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[TCB]

Originally Posted by Thinker

Heh... I always look in the mirror and think I look exactly the same. My lady tells me 'no', and it seems that some of the folks I saw in Vegas last month would say 'no' too. There were people there whom I had not seen in two or more years, and they did not know who they were talking to.

Soooo... I'm guessin' you'll change, but I don't figure *you* will notice anything drastic.

Have a good night, Parker.

Thinker I must say, when I saw you in Vegas..it took me a while to catch on that it was YOU. Last I saw you was in Dallas. I was so oblivious for god knows how long. You're looking great buddy!
Not to mention, I have no idea why in the hell neither of us had spoken that whole weekend. I'm annoyed with myself, lol.

[Leigh]

I've been watching this thread on the sidelines for a few days, only because work has been very stressful and tonight was no exception. I just wanted to thank everyone for answering My earlier questions and for those who ask questions that maybe I haven't thought of or were just abit too shy to ask thank you. I enjoy reading everyone's posts and always learn something new, which is helping Me with My own journey which has just begun

[Bit]

Originally Posted by evolveme

Also, I am more frequently experiencing "lesbian-hate." You know, snark at the very idea of what Lesbian is. Now, given all of this, I do not feel myself to be oppressed. That's certainly not what I'm saying here.

My battle has always been for and about the ones I love. (And I think I can see that it's that way for you too.)

Nooooo, e, no. I have done my damnedest to stay OUT of battles, to stay in the middle where I belong rather than choosing one side over the other; yet I have been forced into a box and stereotyped MUCH to my very vocal protests!

I have ALWAYS stood for ALL Butches and ALL Transmen. I have never, ever wanted to choose. I finally gave in to the inevitable several years ago, admitted defeat, and left the field. I just could not take the battles anymore, not in my own community, not in the place where I wanted most to fit in. Since I was single at the time, the community was all I had... I couldn't deal with dissension and contention at that point, you know? The pain went too deep.

I'm sure you read about Parker's experience with Lesbians? Mine has been the Femme parallel, with people I considered sisters telling me I no longer belonged to their club because I wanted to be with a man, and slamming the door behind me. This happened so often, to so many of us, that it became a cliche.

I have seen a lot of Lesbian hate; I know it's out there---but I have also seen those of us who have tried to talk about this painful experience be accused of Lesbian hate when that isn't accurate.

Again, it's one of those emotionally fraught issues, where we all bring past pain to the table; sometimes that pain is what speaks the loudest.

Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

The above posts are excellent posts. But I feel I may have rattled some cages without meaning to. And please forgive me if I have.

{{{{{{{{{{{{Parker}}}}}}}}}}} Didn't rattle my cage, darlin, but I do appreciate hearing your experiences.

Originally Posted by Mister Bent

Thank you, Bit for speaking from the Partner Perspective. I read the first line of your post and turned to e and said, "of course - It applies to both sides of the relationship!" So glad you addressed this.

Thanks, Bent. I couldn't NOT answer, it just burst out of me; then I thought, "sheesh, Cath! He didn't ask you!" but I couldn't NOT post anyhow. *sheepish smile*

[atomiczombie]

Ok so I talked to my doctor (general practitioner) today, and she said I need to be careful about hormones because I have a history of carcinoid tumors. Geez, I had one in my appendix when it was removed 3 years ago. Now she tells me if I go on T they could come back and spread. They aren't cancerous tumors exactly, but they can cause problems. Ugh what do I do if the Endocrinologist doc says I can't go on T??

[Soft*Silver]

I have got to get my boyfriend over here. His screen name is Camo Eagle and he just had top surgery done. It went well and other than some minor discomfort at first and later, some pinches here and there, he is healing marvelously well. He had breast cancer a few years ago. His Dr is also concerned about him taking T because of this. He also had open heart surgery too. And he is 47. So many obstacles and yet he follows his dreams. I love his pluck!

I as a femme could care less who battles with me about my orientation becaue of who I date. Good lord. When i was with a bio man, lesbians hollered I was one of them> When I came out, they said I couldnt be a lesbian because I shaved my legs, wore make up and smelled pretty. When I discovered butches, I fell in love all over again with who I was because I had met my compliment. And then i discovered FtMs. Good lord. It was like not just chocolate, but Godiva chocolate! So they can tell me where I dont belong all they want. I'm the one with the good chocolate all over her fingers and in her mouth..yum....

Give Camo until Monday at least..its his military weekend...and with the stuff at Fort Hood, i am sure he is going to be amply busy even when he isnt on base. Look for him tho!

[Julie]

Originally Posted by atomiczombie

Ok so I talked to my doctor (general practitioner) today, and she said I need to be careful about hormones because I have a history of carcinoid tumors. Geez, I had one in my appendix when it was removed 3 years ago. Now she tells me if I go on T they could come back and spread. They aren't cancerous tumors exactly, but they can cause problems. Ugh what do I do if the Endocrinologist doc says I can't go on T??

I read your Carcinoid Tumor diagnosis -- The fact is... Most carcinoid tumors are malignant -- Actually the highest rate of carcinoid is found among men. I would read this site and if you can get your doctor to consult with Dr. Richard Warner in NYC, the leading (USA) carcinoid specialist, I would ask him.

http://www.carcinoid.org/

Truly, this is something which you need to check into, and are you following up with chemistries with your history (oooo i sound like a mother). While it is true, most carcinoids that are in the appendix are benign.

Julie

[atomiczombie]

Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

I read your Carcinoid Tumor diagnosis -- The fact is... Most carcinoid tumors are malignant -- Actually the highest rate of carcinoid is found among men. I would read this site and if you can get your doctor to consult with Dr. Richard Warner in NYC, the leading (USA) carcinoid specialist, I would ask him.

http://www.carcinoid.org/

Truly, this is something which you need to check into, and are you following up with chemistries with your history (oooo i sound like a mother). While it is true, most carcinoids that are in the appendix are benign.

Julie

If that is the case, then maybe I could go on T for a limited period of time, just until I get the masculinizing effects, then go off. I was thinking of that anyway, to be honest. Since I have no ovaries or uterus, I won't go back to producing estrogen afterwards, so that won't effect the changes that T will make. I gotta talk to my doctor about this.

Oh, and the word Carcinoid can be broken down to mean not cancer, but acts like a cancer: Carc= cancer, noid= acts like, or like but not the same.

Oh, and one more thing: when I had my appendix out, they did a CT scan and found nothing more in my gut. That was 3 years ago.

[Leigh]

I am just poking My head in to say hi to everyone

[Julie]

Originally Posted by atomiczombie

If that is the case, then maybe I could go on T for a limited period of time, just until I get the masculinizing effects, then go off. I was thinking of that anyway, to be honest. Since I have no ovaries or uterus, I won't go back to producing estrogen afterwards, so that won't effect the changes that T will make. I gotta talk to my doctor about this.

Oh, and the word Carcinoid can be broken down to mean not cancer, but acts like a cancer: Carc= cancer, noid= acts like, or like but not the same.

Oh, and one more thing: when I had my appendix out, they did a CT scan and found nothing more in my gut. That was 3 years ago.

CT Scans do not generally find carcinoids until they are about 5mm -- there is a special scan called an Octreotide Scan, which detects these hormone producing neuroendocrine tumors. Including chemistry testing such as 5HIAA and ChromograninA. These are the only conclusive testing available in the states for carcinoid. Just be sure you check it out with your doctor and at the very least a carcinoid specialist.

Julie