Are you OUT at work?

Novelafemme · 08-17-2011, 10:49 AM

i'm out in life.

work included.

Jeep · 08-18-2011, 02:33 AM

Halfway. There are people who know and people who haven't quite figured it out yet. I'm not the only one and it's not exactly a secret, but if they don't talk to me or hang out in the smoker's corner at break they don't have a reason to know. Also, one of the three supervisors is gay (and funny as hell) so they don't tolerate intolerance.

Ginger · 03-15-2012, 02:29 PM

Yes, I'm out at work. I haven't experienced any discrimination or backlash, or even much interest. I have long hair, and wear dresses, or a skirt and blouse and heels every day, plus I'm older, so maybe when people see me it doesn't set off any "warning alarms." Ha, if they only knew!

Mr Nice Guy · 03-15-2012, 03:04 PM

I'm sooo out at work that anyone standing next to me is gay too. Lol

girl_dee · 03-15-2012, 03:08 PM

I've been out at every job! Being an invisible femme people
assume i'm straight.

After sending empty boxes to myself so the UPS butch can come
See me several times they figure it out.

clay · 03-15-2012, 03:29 PM

all 21 years of my Nursing career, I was OUT! and PROUD! I have never, ever been harassed, heckled, or had any kind of hassles with my being gay. Even in public, with discreet PDA's. Even though I am retired, I am still OUT & PROUD! and still NO kind of issues anywhere I go...

Scuba · 03-15-2012, 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

After sending empty boxes to myself so the UPS butch can come See me several times they figure it out.

This...is priceless! **chuckling**

Scuba · 03-15-2012, 03:42 PM

Out at work btw

girl_dee · 03-15-2012, 05:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Scuba

This...is priceless! **chuckling**

once our repair person was a butch, i kept *breaking* things in my office...

thedivahrrrself · 03-15-2012, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

I've been out at every job! Being an invisible femme people
assume i'm straight.

I'm out everywhere, but work is a particularly important place for me. I found that if you mention things in passing ("yes, these flowers are from my partner") rather than announcing ("I'm a big homo! How does that make you feel?"), things tend to go better. One of the most conservative places I ever worked, I simply put up a picture of my partner's Navy photo, and people would ask who it was. I would tell them, and then what were they gonna do? Criticize a veteran? LOL Worked great, and everyone treated me like the Big Gay SME (Subject Matter Expert), which I don't really mind. ("Yes, I know where drag queens put their thingies. No, I cannot fix your car, but I know 5 lesbians who can. Actually, there are hundreds of ways two women can have sex....")

thedivahrrrself · 03-15-2012, 06:12 PM

Oh, and I quoted Dee because I can totally relate. The last thing I want is a flood of bio-men hitting on the new girl! Femmes have to come out as a precautionary measure!

ArkansasPiscesGrrl · 03-16-2012, 10:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

I've been out at every job! Being an invisible femme people
assume i'm straight.

After sending empty boxes to myself so the UPS butch can come
See me several times they figure it out.

I came out at a late age, at 49. Being one of those "invisible femmes", I wanted EVERYONE to know, and it was almost like "Hi, my name is Ann and I am gay!" (OK, not really THAT bad, but pretty close! LOL)

Then that settled down a lot, but I was still determined to stay out in everything I did. I didn't advertise it (other than all the pride bumper stickers I had on my car in their parking lots), but I didn't hide anything either. I really didn't get hassled at all. My last company I worked for in FL before moving here and opening my own business, they all knew from right away, about my sexual orientation, about my being in recovery, etc. It actually helped me many times, since I worked in the behavioral health field.

I also got to be the "token expert" on all things gay. And yeah, I have had female co-workers (straight) try to hit on me. I have heard on many an occasion that I just don't LOOK gay at all!

Princess · 03-30-2012, 01:24 AM

I am out at work, although I wasn't for the first 2 years that I worked there. You just never know with people in kansas...well people anywhere really. I got tired of hiding it though and just kinda jumped out. Turned out everyone was really accepting and now the guys at work constantly crack jokes with me, I love it.

1QuirkyKiwi · 03-15-2012, 04:24 PM

I’m Out and Proud at work; always have been. There aren’t many gays where I work…..there’s only two of us and he’s the Stone Mason, lol! I’ve not met with much prejudice and so many have said they would never have guessed, lol! The works annual Ball my partner has always been invited.

At work I try to maintain a high level of professionalism, especially as I deal with students, relatives, the Police, etc.

I’m Out and Proud at the Disabled Arts Studio. I’m the only Lesbian and there are three gay guys.

08-18-2011, 02:33 AM	#2
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03-15-2012, 02:29 PM	#3
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03-15-2012, 03:42 PM	#8
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08-17-2011, 10:49 AM	#1
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03-30-2012, 01:24 AM	#13
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03-15-2012, 04:24 PM	#14
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