The Love list.

Sachita · 11-19-2011, 05:52 AM

Ok, this should be interesting. I'm going to work really hard on this.

1- Completely honest

2- Secure with themselves and financially (dont have to be rich, just able to fend for themselves)

3- health conscious (prefers organic, buys responsibly)

4- wants to live rural on a farm and a strong desire to become sustainable

5- adoring- submissive to me. Enjoys the type of dynamic that inspires a true female led relationship. They are strong, secure, able and highly intelligent- the simply allow me to be in charge because it "feels" right to them.

6- environmentally conscious - cares about the planet

7- open-minded - non-judgmental

8- adventurous and spontaneous - responsible most of the time yet can enjoy child like play.

9- deeply enjoys gardening and growing food

10- Loves animals-especially dogs!

11- enjoys deep family connections, including our own

12- Likes to clean and do laundry

I hate it! I cook!

13- allows me to touch them and submits to my sometimes aggressive and wild nature.

14- Isn't needy and doesnt get insecure at the amount of personal space I require. they too enjoy time a lone and able to enjoy their own space.

15- - for the past 10 years I've dated butch. I'm more open now and into the human. I prefer masculine appearance but have met some submissive femmes that bring out my own masculine energy. I have a lot of it and whoever I am with appreciates this about me. They can be masculine, butch, etc. just remember who is in charge! (wink)

16- enjoys the outdoors- camping, fishing, just being outside.

17- loves making our nice and a special place- nice flowers, organized, inviting for friends and family.

18- not afraid of hard work or getting dirty.

19- intelligent, able to hold conversation but isn't yapping in my ear all the time or hurting my brain with constant chatter.

20- enjoys good food and wine in moderation (I cook- I buy)

21- does not use drugs of any kind

22- who's idea of a perfect evening is sitting outside (or inside) by a toasty fire, having a glass of wine, maybe playing a game, eating, talking and just being in the moment.

at this point in my life I avoid any red flags whereas in the past I overlooked things. I only become committed once I know we are both invested in the long haul. I am slow moving, watching, studying and carefully making decisions.

Passionaria · 11-20-2011, 07:54 PM

*chemistry and connection*
tenderness and fineness
loving and expresses it freely
emotionally honest but kind
when they kiss me or touch me, I melt and get weak in the knees
Passionate ~ a believer in senseless acts of passion in the name of love or lust
sexy (yes it's high on the list)
must be sex positive / tender and expressive but very naughty, edgy
expressive with well developed communication skills
Loves them self and their body
Has a Spiritual base ~ respectful
creative ~ intelligent
generous of spirit
*must have a sense of style and know how to dress*
high emotional quotient (EQ)
and lots of points if they can dance well enough to make my jaw drop

These are the qualities I can't live without......

chai~ · 11-20-2011, 09:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Passionaria

*chemistry and connection*
when they kiss me or touch me, I melt and get weak in the knees
lusty
sexy (yes it's high on the list)
must be sex positive / tender and expressive but very naughty, edgy
expressive with well developed communication skills
Loves them self and their body
Has a Spiritual base ~ respectful
creative ~ intelligent
generous of spirit
*must have a sense of style and know how to dress*
high emotional quotient (EQ)
and lots of points if they can dance well enough to make my jaw drop

These are the qualities I can't live without......

I like this....!
I would like, "lots of points if they can dance well enough to make me want to take my clothes off with them!!!" Just sayin!!!

Mr Nice Guy · 01-25-2012, 04:35 PM

Ok I'm bumping this for all those looking for love. Now I need to go back and read what I missed.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-14-2012, 04:26 PM

Ok I'll bump this thread. If you want me to.

thedivahrrrself · 06-14-2012, 06:23 PM

Not looking for a relationship, but I'm glad you bumped this thread.

Maybe a list will help me over the next few months.
YSK I reserve the right to amend this from time to time.

MUST-HAVES:

Compassion
Sincerity
Decisiveness
Honesty, even if it means sacrificing a little tact
Intelligence
Must be a geek/wonk about something, even if it's something I think is lame (like the reproduction habits of spiders, or how to build a transmission)
Healthy Sex Drive (sorry, but it's true)
Gentleness - must make me feel safe
Protectiveness - see above
Butchiness - that certain je ne se quois
Likes dogs
Treats people well, this includes the waitress and the bus driver

MUST-NOTS:

Excessive Insecurity
A need to control me (I rebel; I can't help it)
Meanness
Lying
Manipulative
Paranoia
Smokers (sorry, I just don't think I can live with that again)
Chronically unemployed
Laziness

JUST ICING (because who doesn't love cake?):

Driven, goal-oriented
Might want kids
Good conversationalist (this is a must in an LDR, but icing otherwise)
Good grammar
Semi-obsessive hand-washer (it's good to have things in common)
Values education and the pursuit of knowledge
Loves museums
Will go with me to the opera
Doesn't think my girl music is lame ♪♫♪

thedivahrrrself · 06-14-2012, 07:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by thedivahrrrself

Must be a geek/wonk about something, even if it's something I think is lame (like the reproduction habits of spiders, or how to build a transmission)

Apparently you only RE-build transmissions. (Doesn't someone build them somewhere? Or do they just appear built?)

I stand corrected.

And I know geeks who are geeky about their cars. I'm just sayin'

11-19-2011, 05:52 AM	#1
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Ok, this should be interesting. I'm going to work really hard on this. 1- Completely honest 2- Secure with themselves and financially (dont have to be rich, just able to fend for themselves) 3- health conscious (prefers organic, buys responsibly) 4- wants to live rural on a farm and a strong desire to become sustainable 5- adoring- submissive to me. Enjoys the type of dynamic that inspires a true female led relationship. They are strong, secure, able and highly intelligent- the simply allow me to be in charge because it "feels" right to them. 6- environmentally conscious - cares about the planet 7- open-minded - non-judgmental 8- adventurous and spontaneous - responsible most of the time yet can enjoy child like play. 9- deeply enjoys gardening and growing food 10- Loves animals-especially dogs! 11- enjoys deep family connections, including our own 12- Likes to clean and do laundry I hate it! I cook! 13- allows me to touch them and submits to my sometimes aggressive and wild nature. 14- Isn't needy and doesnt get insecure at the amount of personal space I require. they too enjoy time a lone and able to enjoy their own space. 15- - for the past 10 years I've dated butch. I'm more open now and into the human. I prefer masculine appearance but have met some submissive femmes that bring out my own masculine energy. I have a lot of it and whoever I am with appreciates this about me. They can be masculine, butch, etc. just remember who is in charge! (wink) 16- enjoys the outdoors- camping, fishing, just being outside. 17- loves making our nice and a special place- nice flowers, organized, inviting for friends and family. 18- not afraid of hard work or getting dirty. 19- intelligent, able to hold conversation but isn't yapping in my ear all the time or hurting my brain with constant chatter. 20- enjoys good food and wine in moderation (I cook- I buy) 21- does not use drugs of any kind 22- who's idea of a perfect evening is sitting outside (or inside) by a toasty fire, having a glass of wine, maybe playing a game, eating, talking and just being in the moment. at this point in my life I avoid any red flags whereas in the past I overlooked things. I only become committed once I know we are both invested in the long haul. I am slow moving, watching, studying and carefully making decisions. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese

11-20-2011, 07:54 PM	#2
Passionaria Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Urban Bohemian : http://youtu.be/IM96Ch9Gx4A Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: She ran away with with the Gypsy's ✿ Posts: 2,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 3,737 Times in 1,248 Posts Rep Power: 16689910	Having their life together, and flourishing is a baseline; chemistry and connection tenderness and fineness loving and expresses it freely emotionally honest but kind when they kiss me or touch me, I melt and get weak in the knees Passionate ~ a believer in senseless acts of passion in the name of love or lust sexy (yes it's high on the list) must be sex positive / tender and expressive but very naughty, edgy expressive with well developed communication skills Loves them self and their body Has a Spiritual base ~ respectful creative ~ intelligent generous of spirit must have a sense of style and know how to dress high emotional quotient (EQ) and lots of points if they can dance well enough to make my jaw drop These are the qualities I can't live without...... __________________ *Moon cat madness*

06-14-2012, 06:23 PM	#6
thedivahrrrself Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Sapiosexual Femme Relationship Status: Mrs. Grumpy Cat Tournaments Won: 4 Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: 8,660 feet high in the Andes Posts: 2,640 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,519 Thanked 11,657 Times in 2,292 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Not looking for a relationship, but I'm glad you bumped this thread. Maybe a list will help me over the next few months. YSK I reserve the right to amend this from time to time. MUST-HAVES: Compassion Sincerity Decisiveness Honesty, even if it means sacrificing a little tact Intelligence Must be a geek/wonk about something, even if it's something I think is lame (like the reproduction habits of spiders, or how to build a transmission) Healthy Sex Drive (sorry, but it's true) Gentleness - must make me feel safe Protectiveness - see above Butchiness - that certain je ne se quois Likes dogs Treats people well, this includes the waitress and the bus driver MUST-NOTS: Excessive Insecurity A need to control me (I rebel; I can't help it) Meanness Lying Manipulative Paranoia Smokers (sorry, I just don't think I can live with that again) Chronically unemployed Laziness JUST ICING (because who doesn't love cake?): Driven, goal-oriented Might want kids Good conversationalist (this is a must in an LDR, but icing otherwise) Good grammar Semi-obsessive hand-washer (it's good to have things in common) Values education and the pursuit of knowledge Loves museums Will go with me to the opera Doesn't think my girl music is lame ♪♫♪ __________________ Small business owners around the world use microfinance to help expand their businesses and provide for their families. You can help! Click here to learn about Kiva.

01-25-2012, 04:35 PM	#4
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok I'm bumping this for all those looking for love. Now I need to go back and read what I missed.

06-14-2012, 04:26 PM	#5
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok I'll bump this thread. If you want me to.