Musings after meeting with this adorable young heterosexual couple that wants to buy my house.

morningstar55 · 07-25-2011, 12:40 PM

to have someone in my life , to love and cherish .. like the couple you mentioned.. is something I had hopes for .. for many yrs.
im 56 now and well ........ think its time to give up such silly ideas.
good luck with your house sale.
and cute story

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Quintease · 07-25-2011, 05:15 PM

To be honest, being in a 'straight' relationship has taught me that people treat gay relationships differently.

I had never experienced any homophobia or nastiness while in a gay relationship, in fact everyone was always very respectful and nice. Yet I would feel relief when I was in a gay space where I knew that everyone would understand. I never thought about why that was, I just knew that it was so.

Still I was completely unprepared for how accepting, appreciative and inclusive straight people would be toward my straight relationship, it feels so different to anything I've experienced before. I've had mothers and daughters, other straight couples, single men and women, and elderly strangers, all approach us with a smile, a nod, or an affectionate comment. As a result I feel safe now telling perfect strangers about my love in the grocery store, something I would never have done before.

I assume it's not a prejudice thing. I assume it's just because straight people see their own experiences reflected in other straight relationships, whereas gay relationships are still a mystery to them. I can only hope the growing acceptance of gay marriage will help to normalise gay relationships for straight people.

Soft*Silver · 07-25-2011, 07:55 PM

when my granbabies are older (they arent born yet) I expect alot from this world.

I expect that gay marriage will be an old issue and a done deal in all the states

I expect lots of wonderful gay heroes in our armed services will be recognized just as heroes instead of as gay...

I expect that insurances will have their language and policies all adapted to meet our needs

I expect that there will be many many more gay politicians...who wont die because they are gay

I expect neighbors will not only be curious but friendly

I expect teachers to send home letters to Parents...inclusive....

I expect jobs to not be threatened by who we sleep with

I expect religion to catch up..yes, even catholism

I expect love to finally be the final verdict...

LipstickLola · 07-25-2011, 08:31 PM

I'm very demonstrative and openly affectionate, that said, I am also a late bloomer and Im so proud of my gf and happy to be seen with her by anyone.
Recently though, I introduced her as "my gf" and was promptly asked to not do that, she said it was nerdy. Ok, maybe it is and I am just behind the times?? When she saw the hurt (my emotions are easily seen, poker is not my forte) she explained that I am 'way more out' and she had been 'gay all her life'. It was a perspective I had not considered since I no longer feel that I have to hide who I am and am living authentically. It made me sad to think that I felt the need to hide who I was 35 years ago as a teenager, and now that i feel free, still I am somewhat forbidden to really 'be'

I long to walk hand in hand, or just to throw my arm around her.....

Great thread

07-25-2011, 12:40 PM	#1
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	to have someone in my life , to love and cherish .. like the couple you mentioned.. is something I had hopes for .. for many yrs. im 56 now and well ........ think its time to give up such silly ideas. good luck with your house sale. and cute story . __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

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Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	To be honest, being in a 'straight' relationship has taught me that people treat gay relationships differently. I had never experienced any homophobia or nastiness while in a gay relationship, in fact everyone was always very respectful and nice. Yet I would feel relief when I was in a gay space where I knew that everyone would understand. I never thought about why that was, I just knew that it was so. Still I was completely unprepared for how accepting, appreciative and inclusive straight people would be toward my straight relationship, it feels so different to anything I've experienced before. I've had mothers and daughters, other straight couples, single men and women, and elderly strangers, all approach us with a smile, a nod, or an affectionate comment. As a result I feel safe now telling perfect strangers about my love in the grocery store, something I would never have done before. I assume it's not a prejudice thing. I assume it's just because straight people see their own experiences reflected in other straight relationships, whereas gay relationships are still a mystery to them. I can only hope the growing acceptance of gay marriage will help to normalise gay relationships for straight people. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

07-25-2011, 07:55 PM	#3
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	when my granbabies are older (they arent born yet) I expect alot from this world. I expect that gay marriage will be an old issue and a done deal in all the states I expect lots of wonderful gay heroes in our armed services will be recognized just as heroes instead of as gay... I expect that insurances will have their language and policies all adapted to meet our needs I expect that there will be many many more gay politicians...who wont die because they are gay I expect neighbors will not only be curious but friendly I expect teachers to send home letters to Parents...inclusive.... I expect jobs to not be threatened by who we sleep with I expect religion to catch up..yes, even catholism I expect love to finally be the final verdict... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-25-2011, 08:31 PM	#4
LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678217	I'm very demonstrative and openly affectionate, that said, I am also a late bloomer and Im so proud of my gf and happy to be seen with her by anyone. Recently though, I introduced her as "my gf" and was promptly asked to not do that, she said it was nerdy. Ok, maybe it is and I am just behind the times?? When she saw the hurt (my emotions are easily seen, poker is not my forte) she explained that I am 'way more out' and she had been 'gay all her life'. It was a perspective I had not considered since I no longer feel that I have to hide who I am and am living authentically. It made me sad to think that I felt the need to hide who I was 35 years ago as a teenager, and now that i feel free, still I am somewhat forbidden to really 'be' I long to walk hand in hand, or just to throw my arm around her..... Great thread