What TO DO in a relationship.....

Abigail Crabby · 09-23-2011, 07:19 AM

Make time for each other..........and the other side of that token - make time for yourselves.

No one can *be* your everything - do all the things you like to do together, but don't forget you had friends and family before the relationship.....make time for them just as you did before.

Tuck lil notes in their lunchbox, bag, purse etc

Be silly together - Life is too short to be too serious all the the time.

Be each other's support system, even if you can't mend the hurt or upset, you can listen and just be there for them.

Be you always - You are the person they fell for -

Accept them as they are - if you've made the right decision you don't need to try to change them.

Be true to him/her and most of all be true to yourself.

If you argue - be kind - words hurt, name calling hurts....

Go to neutral corners until you can comunicate on adult levels -

Most of all - love with with all you have, but always love yourself as much.

Remember they fell in love with you - not the you they want you to be.

Remember you fell in love with them, not the them you want them to be.

LaneyDoll · 09-23-2011, 07:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Abigail Crabby

If you argue - be kind - words hurt, name calling hurts....

OMG you are so right!!! Even words that seem harmless carry a huge sting. I will get over the fight but those words stick. I always wonder, "Do I really seem needy/ridiculous/mean?"

Abigail Crabby · 09-23-2011, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

OMG you are so right!!! Even words that seem harmless carry a huge sting. I will get over the fight but those words stick. I always wonder, "Do I really seem needy/ridiculous/mean?"

Indeed, is there ever a reason to call someone stupid or be hateful. How can someone say they love you when all that comes from their mouth are obscenties about you?

Tawse · 09-23-2011, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Abigail Crabby

How can someone say they love you when all that comes from their mouth are obscenties about you?

That should TOTALLY be left for sex

lol

Abigail Crabby · 09-23-2011, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Tawse

That should TOTALLY be left for sex

lol

True dat - lol

09-23-2011, 07:19 AM	#1
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