The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

msW8ing · 07-28-2011, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Slade

Yep,I guess mid fifties is considered an oldie...

Ah to be young again.....

Slade

I respond (being an oldie myself) with the old tried but true quote of ..." Butches are like fine wine..they get better with age"

luv2luvgirls · 07-29-2011, 02:32 PM

can I come in? I'll be 40 in Sept

hello everyone

msW8ing · 07-30-2011, 06:00 AM

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Originally Posted by luv2luvgirls

can I come in? I'll be 40 in Sept

hello everyone

I'm sure you can. I've never found any doors locked on this site.lol Cool signature.

luv2luvgirls · 07-30-2011, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by MsW8ing

I'm sure you can. I've never found any doors locked on this site.lol Cool signature.

Thank you

I like your siggy

nice to meet you MsW8ing

msW8ing · 07-30-2011, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by luv2luvgirls

Thank you

I like your siggy

nice to meet you MsW8ing

Well thank you. Nice to meet you as well.

ruthie14 · 07-31-2011, 11:44 AM

Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here!

I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me.

I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not.

It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.

*Anya* · 07-31-2011, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here!

I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me.

I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not.

It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.

Don't know if this the exact response you are looking for but no, it is not me at all. I had one night stands when I first came out as bi but only with women, I was about 19 or 20. When I accepted I was Lesbian, I did have a few just because it was all so exciting and new, it was a second adolescence for me and a much, much better one than my first adolescence!

By the time I was in my mid-20's I was with my first real GF for a year and then my long-term one for 19.

I have not had casual sex since my break-up. I do not judge anyone for their sex life or choices. For me though, I am older now and looking at the last 20-25 years of my life down the road. I want another relationship, one of substance and committment-not just a fuck (though if I am totally honest, I wish I could do that without any emotional repercussions but I know myself, and that I can not).

I think that in this day and age, one can have whatever type of relationship we want. For some, the friends with benefits or one-night stand is it. I even believe it is also a right-of-passage when we are younger and that it helps us understand who and what we are and what it is we want and need. I know enought about myself now to know that it just would not work for me.

In some ways I am more confident in myself but in others; I feel much more vulnerable than I did when I was younger. When I was young, I felt invincible. I don't feel that way any longer.

luv2luvgirls · 07-31-2011, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here!

I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me.

I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not.

It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.

well for me i dont want a casual hook up i want something we can grow in and last.... hope that helps

Invictus · 07-31-2011, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here!

I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me.

I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not.

It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.

ruthie, there are many of us here. Single folks looking for the long term
relationships we deserve.

morningstar55 · 08-01-2011, 04:04 AM

morning loft dwellers

luv2luvgirls · 08-01-2011, 05:10 AM

Morning to you morningstar
hope everyone has a good week,I cant believe its already monday

*Anya* · 08-01-2011, 06:06 AM

Saw HD post about Ocean City, MD. The summer I was turning 17, was the first time my parents gave me any freedom whatsoever. A group of my HS GF's & I used to drive like bats out of hell as soon as we could get away each Friday to drive to the shore. We lived in Silver Spring and would make it there in just a couple of hours, driving 70+ miles an hour (bad, bad teens). In NJ & MD we called it the shore ( in CA they just call it going to the beach).

We used to pack all 6 of us in a room to keep it cheap. I remember the great big, long boardwalk, those fabulous, soft but a little crispy, French fries that we would drown in malt vinegar (the only fries I have ever done that with), the hours we would spend trying to outdo each other in how tan (now getting a couple of spots lasered because of that!) we would get, oh that was fun! I must go back sometime to see if those fries taste the same!

Sorry for this derailing of thread- just brought up some great beach memories!

Have a great Monday everyone!!

Gaige · 08-01-2011, 07:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Anya/Georgia

Saw HD post about Ocean City, MD. The summer I was turning 17, was the first time my parents gave me any freedom whatsoever. A group of my HS GF's & I used to drive like bats out of hell as soon as we could get away each Friday to drive to the shore. We lived in Silver Spring and would make it there in just a couple of hours, driving 70+ miles an hour (bad, bad teens). In NJ & MD we called it the shore ( in CA they just call it going to the beach).

We used to pack all 6 of us in a room to keep it cheap. I remember the great big, long boardwalk, those fabulous, soft but a little crispy, French fries that we would drown in malt vinegar (the only fries I have ever done that with), the hours we would spend trying to outdo each other in how tan (now getting a couple of spots lasered because of that!) we would get, oh that was fun! I must go back sometime to see if those fries taste the same!

Sorry for this derailing of thread- just brought up some great beach memories!

Have a great Monday everyone!!

great memories Anya. My parents started out taking us on day trips to Ocean City, MD. My Mom would pack a cooler full of sandwiches and soda and we would play in the Ocean and eat lunch on the beach. Not long after that my parents started renting rooms on the boardwalk. I guess the 2-3 hour drive got to be a bit much for day trips. In 1976 (i was 10) i won a stuffed Uncle Sam that was almost as big as me. I think it was the ping pong balls in the jars game. On the way back to our room, my Dad had quite a few people asking to buy it. I know i must have had a huge smile as i lugged that thing down the boardwalk. Those were great times. Everytime we hit the Bay Bridge i would ask, "Are we there?". I guess seeing that large body of water meant we were "down the Ocean".

*Anya* · 08-01-2011, 08:57 AM

Great memories HD! I forgot about the sheer joy of making it to the Bay bridge!

The song that reminds me of those days whenever I hear it on the radio is "Hot fun in the Summertime" by Sly & the Family Stone! Love that song, going to put it on my IPhone this morning. It always makes me smile

Hugs Lofters

luv2luvgirls · 08-02-2011, 06:18 AM

Morning to all the lofters.... what a great day huh

today is so easy...I feel light and hopeful, finally its gone dang it feels good!!!!

funny how what a person says sometimes can just hit ya upside the head and you see it for what it was...

morningstar55 · 08-01-2011, 06:10 AM

morning bk at you luv ahh anya .. your not derailing.. lol

im not sure if this can be seen ........ but wanting to share pics of my time spent at the races with Dutch Leonard... had a awsome time.
ty Dutch

xoxox
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?...00001514803763

luv2luvgirls · 08-01-2011, 06:51 AM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

morning bk at you luv ahh anya .. your not derailing.. lol

im not sure if this can be seen ........ but wanting to share pics of my time spent at the races with Dutch Leonard... had a awsome time.
ty Dutch

xoxox
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?...00001514803763

Morningstar,
nope it wont let you see it,says currently unavailable...would like to see the pic

A/G you know I have a song for those kinds of memories....Ziggy Marley, the good old days...that song is such a feel good tune

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Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,445 Times in 7,285 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Memories.. Saw HD post about Ocean City, MD. The summer I was turning 17, was the first time my parents gave me any freedom whatsoever. A group of my HS GF's & I used to drive like bats out of hell as soon as we could get away each Friday to drive to the shore. We lived in Silver Spring and would make it there in just a couple of hours, driving 70+ miles an hour (bad, bad teens). In NJ & MD we called it the shore ( in CA they just call it going to the beach). We used to pack all 6 of us in a room to keep it cheap. I remember the great big, long boardwalk, those fabulous, soft but a little crispy, French fries that we would drown in malt vinegar (the only fries I have ever done that with), the hours we would spend trying to outdo each other in how tan (now getting a couple of spots lasered because of that!) we would get, oh that was fun! I must go back sometime to see if those fries taste the same! Sorry for this derailing of thread- just brought up some great beach memories! Have a great Monday everyone!! __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

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Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,445 Times in 7,285 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Great memories HD! I forgot about the sheer joy of making it to the Bay bridge! The song that reminds me of those days whenever I hear it on the radio is "Hot fun in the Summertime" by Sly & the Family Stone! Love that song, going to put it on my IPhone this morning. It always makes me smile Hugs Lofters __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

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morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	morning bk at you luv ahh anya .. your not derailing.. lol im not sure if this can be seen ........ but wanting to share pics of my time spent at the races with Dutch Leonard... had a awsome time. ty Dutch xoxox http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?...00001514803763 __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

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ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	Happy Sunday Lofters.. Wow it has really been slow around here! I am curious... it seems in my circle of friends who are over 40 and single are only into friends with benefits or one night stands. Niether of which is ok for me... alright for them if that is what they want, just not ok for me. I am wondering how many folks here feel the same way they do. You don't have to be single to answer the question, just answer as if you are single if you are not. It just seems there are too few people that want the long term thing anymore. I am 49, I have had a few gfs but I have only been our for 5 years...some of which I was still married to a man and was not looking for a relationship with a woman at that time. It seems to me that only women who are under 40 even think about having a real relationship around here. If they are over 40 and believe that relationships are great... they are already in one.

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luv2luvgirls Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Asshole Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Kentucky/Austin/Wherever Posts: 2,310 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,387 Thanked 5,470 Times in 1,827 Posts Rep Power: 0	Morning to all the lofters.... what a great day huh today is so easy...I feel light and hopeful, finally its gone dang it feels good!!!! funny how what a person says sometimes can just hit ya upside the head and you see it for what it was...