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Old 09-25-2011, 02:33 PM   #1
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Yes, we all have baggage and history and all that comes with just existing in the world. To expect that someone wouldn't have that is unreasonable at best, completely deluded at worst.

For someone who is single, and looking within this community, I think it's prudent to attempt some kind of balance when posting. At least be aware of the types of stuff that you are posting and the impression that you may be giving. I think that if someone is interested, there is a pretty good expectation that they will thread stalk you and read back over old posts. Will they see someone who is engaged with the community, having fun, making friends, etc. Or, will they see posts full of drama and angst and desperation?

I doubt that any of us can ever truly know how we are perceived online but I think the important part is that we present ourselves in as honest of a way as we can. Although that does not mean I have to post a picture of what my hair looks like when I first wake up in the morning!
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The great thing about this type of online getting to know folks is if you are interested in someone, you can read them their words and see their online interactions, likes, dislikes, political and religious views and so on and so on. If one is transparent here then when you do get fortunate enough for it to become one on one communicating you know what you are getting, and then it blooms into either a relationship of love, friendship, kinship, or just someone you chit chat every so often here or there. I say have fun with it be super careful and enjoy! Good Luck!
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Interesting thread APG

Like others have said, I think being honest is the most important thing; it lets others know who I am...let's me know who they are...and then we have a foundation for friendship or more or not.

I don't expect others to be perfect, or baggage free. Goodness knows I'm not!

Personally, someone who presented themselves as perfect, or who expected me to be, would be a huge red flag. Life isn't perfect, or even easy...and some times it's less easy than others. For me, the measure of a friendship, or a relationship, is not only how well do we do when things are easy and fun, but how well do we do when the shit hits the fan.

Having said that, what Gayla says is also true. If every single thing that someone posts is drama-filled or negative or "help me, I can't cope" or desperate....then that's a big red flag for me. Regular, healthy people (I think) have good days and bad ones, easy days and hard ones, funny moments and sad moments and brilliant moments and goofy moments....that's what keeps life interesting.
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