The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

jelli · 08-16-2011, 07:17 AM

Good morning to all!

This is my second day of being 40!!!!!

My ? to you is this...

Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be?

luv2luvgirls · 08-16-2011, 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by jelli

Good morning to all!

This is my second day of being 40!!!!!

My ? to you is this...

Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be?

hmmm good question....I am not sure if its the age or just a certian time in all of our lives that we take stock of where we are and where we want to be and make changes to get there....I find in my walk of life I do this every few yrs. I feel like I need to look inside of me and what I present to others as who I am,to keep being true to me and growing as a member of society and as a human being.
I like having a goal to work towards as well...I always ask a potential asst mgr during thier interview these two questions.....what are your short term goals in life and your long term. If you have no answer it says alot to me.

Jelli do you find that you are reflecting on life right now? I am wondering if its not just that your baby went away to college

that can be rough you know

jelli · 08-23-2011, 04:54 AM

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Originally Posted by luv2luvgirls

hmmm good question....I am not sure if its the age or just a certian time in all of our lives that we take stock of where we are and where we want to be and make changes to get there....I find in my walk of life I do this every few yrs. I feel like I need to look inside of me and what I present to others as who I am,to keep being true to me and growing as a member of society and as a human being.
I like having a goal to work towards as well...I always ask a potential asst mgr during thier interview these two questions.....what are your short term goals in life and your long term. If you have no answer it says alot to me.

Jelli do you find that you are reflecting on life right now? I am wondering if its not just that your baby went away to college

that can be rough you know

I do a lot of self examination in general, but there's definitely been a change with my kids growing up and out. Bittersweet.

BTW I think many potential employers set people up with those questions. I say this because once upon a time I was a manager too. In the industry of companies that require asst. mgrs(especially fast food and convenience stores) it's not like they do much, if anything, to assist an employee in reaching any goals. Many of them are looking for a body to fill a space for as long and as effectively as possible. *shrugs*

rustedrims · 08-28-2011, 11:45 AM

It has been a long time since i was in here..Welcome to the new people..

My checkbook is the boss in my house..We got in a little disagreement and i started to work to much overtime then it became manditory..Well then the sun came out and so did the lawn mower and the sunny day unfinished projects..Time got away from me..I have been wanting to get back in here and thought now was a good time..

My thoughts go out to all the people on the east coast..Looks like Irene isnt hitting as hard as was predicted..That is a good thing..Thinking about the east coast Planet people and the people that i dont know..Waiting for a sunny day to dry things up..

Gotta make a small comment..In the work place i was refered to "a body"..Did not like that at all..You want a body Go to the morgue..There you can get a body..To me that is a person that can not add to the task at hand that needs to be done..I always do my 110% when people around me dont..But i do also understand that sometimes you gotta put a person there just to fill the position wheather they know the job or not..Therefore "The Body" comes into play..Explained that to my boss then got another boss and had to explain it again..Finding out i am not the only one that feels that way..Just throwing that out there..

Wanted to pop in and throw a hello in and a small comment..Better get outside and get something done,like an unfinished project..

Wishing everyone a good day..

s

blueeyes226_l · 10-01-2011, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by rustedrims

It has been a long time since i was in here..Welcome to the new people..

My checkbook is the boss in my house..We got in a little disagreement and i started to work to much overtime then it became manditory..Well then the sun came out and so did the lawn mower and the sunny day unfinished projects..Time got away from me..I have been wanting to get back in here and thought now was a good time..

My thoughts go out to all the people on the east coast..Looks like Irene isnt hitting as hard as was predicted..That is a good thing..Thinking about the east coast Planet people and the people that i dont know..Waiting for a sunny day to dry things up..

Gotta make a small comment..In the work place i was refered to "a body"..Did not like that at all..You want a body Go to the morgue..There you can get a body..To me that is a person that can not add to the task at hand that needs to be done..I always do my 110% when people around me dont..But i do also understand that sometimes you gotta put a person there just to fill the position wheather they know the job or not..Therefore "The Body" comes into play..Explained that to my boss then got another boss and had to explain it again..Finding out i am not the only one that feels that way..Just throwing that out there..

Wanted to pop in and throw a hello in and a small comment..Better get outside and get something done,like an unfinished project..

Wishing everyone a good day..

s

Ok,every one move over so I can pull up a chair. Hey,how is everyone? I see some new people in here! I wasn't getting notices from here so I didn't think things was still going on here. I've been sick and in need of a kidney. My kidneys are only working about 24% they have diped down as far as 14 % and at 10% they will not substane life. I need a trans plant. The funny part is every budy seems to think you have to be dead in order to be a doner,but you don't. Only has to have same blood typ I have. I don't know my typ yet. I have a lot of testing to be done,to see if my heart and lungs will take the surgery. Also,if I have a live doner,that might be a plus when,it comes to my health Ins to pay for it. If not then,I can't have the surgery. I have emailed Kidney foundasion and they tell me to email this othere place,I do and they tell me to email this place. I hate getting the run around when it comes to my life.
Any ways I'm glad this room is still open.I wanted to stop by and say hello and wish all well. blueeyes226_l

Inuus · 10-01-2011, 05:35 PM

blueeyes226_l I hope all goes well for you keep the faith!

blueeyes226_l · 10-01-2011, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Inuus

blueeyes226_l I hope all goes well for you keep the faith!

Thank you.Its very hard and things are very trying.

Invictus · 08-16-2011, 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by jelli

Good morning to all!

This is my second day of being 40!!!!!

My ? to you is this...

Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be?

Reflection...

Inspection...

Correction...

Life is an ongoing process...

jelli · 08-23-2011, 04:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Invictus

Reflection...

Inspection...

Correction...

Life is an ongoing process...

Definitely.

Babyangeleyez · 10-01-2011, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by jelli

Good morning to all!

This is my second day of being 40!!!!!

My ? to you is this...

Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be?

I just turned 41 a couple weeks ago and I find that I am now starting to re-evaluate and re-think some things with my life now. I feel like I'm in an "odd" place or something right now in my life. I don't know if its because I'm single or what, but I feel there is "something" missing. I don't feel whole right now.

rustedrims · 10-02-2011, 08:09 PM

Hello everyone..

Think we gotta get this thing going again..I like it in here..!.

Blueeyes226..
That really sucks..!!!..I can only imagine what you are going through..It seems like you never get a break..I remember the trouble you mentioned with the family a while ago..Is anyone helping you over there..??..Thinking only good thoughts for you and i do hope things will fall in place and become easier for you..

Babyangeleyes..

Think i know what you mean when you said your not feeling whole and in the wrong place..I am single myself and more now than ever i am pulling myself away from my family..Feeling alot like i dont belong at the "Get-to-Gethers..Tired of hearing the "Gay Jokes" and watching everyone laugh..No one is alowed to say mexican jokes any more because my sister-in-law's sister is dating a mexican..Let the gay jokes fly it is ok..Real tired of it..I feel out of place and want to be where i fit in the most..Already made other plans for Thanksgiving..One can only be kicked in the face so many times then they gotta quit comming around..Even if you kick a dog so many times eventually the dog stops comming around..I feel like the dog lately..

Wishing everyone a good week..

s..

clay · 10-02-2011, 08:58 PM

Stopping by to greet all my fellow lofters...hope everyone has had an incredible weekend. How about these cooler temps. I love it myself. Of course, cool, to me is low 70's as opposed to 90's. smiles.. Hope everyone will have a wonderful week ahead...hugs to all...see you around the loft...Clay

blueeyes226_l · 10-03-2011, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by rustedrims

Hello everyone..

Think we gotta get this thing going again..I like it in here..!.

Blueeyes226..
That really sucks..!!!..I can only imagine what you are going through..It seems like you never get a break..I remember the trouble you mentioned with the family a while ago..Is anyone helping you over there..??..Thinking only good thoughts for you and i do hope things will fall in place and become easier for you..

Babyangeleyes..

Think i know what you mean when you said your not feeling whole and in the wrong place..I am single myself and more now than ever i am pulling myself away from my family..Feeling alot like i dont belong at the "Get-to-Gethers..Tired of hearing the "Gay Jokes" and watching everyone laugh..No one is alowed to say mexican jokes any more because my sister-in-law's sister is dating a mexican..Let the gay jokes fly it is ok..Real tired of it..I feel out of place and want to be where i fit in the most..Already made other plans for Thanksgiving..One can only be kicked in the face so many times then they gotta quit comming around..Even if you kick a dog so many times eventually the dog stops comming around..I feel like the dog lately..

Wishing everyone a good week..

s..

Yes,"life" really sucks. It seems like I never get a break from any thing. But,maybe thats the cross I have to bear.Right now my sister and her hubbie are on this kick about don't tell don't ask. Someday they will eat ther words. I have emailed my daughter asking her to be tested and if she matches to give me one of her kidneys. I think I already know what her reply will be to me. But,Ill waite to see if I'm right. I'm trying to help my Mom out. She is making too many red blood cells and it in time turns to Lukemia. I feel so sorry for my Mom. I love her dearly. She is 85 and tends to for get things. She goes and has blood taken out,500cc. She is week after having that done.So far she gose about every 4 weeks.
I have lots of love to give but,no gal to share it with. Maybe someday I will. If any one wants to know more about me or has a intrest in me let me know.
I hope all are well with all of you people.

Babyangeleyes.. I know things are hard. I get ticked with my family. Try to remmber they don't understand. How ever what the are doing isn't right. Is your family church people? If I may ask.
Take care...

cuddlyfemme · 10-04-2011, 07:10 AM

Good Morning Lofters!!! I hope everoyne is having a good day and enjoying the nice Fall weather. Its chilly here in SC, sure beats the hot temps we'd been having. Now I can turn off my AC and keep the windows open . ..good for my electricity bill too . I hope to see this thread active again
Have a beautiful day everyone!

Rockinonahigh · 10-04-2011, 10:35 AM

It was a really cool night hear as well the temp was 48 when I got up this morning..I am lovin it after the tipple didgit weather we had.
Not much is going one hear ,im just fighting a sinus prob along with vertago wich is worse cause sometimes im ok then im not,the doc said I have calsium crystals loose in my ear...wish they would fall out or go away some how.
Im glad to see folks hear are up and about...take care all.

Tawse · 10-04-2011, 10:45 AM

and here I am mourning the loss of the heat... lol I hate winter. Can't stand it. Wish I could hibernate from November 1 - March 1.

Getting near time to break out the nature light and anti depressants lol

blueeyes226_l · 10-05-2011, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by blueeyes226_l

Yes,"life" really sucks. It seems like I never get a break from any thing. But,maybe thats the cross I have to bear.Right now my sister and her hubbie are on this kick about don't tell don't ask. Someday they will eat ther words. I have emailed my daughter asking her to be tested and if she matches to give me one of her kidneys. I think I already know what her reply will be to me. But,Ill waite to see if I'm right. I'm trying to help my Mom out. She is making too many red blood cells and it in time turns to Lukemia. I feel so sorry for my Mom. I love her dearly. She is 85 and tends to for get things. She goes and has blood taken out,500cc. She is week after having that done.So far she gose about every 4 weeks.
I have lots of love to give but,no gal to share it with. Maybe someday I will. If any one wants to know more about me or has a intrest in me let me know.
I hope all are well with all of you people.

Babyangeleyes.. I know things are hard. I get ticked with my family. Try to remmber they don't understand. How ever what the are doing isn't right. Is your family church people? If I may ask.
Take care...

No,not really church people. I just found out my brothers son is coming up for Thanks Giving and staying here at my Moms. He is the one who wasn't going to let me see my dieing brother because,I was gay. He made a lot of trouble between the rest of the family for me. Thats when,I had my heart atack. I can't stand him. He has stold stuff from my Mother and jiped her and I out of a lot of money. Now he is trying to make trouble with one of his sons about being with a black gal. They wanted me to marry them. I was going to how ever I feel I can't now do to I don't know if I will being doing it just because,his dad dosen't like it. I can't do it with out a clean mottove. I haven't told them yet I can't marry them. I want to tell them in person. I know they need a lot of pre marrital concaling. She has always been very respectful to me. well,I hope all of you are having a good week so far.

morningstar55 · 10-14-2011, 07:13 AM

morning lofter dwellers

wow its been a while since i been in this thread and on the planet ..
been busy driving more then before ever since I have aquired a team driver.
anyways..... will try to visit here more often.
right now we are hangin in Tulsa OKeeeeHoma..
hope everyone has a great day and a awsome weekend..

cuddlyfemme · 10-14-2011, 02:15 PM

I'm taking a break from cleaning But at least its Friday!!!

Soft*Silver · 10-14-2011, 02:22 PM

hello folks. Its a beautiful calm damp day in NE Ohio. Sitting around in my PJs and having a slow Friday. I was wondering if anyone in our age group has some trick or treat stories to share with us? What it USE to be like, as opposed to now?

08-16-2011, 07:17 AM	#1
jelli Member How Do You Identify?: Femmilicious Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: And you said I wasn’t your type!!! Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: SC Posts: 836 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,758 Thanked 1,079 Times in 377 Posts Rep Power: 16588549	Good morning to all! This is my second day of being 40!!!!! My ? to you is this... Do you start to look at your life? Evaluate where you are and where you want to be? __________________ “Sometimes we make the right decision; sometimes we make the decision right.” “Every conflict is a lesson in self-discovery for both of us. Sometimes it's only hindsight that makes it worth it. For you, I would do it all again.“

08-28-2011, 11:45 AM	#4
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 444 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,123 Thanked 2,553 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	hello It has been a long time since i was in here..Welcome to the new people.. My checkbook is the boss in my house..We got in a little disagreement and i started to work to much overtime then it became manditory..Well then the sun came out and so did the lawn mower and the sunny day unfinished projects..Time got away from me..I have been wanting to get back in here and thought now was a good time.. My thoughts go out to all the people on the east coast..Looks like Irene isnt hitting as hard as was predicted..That is a good thing..Thinking about the east coast Planet people and the people that i dont know..Waiting for a sunny day to dry things up.. Gotta make a small comment..In the work place i was refered to "a body"..Did not like that at all..You want a body Go to the morgue..There you can get a body..To me that is a person that can not add to the task at hand that needs to be done..I always do my 110% when people around me dont..But i do also understand that sometimes you gotta put a person there just to fill the position wheather they know the job or not..Therefore "The Body" comes into play..Explained that to my boss then got another boss and had to explain it again..Finding out i am not the only one that feels that way..Just throwing that out there.. Wanted to pop in and throw a hello in and a small comment..Better get outside and get something done,like an unfinished project.. Wishing everyone a good day.. s

10-01-2011, 05:35 PM	#6
Inuus Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: Single Not Looking Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 265 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 242 Thanked 377 Times in 143 Posts Rep Power: 3733068	blueeyes226_l I hope all goes well for you keep the faith! __________________ “Kindness and compassion toward all living things is the mark of a civilized society.”- Cesar Chavez

10-02-2011, 08:09 PM	#11
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 444 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,123 Thanked 2,553 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Checkin-in Hello everyone.. Think we gotta get this thing going again..I like it in here..!. Blueeyes226.. That really sucks..!!!..I can only imagine what you are going through..It seems like you never get a break..I remember the trouble you mentioned with the family a while ago..Is anyone helping you over there..??..Thinking only good thoughts for you and i do hope things will fall in place and become easier for you.. Babyangeleyes.. Think i know what you mean when you said your not feeling whole and in the wrong place..I am single myself and more now than ever i am pulling myself away from my family..Feeling alot like i dont belong at the "Get-to-Gethers..Tired of hearing the "Gay Jokes" and watching everyone laugh..No one is alowed to say mexican jokes any more because my sister-in-law's sister is dating a mexican..Let the gay jokes fly it is ok..Real tired of it..I feel out of place and want to be where i fit in the most..Already made other plans for Thanksgiving..One can only be kicked in the face so many times then they gotta quit comming around..Even if you kick a dog so many times eventually the dog stops comming around..I feel like the dog lately.. Wishing everyone a good week.. s..

10-02-2011, 08:58 PM	#12
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,671 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	evening fellow lofters Stopping by to greet all my fellow lofters...hope everyone has had an incredible weekend. How about these cooler temps. I love it myself. Of course, cool, to me is low 70's as opposed to 90's. smiles.. Hope everyone will have a wonderful week ahead...hugs to all...see you around the loft...Clay __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

10-04-2011, 07:10 AM	#14
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	Good Morning Lofters!!! I hope everoyne is having a good day and enjoying the nice Fall weather. Its chilly here in SC, sure beats the hot temps we'd been having. Now I can turn off my AC and keep the windows open . ..good for my electricity bill too . I hope to see this thread active again Have a beautiful day everyone!

10-04-2011, 10:35 AM	#15
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	It was a really cool night hear as well the temp was 48 when I got up this morning..I am lovin it after the tipple didgit weather we had. Not much is going one hear ,im just fighting a sinus prob along with vertago wich is worse cause sometimes im ok then im not,the doc said I have calsium crystals loose in my ear...wish they would fall out or go away some how. Im glad to see folks hear are up and about...take care all.

10-04-2011, 10:45 AM	#16
Tawse Member How Do You Identify?: TG Gender Queer Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Atlanta Posts: 730 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,973 Thanked 2,733 Times in 642 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	and here I am mourning the loss of the heat... lol I hate winter. Can't stand it. Wish I could hibernate from November 1 - March 1. Getting near time to break out the nature light and anti depressants lol

10-14-2011, 07:13 AM	#18
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	morning lofter dwellers wow its been a while since i been in this thread and on the planet .. been busy driving more then before ever since I have aquired a team driver. anyways..... will try to visit here more often. right now we are hangin in Tulsa OKeeeeHoma.. hope everyone has a great day and a awsome weekend.. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

10-14-2011, 02:15 PM	#19
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	I'm taking a break from cleaning But at least its Friday!!!

10-14-2011, 02:22 PM	#20
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,906 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	hello folks. Its a beautiful calm damp day in NE Ohio. Sitting around in my PJs and having a slow Friday. I was wondering if anyone in our age group has some trick or treat stories to share with us? What it USE to be like, as opposed to now? __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears