Being perceived as ditzy, flaky or shallow for being femme

[Tcountry]

Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

I say Fuck 'em

Sorry, I curse like a sailor and yes I am as femme as they come. There is always someone out there that has some judgement to pass or a stereotype to use. If you let them get to you then they win. They do not define you, you define who you are.

I have met many butches that love girly and extra feminine women. In fact, it drives them nuts

From a femme's perspective, there is nothing sexier than a woman embracing all that feminine beauty. From the curve of her neck to the curve in her waist.

Think Sunshyne sums it up here...(side note she really does swear a lot, and wears a pencil skirt that is oh so very tempting to skip whatever event we have planned)
Anyway...back on topic...*head out of clouds*
It is about YOU...how you define yourself, what you feel comfortable in, & how you "work what you have" that matters. The more confident you are just being YOU...the more likely you are to attract someone who is going to appreciate you for who you are.

I dunno how many more times I can say you...so I'll wrap it up & say just be proud & stop analyzing everyone else. Go out, have fun, & be happy in your choices.

*tip hat*

[msW8ing]

So many times I've sat here and read similiar posts from femmes/butches/tg/dykes however they ID. And it just makes my head spin. We fight to break out of the stereotypes that society has put on us. We fight for equal rights. This makes me proud. To witness and hear about when we have to fight amongst ourselves to break the stereotypes and our rights makes me sick. I am so NOT the "femme norm" as it were. I'm a 5'10" bbw with tattoos( and thanks to my grandfather who wanted me to be self sufficient )I can do car repair, I have refurbished houses, built stone walls. I grew up working farms and ranches. I was the single mother of 2 wonderful kids working 2 and 3 jobs to raise them. I cook/bake and love to clean. I can put Martha Stewart to shame. And Paula Dean aint got nothing on me.lol I love outdoorsy stuff to, camping and fishing (I bait my own hook, clean it and cook it too all with nails and looking good while i do it lol) I can wear jeans and tshirts and still feel femme. I can wear dresses and lace and look as femme as any of them. I can make a butch feel like they are the only butch in the world. I have passion and love with my whole being. What I dress in is how I'm feeling at the moment and what the occasion is. It's taken a few life lessons for me to learn that the clothes do not make the person. I know who I am and thats what matters. When asked to ID myself for those that need it, my usuall reply is, " I'm as hard as I need to be and as soft as I wanna be" You find your self worth from within yourself, do not allow others to dictate to you. Your a beautiful girl inside and out from what I've read on these threads. And you will find the person that is worthy of you. Don't let others insecurities of themselves be brushed off onto yourself through thier actions. Be confident and stay strong and just be the femme you feel inside that you are. Stay true to yourself and the rest will fall into place. Hold your head up high. As one of my major crushes Mae West said, " A woman who knows the ropes, will never be bound". *steps down from soap box* Just my .02 cents.