · 07-20-2011, 09:52 AM

I became a musician in a lesbian/feminist band when I was eighteen. We played in local gay clubs, coffee houses, private parties, etc.

clay · 07-20-2011, 10:22 AM

[COLOR="Blue"]For me, I knew at age 5 I was a lesbian! I LOVED girls!!! I was always "daddi" when we played house! <wink> So all through school, it was always a GIRL I was crushing on! So, "ageing "myself here...I came out at age 23...with a 36 yr. old woman! I remember we went to dinner, I was so nervous, so giddy...and so exuberant at finally being able to be with a woman!!! Well, that night, we put on an album, for ambiance...and I came out to......"drum roll" please.... "Help Me Make It Through the Night" by Sammi Smith! Everytime I hear that song, I smile inwardly...knowing that Sammi Smith did just that...she helped me make it through the night! We lived together for a year...until she broke my heart....cheated on me with my best friend! Have I ever come a looongggg way, baby!!! I will always be grateful for that one woman who helped me to "come out"...and I have never looked back!!![ /COLOR]

Gaige · 07-20-2011, 10:44 AM

I was 19 and in my second relationship (first one living together). I was having nightmares every night about my parents disowning me after finding out just how close of a friend my "roommate" was. I would wake with tears in my eyes. Hiding the real me was really stressing me out. I decided I had to live my life for me. Pretending to be who I thought they wanted me to be was making me miserable. I came out to my sister first. I needed someone to talk to about coming out to Mom & Dad. She was very accepting as I expected and full of good advice. My fondest memory was when I came out to my Mom. We were sitting on the couch and the tears just started streaming down my face due to my expectation of how she would take it. She wrapped her arms around me and held me tight and said, "You're my daughter. I will love you no matter what." I felt such enormous relief and the nightmares stopped. oh yeah, she also said she already knew. :-)

MissPriss · 07-20-2011, 02:11 PM

My oldest sister had just turned 21 and recently moved out. My girlfriend was over for the night, mom and dad were in bed. When my sister moved out I moved into the bigger room. My sister went out for her birthday and naturally got slobbery drunk so instead of going to her apartment that she apparently had forgotten all about it, she came to my parents house. Now, its important to know that I was raised by my grandmother and never had much to do with my parents until this time, but anyway my sister stumbles into her old room catches us naked and flops down in the bed with us she crawls up on my girlfriends back to look down at me and says "Sissy are you a lesbian"? I said "apparently" and started laughing till I had tears in my eyes, all the while she is still on my gfs back. She grabs my face in her hands and says..ITS WONDERFUL!!! Then she takes off through the house beating on doors to my brothers and parents room singing " My Sister is lesbian l-e-s-b-i-an how cool is that" ?

Rockinonahigh · 07-20-2011, 03:04 PM

There has never been any doubt about my tomboy ways as a kid,mom thought they would go away over time,well it only got worse to her dismay.WEll did the stupid thig of getting hitched to a boi guy...now dont anyone have a cow..take a deep breath and breath ok?The only good thig that came from that was my son who is like me made over.I never had jobs that normal women have,I worked hard labor jobs that paid some good bucks cause it seems that life just went that way, so I folowed my path.I never sid I was queer nor did I ever denye it either it was just not brought up,so now sonny boy is grown and newly home from the army after a 15year hitch after he got caught up in the downsiseing of the forces.He was in his room playing vidio games so I desied to finaly takle to him and tell him after all these years.so hear I go it went like this...son can we talk a bit..shure mom whats up...well son ya know ahhh thers is something I got to say... so hear it is...im a flamin queer!Gee mom I knew that when I was a kid,u finaly telling me..(me) yeah I gess so...sonny said..no prob hear if thats whats on your mind..never was..I said okk any questions..No mom not a one..just have fun oh and be carefull.Then he goes back to his vidio games.I go off shakeing my head thinking he knew allll these years,thats my boy.

rubygirl · 07-20-2011, 03:20 PM

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Quintease · 07-24-2011, 10:18 AM

I was so desperate to shag a girl I used to bribe my best friend (with alcohol) to come to gay bars with me. Of course no woman ever looked my way and I would end up dirty dancing with my almost-heterosexual friend.

Later things hotted up when I actually made friends with a real lesbian! The potential for romance kind of died the first time I got drunk and threw up in her car.

Then I met an older (very drunk) woman who was more than happy to take me home - only to throw me out of her bed when she found out I was a woman-virgin. Two weeks later she tried to pair me up with her 17 year old ex-fling..

The sex eventually happened when I least expected it. Out one night, very drunk (again) and I spontaneously went home with a complete stranger. Not the smartest thing I've ever done, nor did it end well. That disastrous night did mean however, that within two months I took my first step out of the closet!

Slater · 07-24-2011, 07:16 PM

Wow reading through these makes me realize how spectacularly uneventful my coming out was.

On some level I had always known, but wasn't ready to confront it until college. I was 20 years old had been dating a guy for awhile and knew I was unhappy and finally just said to myself that really what I wanted was to be with women. And from that moment on, I never felt bad or conflicted or angsty about it.

But here is the sort of pathetic part that pretty well sums up who I was in my 20s: Within 6 weeks of that moment, I was part of a group that was meeting with the president of the university to present a list of demands and recommendations around LGB equality on campus -- but it took 3 years (yes, I said years) before I finally kissed a girl. (Which turned out to be the beginning of a torrid 18-month affair with a married coworker. Because one thing you have when you are 23 and have been waiting 3 yrs to find someome to get naked with? Good judgement.)

--Slater

07-24-2011, 10:18 AM	#7
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	I was so desperate to shag a girl I used to bribe my best friend (with alcohol) to come to gay bars with me. Of course no woman ever looked my way and I would end up dirty dancing with my almost-heterosexual friend. Later things hotted up when I actually made friends with a real lesbian! The potential for romance kind of died the first time I got drunk and threw up in her car. Then I met an older (very drunk) woman who was more than happy to take me home - only to throw me out of her bed when she found out I was a woman-virgin. Two weeks later she tried to pair me up with her 17 year old ex-fling.. The sex eventually happened when I least expected it. Out one night, very drunk (again) and I spontaneously went home with a complete stranger. Not the smartest thing I've ever done, nor did it end well. That disastrous night did mean however, that within two months I took my first step out of the closet! __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

07-20-2011, 09:52 AM	#1
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dear ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old G Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,601 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I became a musician in a lesbian/feminist band when I was eighteen. We played in local gay clubs, coffee houses, private parties, etc.

07-20-2011, 10:22 AM	#2
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,674 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	[COLOR="Blue"]For me, I knew at age 5 I was a lesbian! I LOVED girls!!! I was always "daddi" when we played house! <wink> So all through school, it was always a GIRL I was crushing on! So, "ageing "myself here...I came out at age 23...with a 36 yr. old woman! I remember we went to dinner, I was so nervous, so giddy...and so exuberant at finally being able to be with a woman!!! Well, that night, we put on an album, for ambiance...and I came out to......"drum roll" please.... "Help Me Make It Through the Night" by Sammi Smith! Everytime I hear that song, I smile inwardly...knowing that Sammi Smith did just that...she helped me make it through the night! We lived together for a year...until she broke my heart....cheated on me with my best friend! Have I ever come a looongggg way, baby!!! I will always be grateful for that one woman who helped me to "come out"...and I have never looked back!!![ /COLOR]

07-20-2011, 10:44 AM	#3
Gaige Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: above my boots Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 3,755 Times in 1,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I was 19 and in my second relationship (first one living together). I was having nightmares every night about my parents disowning me after finding out just how close of a friend my "roommate" was. I would wake with tears in my eyes. Hiding the real me was really stressing me out. I decided I had to live my life for me. Pretending to be who I thought they wanted me to be was making me miserable. I came out to my sister first. I needed someone to talk to about coming out to Mom & Dad. She was very accepting as I expected and full of good advice. My fondest memory was when I came out to my Mom. We were sitting on the couch and the tears just started streaming down my face due to my expectation of how she would take it. She wrapped her arms around me and held me tight and said, "You're my daughter. I will love you no matter what." I felt such enormous relief and the nightmares stopped. oh yeah, she also said she already knew. :-)

07-20-2011, 02:11 PM	#4
MissPriss Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: only lasting realtionship I have is with my job, my gun and my truck. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Tennessee Posts: 566 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 789 Thanked 580 Times in 259 Posts Rep Power: 2223294	My oldest sister had just turned 21 and recently moved out. My girlfriend was over for the night, mom and dad were in bed. When my sister moved out I moved into the bigger room. My sister went out for her birthday and naturally got slobbery drunk so instead of going to her apartment that she apparently had forgotten all about it, she came to my parents house. Now, its important to know that I was raised by my grandmother and never had much to do with my parents until this time, but anyway my sister stumbles into her old room catches us naked and flops down in the bed with us she crawls up on my girlfriends back to look down at me and says "Sissy are you a lesbian"? I said "apparently" and started laughing till I had tears in my eyes, all the while she is still on my gfs back. She grabs my face in her hands and says..ITS WONDERFUL!!! Then she takes off through the house beating on doors to my brothers and parents room singing " My Sister is lesbian l-e-s-b-i-an how cool is that" ?

07-20-2011, 03:04 PM	#5
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	There has never been any doubt about my tomboy ways as a kid,mom thought they would go away over time,well it only got worse to her dismay.WEll did the stupid thig of getting hitched to a boi guy...now dont anyone have a cow..take a deep breath and breath ok?The only good thig that came from that was my son who is like me made over.I never had jobs that normal women have,I worked hard labor jobs that paid some good bucks cause it seems that life just went that way, so I folowed my path.I never sid I was queer nor did I ever denye it either it was just not brought up,so now sonny boy is grown and newly home from the army after a 15year hitch after he got caught up in the downsiseing of the forces.He was in his room playing vidio games so I desied to finaly takle to him and tell him after all these years.so hear I go it went like this...son can we talk a bit..shure mom whats up...well son ya know ahhh thers is something I got to say... so hear it is...im a flamin queer!Gee mom I knew that when I was a kid,u finaly telling me..(me) yeah I gess so...sonny said..no prob hear if thats whats on your mind..never was..I said okk any questions..No mom not a one..just have fun oh and be carefull.Then he goes back to his vidio games.I go off shakeing my head thinking he knew allll these years,thats my boy.

07-20-2011, 03:20 PM	#6
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07-24-2011, 07:16 PM	#8
Slater Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Seattle area Posts: 147 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 41 Thanked 793 Times in 129 Posts Rep Power: 14631970	Wow reading through these makes me realize how spectacularly uneventful my coming out was. On some level I had always known, but wasn't ready to confront it until college. I was 20 years old had been dating a guy for awhile and knew I was unhappy and finally just said to myself that really what I wanted was to be with women. And from that moment on, I never felt bad or conflicted or angsty about it. But here is the sort of pathetic part that pretty well sums up who I was in my 20s: Within 6 weeks of that moment, I was part of a group that was meeting with the president of the university to present a list of demands and recommendations around LGB equality on campus -- but it took 3 years (yes, I said years) before I finally kissed a girl. (Which turned out to be the beginning of a torrid 18-month affair with a married coworker. Because one thing you have when you are 23 and have been waiting 3 yrs to find someome to get naked with? Good judgement.) --Slater