What TO DO in a relationship.....

Mtn · 08-26-2011, 12:56 AM

When the relationship is over, accept one's personal responsibility and then move on. Don't air dirty laundry, doesn't make anyone look good, don't make passive agressive posts and pretend they are not.

Glenn · 08-26-2011, 05:41 AM

Don't Do anything. Take some breaks from your relationship. Focus on your other interests, or get some other s*** straightened out. Do something or go somewhere else then come back.

girl_dee · 08-26-2011, 06:05 AM

Take time together every now and then, no computers or phones, and just be, you never know what a difference that could make

girl_dee · 08-30-2011, 06:03 AM

Be honest and real. If something is bothering you deal with it, pretending it does not exist makes it snowball then becomes dynamite, waiting to explode.

bigbutchmistie · 08-30-2011, 06:12 AM

stand by her side even if you disagree with her and think she is wrong. Support her through the good and the bad.

Never go to bed angry at each other

Always be affectionate

Always be silly and laugh together

Loyalty is never an option

Make her feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world.

Communication, Communication, and COMMUNICATION. Talk about anything and everything.

Never hide anything from your partner. Any deception will kill a relationship.

girl_dee · 08-30-2011, 06:21 AM

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Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

stand by her side even if you disagree with her and think she is wrong. Support her through the good and the bad.

Never go to bed angry at each other

Always be affectionate

Always be silly and laugh together

Loyalty is never an option

Make her feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world.

Communication, Communication, and COMMUNICATION. Talk about anything and everything.

Never hide anything from your partner. Any deception will kill a relationship.

This last part is especially true, but sometimes we don't divulge the bad in us not realizing we could potentially hurt someone in the long run.

I don't agree with the going to bed angry part, sometimes I need an overnight to regroup and think. I am always better the next day where I can talk clearly... or especially if what has made me angry/upset happened late at night.

bigbutchmistie · 08-30-2011, 06:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

This last part is especially true, but sometimes we don't divulge the bad in us not realizing we could potentially hurt someone in the long run.

I don't agree with the going to bed angry part, sometimes I need an overnight to regroup and think. I am always better the next day where I can talk clearly... or especially if what has made me angry/upset happened late at night.

Each person is different I guess.

For me, I have learned after losing so many impotant people in my life to work it out no matter if it took all night so to speak. You might never get that chance... And I dont want my last memory to be of fighting or disagreeing. thats just me....

girl_dee · 08-30-2011, 06:53 AM

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Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

Each person is different I guess.

For me, I have learned after losing so many impotant people in my life to work it out no matter if it took all night so to speak. You might never get that chance... And I dont want my last memory to be of fighting or disagreeing. thats just me....

Good point, yes we are all different, but strangling someone because of their stupid behavior at midnite because I didn't want to be angry at them would not help my situation.

Oh you meant talking, yes yes..that too....

08-26-2011, 12:56 AM	#1
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08-26-2011, 05:41 AM	#2
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08-30-2011, 06:12 AM	#5
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	stand by her side even if you disagree with her and think she is wrong. Support her through the good and the bad. Never go to bed angry at each other Always be affectionate Always be silly and laugh together Loyalty is never an option Make her feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Communication, Communication, and COMMUNICATION. Talk about anything and everything. Never hide anything from your partner. Any deception will kill a relationship.