Cancer Support and Caregivers Who Are Trail Blazers!

[clay]

Tonight, all I want is a loving body to lie down by me, to hold me, to soothe my weary body..and to tell me this will be okay, to tell me how she loves me, and will walk this path with me...just a soft, sweet, and comforting body...to make me feel her love...and comfort me..where are you? I so need you...tonight..for a couple of nights..let my body be wrapped in yours...please?

[Tommi]

Good morning everyone. Sending hugs to all that come and go and an extra one to clay who needs a hand, huuuuuggggs 2 OneOfAKind, Cat, Debby and allll

I am fighting my way out of a funk this AM, so, what do ya do.Come here and post, write it out I spose........
My friend Milana passed away Thursday. She had been in a nursing home since August 2010, and was doing okay. I had this phone message from Cres, her brother-in-law when I got home from work. "Tommi, Milana passed away quickly this afternoon. She had gone to take a shower, got back to her room, and began to throw up blood, and hemorrhaged. When the nurse came to tell us , the paramedics were already there and took her to the Emergency hospital, and they said she had a cardiac arrest. It was fast.Just wanted to let you know in case you were coming to visit Sat."

I was with my buddy when she was diagnosed with esophageal cancer June-2010. It was too late to operate when found. Told the chemo and radiation were palliative and would help keep the mass in her throat smaller. Her family never accepted that she was gay, and had shunned her for 20 years, but rallied round, and made peace with her when she got sick.

She was a valiant fighter for 16 months, with a trach tube and unable to talk. She thought it was a hiatal hernia because she was having trouble swallowing for a year or more before going to the right doctor. After Placement of a feeding tube, she had to have a trach tube because she couldn't come out of the anesthesia in July 2010. After that, she never came home again. She went from acute care, to sub-acute nursing home. She went through chemo and radiation

She was a great Wii bowler and won at all the games and did great crafts in the nursing home.

To those who feel yucky, or that something just isn't right in your body and being, seek a doctor that gets it. Many times we are just written off by busy and/or incompetent doctors. I can tell you I have fired many of the Doc's I went to. I fired the specialist that didn't want to do a thorough work up, and other scans and tests on me when I was diagnosed with Uterine cancer and prior to a radical total hysterctomy,tubes, ovaries and 16 lymph nodes. An ultrasound had shown my one kidney was twice the size of the other, and she was just "going to have a kidney surgeon on standby, just in case"...no, but hell no. I wanted an MRI, cat scan, IVP, etc. BEFORE the opened me up. She said, " Oh well we will see what kind of cancer it is and go from there..:

I said, :NO,,, we won't" and fired her..I went to a cancer gynecologist who ran all of the cancer screening tests PRIOR to surgery,
okay, I have talked enough. Tiggergirl wants Daddy to hold her cuz it's her turn for attention.
bye computer peeeps

[Novelafemme]

{{{{Tommi}}}}} My condolences on the loss of your friend, Milana. She'll be kicking butt at wii bowling in the clouds.

{{{{Clay}}}} I will try to give you a call today. I'm not a huge phone person, but I know how it feels to need a reassuring voice every now and again. Be loving to yourself right now, dear one.

So good to see you, Debby!

Back later with more.

[Spirit Dancer]

Tommi
For Milana and for you the one who stood by giving care and asking nothing in return, keeping you close in thought.
For those who are still fighting keep hope, i do even when days are dark hope remains.

Originally Posted by Tommi

Good morning everyone. Sending hugs to all that come and go and an extra one to clay who needs a hand, huuuuuggggs 2 OneOfAKind, Cat, Debby and allll

I am fighting my way out of a funk this AM, so, what do ya do.Come here and post, write it out I spose........
My friend Milana passed away Thursday. She had been in a nursing home since August 2010, and was doing okay. I had this phone message from Cres, her brother-in-law when I got home from work. "Tommi, Milana passed away quickly this afternoon. She had gone to take a shower, got back to her room, and began to throw up blood, and hemorrhaged. When the nurse came to tell us , the paramedics were already there and took her to the Emergency hospital, and they said she had a cardiac arrest. It was fast.Just wanted to let you know in case you were coming to visit Sat."

I was with my buddy when she was diagnosed with esophageal cancer June-2010. It was too late to operate when found. Told the chemo and radiation were palliative and would help keep the mass in her throat smaller. Her family never accepted that she was gay, and had shunned her for 20 years, but rallied round, and made peace with her when she got sick.

She was a valiant fighter for 16 months, with a trach tube and unable to talk. She thought it was a hiatal hernia because she was having trouble swallowing for a year or more before going to the right doctor. After Placement of a feeding tube, she had to have a trach tube because she couldn't come out of the anesthesia in July 2010. After that, she never came home again. She went from acute care, to sub-acute nursing home. She went through chemo and radiation

She was a great Wii bowler and won at all the games and did great crafts in the nursing home.

To those who feel yucky, or that something just isn't right in your body and being, seek a doctor that gets it. Many times we are just written off by busy and/or incompetent doctors. I can tell you I have fired many of the Doc's I went to. I fired the specialist that didn't want to do a thorough work up, and other scans and tests on me when I was diagnosed with Uterine cancer and prior to a radical total hysterctomy,tubes, ovaries and 16 lymph nodes. An ultrasound had shown my one kidney was twice the size of the other, and she was just "going to have a kidney surgeon on standby, just in case"...no, but hell no. I wanted an MRI, cat scan, IVP, etc. BEFORE the opened me up. She said, " Oh well we will see what kind of cancer it is and go from there..:

I said, :NO,,, we won't" and fired her..I went to a cancer gynecologist who ran all of the cancer screening tests PRIOR to surgery,
okay, I have talked enough. Tiggergirl wants Daddy to hold her cuz it's her turn for attention.
bye computer peeeps

[clay]

(((((((((((((((((Tommi))))))))))))))))...my deepest condolences, my friend! Yes, Milana is kicking butt on Wii Bowling in the clouds now..hold onto the memories you two shared..she is with you..in your heart, my friend! Take care..know we walk with you...in spirit...Clay
To Debby, CatalinaRose, OOAK, Debby, Dapper, and all the other bravest of Warriors...I send each a big hug..and love you all...we will continue to hold one another, walk the path we are on, and be lovingly supportive..always...I heart you all..Clay

[SugarFemme]

(((((((((((((Tommi))))))))))))) I am sorry for your loss. I can only imagine your feelings and sadness. In the Jewish tradition we tear our coat collar when someone passes away as physical proof that we will never be whole when a loved one dies. I always thought it a strange and archaic tradition, but as I have grown older it makes total sense to me. I wish you the best Tommi.

[deb_U_taunt]

I so understand this feeling. Even though a friend came to stay during chemo, I have never felt so alone. The dog, as much as she loves me, just doesn't cut it.

Originally Posted by claybaby

Tonight, all I want is a loving body to lie down by me, to hold me, to soothe my weary body..and to tell me this will be okay, to tell me how she loves me, and will walk this path with me...just a soft, sweet, and comforting body...to make me feel her love...and comfort me..where are you? I so need you...tonight..for a couple of nights..let my body be wrapped in yours...please?