BBW ??? - Qualifications

SecretAgentMa'am · 10-06-2011, 10:07 AM

Amazingly enough, I'm actually a grown woman and don't need lectures about how to shop for clothes or find a doctor. I've been doing all those things since I was 12 years old. I'm also entirely aware that bullies aren't my friends.

I'm also aware that the previous comments weren't directed at me. They still applied to me, and were still hurtful.

Scrappy L'il Southpaw · 10-06-2011, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by SecretAgentMa'am

Amazingly enough, I'm actually a grown woman and don't need lectures about how to shop for clothes or find a doctor. I've been doing all those things since I was 12 years old. I'm also entirely aware that bullies aren't my friends.

I'm also aware that the previous comments weren't directed at me. They still applied to me, and were still hurtful.

Point taken.

Lectures were not the intent and I'm sorry you interpreted my words in that manner. My only intent was to offer some experiences, from my adult life, that have been beneficial for me and some positive encouragement.

That's it.

msW8ing · 10-07-2011, 03:37 AM

Personally I adore being a BBW. I was never "thin" I've always been a big girl. But I loved it in my young years I was such a tom boy that it didn't hinder any aspect of my life. I had lots of friends and was extremely active. In my 20's I worked out..dropped weight..became societies definition of sexy..I didn't care for that..those who approached me did so because of my looks..honestly now being a BBW..I get approached because of who I am..not how I look..I carry myself with pride..shoulders back..head high..just like my grams taught me..tall and strong..I'd rather shrink a few inches in height than my waist honestly. I'm more self conscious about my height. My friends/family love me for whats inside..my mind, heart and soul. Sorry for the derail..back to the subject..imho "qualifications" of a BBW has changed over the years..I recall when anyone over a size 10 was considered a BBW..now it's anyone over a size 16. I really think there are as many definitions as there are people with opinions on the subject. Just my .02 cents.

sarahwho · 10-30-2011, 06:17 AM

I think or in my opinion here....

BBW - Big Breasted Women or Big Beautiful Women is the "politically correct" definition of what it originally started out as....

I personally find labels offensive. In life's "society's view", I am either a bbw or ssbbw (aka super sized bbw), because I think the society's view is the sizing equals bbw is 18-1x (possibly), and if ya wear over a 1x, then some how they can categorize you as a ssbbw. So I haven't reduced "enough" yet (trying) to get back down to the next "label".

I find most (don't find offense) "males, ftm's, transpeople" that are big yummy! Other sizes too....just saying.

I don't label myself, because I am "me" - I'd like to say I am comfortable in my own body, but due to society's "standards" I find myself lacking at times. It can be heart breaking to me although, because it's not just the "males" of society, but also the "females" that tend to judge due to size. I am beautiful in my own way, but INSIDE! I don't need to show off to the world as a model....I have morals and codes on how to and how not to treat others....if only society would take those as a sacred way to live and act, there would be more acceptance everywhere!

I don't want to be "barbie doll" size, but close....lol.

smouldering · 10-30-2011, 10:01 AM

I have always been called a BBW because it seems to be the label that is put on me, I am 5'7 and very curvy, I can be a bit self conscious at times because when I was younger I was bullied for being on the bigger side, despite the fact I played many sports and was very active in the Girl Scouts and all the activities, I've always been a bit on the fuller side, It took me a long time to get to where I am today, I still have my moments but for the most part I am okay with myself, I carry myself well, my head held high and with as much confidence as I can muster.
I am honestly not bothered with labels, fat, curvy, voluptuous, its all good

aishah · 01-26-2012, 06:52 PM

i find the "what qualifies as bbw" conversation really interesting especially because of how it's classified with regards to porn and the fetish community...i had this discussion with some other sex workers recently. there's a line between curvy/bbw/ssbbw but no one's exactly sure where it falls.

my understanding is something along the lines of curvy is big hips/ass/tits but not a lot of stomach - the 'higher' end of 'normal' on the bmi scale (which i hate, but it's semi-useful for understanding how other people classify us as fat folks). bbw tends to be 'overweight' on bmi scale. ssbbw tends to fall farther into the 'obese' range. so when i weighed 240-250 i was bordering on ssbbw. now (at 215) i'm firmly in the bbw range. if i lost about 40-60 more lbs i'd probably be in the curvy range. the highest size i've worn was a 22/2x, now i usually wear an 18 (or a 20 in jeans) and xl-1x.

it's really confusing because i know a lot of sex workers who id as bbw for the sake of appealing to niche customers but aren't really considered bbw by fetishists as they aren't big enough. and breast/ass size plays into it a lot...having smaller breasts but a bigger stomach is more likely to get you classified as a bbw by others regardless of your actual weight.

personally i'm not a huge fan of bbw as a label for myself but it gets put on me a lot. i associate it with being fetishized and while i'm okay with that when i'm getting paid for it, it's not something i enjoy privately (although i know there are plenty of bbws who do, and that's cool). i tend to date people who prefer or at least like big women because i love my body and i have no desire to change it (so i am not getting involved w/someone who thinks i'm a fixer upper), but i won't date people who are into me primarily/solely because of my body size. i prefer terms like thick, curvy, voluptuous, fat, etc. when describing myself.

Leigh · 01-31-2012, 08:53 PM

I don't know if there is really anything that does qualify as bbw; anyone can say a certain size or a certain weight is considered a bbw but I just don't know if its fair to consider someone a bbw ........... it doesn't really bother me but even still just seems kinda silly to me personally.

10-06-2011, 10:07 AM	#1
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10-07-2011, 03:37 AM	#3
msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,497 Times in 654 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Personally I adore being a BBW. I was never "thin" I've always been a big girl. But I loved it in my young years I was such a tom boy that it didn't hinder any aspect of my life. I had lots of friends and was extremely active. In my 20's I worked out..dropped weight..became societies definition of sexy..I didn't care for that..those who approached me did so because of my looks..honestly now being a BBW..I get approached because of who I am..not how I look..I carry myself with pride..shoulders back..head high..just like my grams taught me..tall and strong..I'd rather shrink a few inches in height than my waist honestly. I'm more self conscious about my height. My friends/family love me for whats inside..my mind, heart and soul. Sorry for the derail..back to the subject..imho "qualifications" of a BBW has changed over the years..I recall when anyone over a size 10 was considered a BBW..now it's anyone over a size 16. I really think there are as many definitions as there are people with opinions on the subject. Just my .02 cents. __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West

10-30-2011, 10:01 AM	#5
smouldering Member How Do You Identify?: Punky girly girl, glittery femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, etc. Relationship Status: Single, Recovering Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,288 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,306 Thanked 3,974 Times in 924 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I have always been called a BBW because it seems to be the label that is put on me, I am 5'7 and very curvy, I can be a bit self conscious at times because when I was younger I was bullied for being on the bigger side, despite the fact I played many sports and was very active in the Girl Scouts and all the activities, I've always been a bit on the fuller side, It took me a long time to get to where I am today, I still have my moments but for the most part I am okay with myself, I carry myself well, my head held high and with as much confidence as I can muster. I am honestly not bothered with labels, fat, curvy, voluptuous, its all good __________________ ~~Smouldering~~ Suit the action to the word, the word to the action. ~William Shakespeare

01-31-2012, 08:53 PM	#7
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I don't know if there is really anything that does qualify as bbw; anyone can say a certain size or a certain weight is considered a bbw but I just don't know if its fair to consider someone a bbw ........... it doesn't really bother me but even still just seems kinda silly to me personally. __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

10-30-2011, 06:17 AM	#4
sarahwho Member How Do You Identify?: lonely femme.... Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single - I quit Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 232 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 80 Thanked 152 Times in 69 Posts Rep Power: 2722346	I think or in my opinion here.... BBW - Big Breasted Women or Big Beautiful Women is the "politically correct" definition of what it originally started out as.... I personally find labels offensive. In life's "society's view", I am either a bbw or ssbbw (aka super sized bbw), because I think the society's view is the sizing equals bbw is 18-1x (possibly), and if ya wear over a 1x, then some how they can categorize you as a ssbbw. So I haven't reduced "enough" yet (trying) to get back down to the next "label". I find most (don't find offense) "males, ftm's, transpeople" that are big yummy! Other sizes too....just saying. I don't label myself, because I am "me" - I'd like to say I am comfortable in my own body, but due to society's "standards" I find myself lacking at times. It can be heart breaking to me although, because it's not just the "males" of society, but also the "females" that tend to judge due to size. I am beautiful in my own way, but INSIDE! I don't need to show off to the world as a model....I have morals and codes on how to and how not to treat others....if only society would take those as a sacred way to live and act, there would be more acceptance everywhere! I don't want to be "barbie doll" size, but close....lol.

01-26-2012, 06:52 PM	#6
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,440 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	i find the "what qualifies as bbw" conversation really interesting especially because of how it's classified with regards to porn and the fetish community...i had this discussion with some other sex workers recently. there's a line between curvy/bbw/ssbbw but no one's exactly sure where it falls. my understanding is something along the lines of curvy is big hips/ass/tits but not a lot of stomach - the 'higher' end of 'normal' on the bmi scale (which i hate, but it's semi-useful for understanding how other people classify us as fat folks). bbw tends to be 'overweight' on bmi scale. ssbbw tends to fall farther into the 'obese' range. so when i weighed 240-250 i was bordering on ssbbw. now (at 215) i'm firmly in the bbw range. if i lost about 40-60 more lbs i'd probably be in the curvy range. the highest size i've worn was a 22/2x, now i usually wear an 18 (or a 20 in jeans) and xl-1x. it's really confusing because i know a lot of sex workers who id as bbw for the sake of appealing to niche customers but aren't really considered bbw by fetishists as they aren't big enough. and breast/ass size plays into it a lot...having smaller breasts but a bigger stomach is more likely to get you classified as a bbw by others regardless of your actual weight. personally i'm not a huge fan of bbw as a label for myself but it gets put on me a lot. i associate it with being fetishized and while i'm okay with that when i'm getting paid for it, it's not something i enjoy privately (although i know there are plenty of bbws who do, and that's cool). i tend to date people who prefer or at least like big women because i love my body and i have no desire to change it (so i am not getting involved w/someone who thinks i'm a fixer upper), but i won't date people who are into me primarily/solely because of my body size. i prefer terms like thick, curvy, voluptuous, fat, etc. when describing myself.