Regrets...Do You Have One or Some?

CockyDude · 11-22-2011, 08:01 AM

I've always tried to replace feeling regret with learning something. Would I like to be able to change a few things along the way? Absolutely but in the end all of our experiences add up to equal the whole of who we are; regrets and all.

1QuirkyKiwi · 11-22-2011, 08:59 AM

I've made choices in my life based on how I felt, my experiences and resources at THAT time in my life - they haven't always been the best of choices, yet, my life has been an adventure with the ups and downs. I've walked my own path in life - not always so sure of the way.

It's not a regret as such; more a desire that I hoped to achieve after my studies finished in London in the early 90s. I'd planned on doing a Masters degree in Textile conservation and working as a Curator of Textile restoration and preservation.

"Bumps, bruises, joy and laughter. What a wonderful Tapestry it makes in life!"

Greyson · 11-22-2011, 09:59 AM

One of my biggest regrets is dabbling in drugs and alcohol when I was a teenager. At the age of 15 I had an auto accident that changed my life.

Initially I was pronounced permanently disabled from this auto accident. Joining the Marine Corp when I graduated from High School was no longer an option for me. This was my plan to begin my adult life and find a way to get my college education.

I have wondered what my life would look like today if I had kept my physical ability with the belief in myself and the kindness of others. My life has turned out blessed but I know it would have been different.

Stacy · 11-22-2011, 10:04 AM

I only have one true regret. It is the one thing I can honestly say that I do not think it would affect where I am in my life at all right now, having not had this person in it. Yes, it is a person.

princessbelle · 11-22-2011, 10:05 AM

One regret that stands out in my mind is not having more children. Being married to a bio man it is really a wonder i had any at all, looking back....lol.

But, knowing what i know now, i would have left that relationship way before 17 years of it and would have been artificially inseminated at least a couple of more times.

I would have loved to have had a girl, but even if i had continued to have boys, i enjoyed being pregnant and i loved raising children. It is very hard for me to know i am too old to do this anymore and honestly it has been a very painful acceptance.

If i had to do over, i would definitely had more children, probably had a house full.

Quintease · 11-22-2011, 01:14 PM

Regrets... I have a few... but then again... too few to mention...

Growing old is a privilege denied to many...Never leave behind regrets...

I regret the things I didn't do, it's true. I regret not saving, I regret not caring more about others, I regret not sticking to things that I was good at. I regret not walking when I was unhappy, I regret not holding my peace when it didn't matter. I regret not accepting help when I was offered to me, I regret not accepting that some things I just could not do on my own. I regret not finishing my degree, I regret that I didn't know what love was until it found me. I regret wasting my time on the unworthy. I regret not thinking about the future until it forced itself upon me. I regret so much and yet so little.

I don't regret ending up the person that I now am.

Cowboi · 11-22-2011, 06:18 PM

Regrets.....I have a few. Whats done is done. I'm thinkin without them though, I might not be where I am today. It has been a interesting trip though, and as I always say...Its all about the road trip.

durrrrrrrr · 11-22-2011, 06:44 PM

should of, would of, could of

ayup, I have regrets.

not spending more time with my Mother, but at the age of 13, why would I been thinking she was going to pass away.

Regret, not speaking up to my Dad sooner then what I had. but , i did, finally.

not letting people get close to me, my heart, when I was younger ( 20's )

some others, may have been regrets at the time, but I am where i am right now because of those choices, and everything is alright.

Strappie · 11-22-2011, 06:47 PM

Still to this day and everyday since that day I said the 2 powerful words to my mom as a young teen... "Fuck You".... She never said a word to me about it.. because she knew I would regret it till the day I die.... God Mom's are so smart!!

I don't regret much at all ... Because it's the path I've chose to take there for it's not a regret.... I just regret those two powerful words.

Leigh · 11-22-2011, 07:07 PM

Yes I do have regrets and I will probably have them for awhile, however I wil no longer let them dictate to Me who I will be in future years

Delish · 12-09-2011, 10:38 AM

Most recent regret....dating a liar -sigh-

Novelafemme · 11-22-2011, 02:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by princessbelle

One regret that stands out in my mind is not having more children. Being married to a bio man it is really a wonder i had any at all, looking back....lol.

But, knowing what i know now, i would have left that relationship way before 17 years of it and would have been artificially inseminated at least a couple of more times.

I would have loved to have had a girl, but even if i had continued to have boys, i enjoyed being pregnant and i loved raising children. It is very hard for me to know i am too old to do this anymore and honestly it has been a very painful acceptance.

If i had to do over, i would definitely had more children, probably had a house full.

*packing up one sassy ten year old girl and shipping her off to Princessbelle ASAP.

julieisafemme · 11-22-2011, 02:30 PM

Not too many. The number one is getting married to my former spouse a second time in a religious ceremony. Worst mistake I have ever made in my life and hurtful to so many people. The shame of that mistake kept me paralyzed before finally coming out and living an authentic life as a lesbian femme.

Miss July · 11-22-2011, 03:15 PM

When I was younger, not believing in myself, settling for far less than I deserved.
Staying in a relationship that was unfulfilling, to make some one else happy.
Letting other's dictate how the out come of situtations should be.

Thankfully I am learning every day to try and live with no more regrets.

Deborah · 03-13-2012, 03:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by princessbelle

One regret that stands out in my mind is not having more children. Being married to a bio man it is really a wonder i had any at all, looking back....lol.

But, knowing what i know now, i would have left that relationship way before 17 years of it and would have been artificially inseminated at least a couple of more times.

I would have loved to have had a girl, but even if i had continued to have boys, i enjoyed being pregnant and i loved raising children. It is very hard for me to know i am too old to do this anymore and honestly it has been a very painful acceptance.

If i had to do over, i would definitely had more children, probably had a house full.

Belle, I pray one day you will have grandchildren....mine have been the joy of my life. My son is and always will be everything to me but we're young and struggling when we have our children (usually) it's so special with the grandchildren..its one of the best parts of having children.

Tuff Stuff · 08-27-2015, 06:00 PM

Yes,I had regrets,but don't worry..

Karma has taught me a thousand times greater that 'what goes around,comes around'.

Some rules aren't meant to be broken.

My debt has been Paid In Full.

Tuff Stuff · 07-30-2019, 04:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tuff Stuff

Yes,I had regrets,but don't worry..

Karma has taught me a thousand times greater that 'what goes around,comes around'.

Some rules aren't meant to be broken.

My debt has been Paid In Full.

Some days I feel like I'm still paying .*snort*

girl_dee · 03-11-2012, 04:47 PM

Relationships ~ no regrets for getting into them or leaving them when i did

i regret spending too much time on people who didn't make me a priority and putting my own well being aside, letting my own dreams pale in the shadows of trying to please others

Mr Nice Guy · 03-11-2012, 04:50 PM

Moving to NH
Moving mom in.
Enough said.

Ginger · 03-11-2012, 08:32 PM

Regret is useful. It means you have a conscience, that you are learning from your missteps.

11-22-2011, 08:01 AM	#1
CockyDude Timed Out How Do You Identify?: FTM-man Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: What is today? Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Midwest Posts: 239 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 151 Thanked 420 Times in 141 Posts Rep Power: 0	Pretty much says it all... I've always tried to replace feeling regret with learning something. Would I like to be able to change a few things along the way? Absolutely but in the end all of our experiences add up to equal the whole of who we are; regrets and all.

11-22-2011, 08:59 AM	#2
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I've made choices in my life based on how I felt, my experiences and resources at THAT time in my life - they haven't always been the best of choices, yet, my life has been an adventure with the ups and downs. I've walked my own path in life - not always so sure of the way. It's not a regret as such; more a desire that I hoped to achieve after my studies finished in London in the early 90s. I'd planned on doing a Masters degree in Textile conservation and working as a Curator of Textile restoration and preservation. "Bumps, bruises, joy and laughter. What a wonderful Tapestry it makes in life!" __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

11-22-2011, 09:59 AM	#3
Greyson Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine/Non-Binary Preferred Pronoun?: Hy (Pronounced He) Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 6,589 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,132 Thanked 8,146 Times in 2,005 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	One of my biggest regrets is dabbling in drugs and alcohol when I was a teenager. At the age of 15 I had an auto accident that changed my life. Initially I was pronounced permanently disabled from this auto accident. Joining the Marine Corp when I graduated from High School was no longer an option for me. This was my plan to begin my adult life and find a way to get my college education. I have wondered what my life would look like today if I had kept my physical ability with the belief in myself and the kindness of others. My life has turned out blessed but I know it would have been different. __________________ Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness. - Susan Gale

11-22-2011, 10:04 AM	#4
Stacy Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 475 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 396 Thanked 920 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 8450335	I only have one true regret. It is the one thing I can honestly say that I do not think it would affect where I am in my life at all right now, having not had this person in it. Yes, it is a person. __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Suess http://i431.photobucket.com/albums/q...star_green.gif

11-22-2011, 10:05 AM	#5
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,497 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	One regret that stands out in my mind is not having more children. Being married to a bio man it is really a wonder i had any at all, looking back....lol. But, knowing what i know now, i would have left that relationship way before 17 years of it and would have been artificially inseminated at least a couple of more times. I would have loved to have had a girl, but even if i had continued to have boys, i enjoyed being pregnant and i loved raising children. It is very hard for me to know i am too old to do this anymore and honestly it has been a very painful acceptance. If i had to do over, i would definitely had more children, probably had a house full. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

11-22-2011, 01:14 PM	#6
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	Regrets... I have a few... but then again... too few to mention... Growing old is a privilege denied to many...Never leave behind regrets... I regret the things I didn't do, it's true. I regret not saving, I regret not caring more about others, I regret not sticking to things that I was good at. I regret not walking when I was unhappy, I regret not holding my peace when it didn't matter. I regret not accepting help when I was offered to me, I regret not accepting that some things I just could not do on my own. I regret not finishing my degree, I regret that I didn't know what love was until it found me. I regret wasting my time on the unworthy. I regret not thinking about the future until it forced itself upon me. I regret so much and yet so little. I don't regret ending up the person that I now am. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

11-22-2011, 06:18 PM	#7
Cowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Holding My Red Circle Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Louisiana Posts: 1,811 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,051 Thanked 3,962 Times in 1,230 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Regrets.....I have a few. Whats done is done. I'm thinkin without them though, I might not be where I am today. It has been a interesting trip though, and as I always say...Its all about the road trip. __________________ Let There Be Cowgirls

11-22-2011, 06:44 PM	#8
durrrrrrrr Senior Member How Do You Identify?: TG Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: he , him Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ayup Posts: 3,603 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,299 Thanked 10,217 Times in 2,504 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	should of, would of, could of ayup, I have regrets. not spending more time with my Mother, but at the age of 13, why would I been thinking she was going to pass away. Regret, not speaking up to my Dad sooner then what I had. but , i did, finally. not letting people get close to me, my heart, when I was younger ( 20's ) some others, may have been regrets at the time, but I am where i am right now because of those choices, and everything is alright. __________________ http://img1.jurko.net/avatar_1303.gif well, butter my butt and call me a biscuit

11-22-2011, 06:47 PM	#9
Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,945 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Still to this day and everyday since that day I said the 2 powerful words to my mom as a young teen... "Fuck You".... She never said a word to me about it.. because she knew I would regret it till the day I die.... God Mom's are so smart!! I don't regret much at all ... Because it's the path I've chose to take there for it's not a regret.... I just regret those two powerful words.

11-22-2011, 07:07 PM	#10
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Yes I do have regrets and I will probably have them for awhile, however I wil no longer let them dictate to Me who I will be in future years __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

12-09-2011, 10:38 AM	#11
Delish Member How Do You Identify?: Queen of our castle Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: She put a ring on it and the date is set :) Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Missouri...in her arms :) Posts: 1,089 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,279 Thanked 834 Times in 427 Posts Rep Power: 3888561	Most recent regret....dating a liar -sigh- __________________

11-22-2011, 02:30 PM	#13
julieisafemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married to Greyson Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In the present Posts: 828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,156 Thanked 3,434 Times in 660 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Not too many. The number one is getting married to my former spouse a second time in a religious ceremony. Worst mistake I have ever made in my life and hurtful to so many people. The shame of that mistake kept me paralyzed before finally coming out and living an authentic life as a lesbian femme.

11-22-2011, 03:15 PM	#14
Miss July Member How Do You Identify?: Bitchy, Self Sufficient, High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Mizz (Bitch) Relationship Status: Not LOOKING Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunny CA Posts: 362 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 158 Thanked 515 Times in 156 Posts Rep Power: 5207568	I have a few When I was younger, not believing in myself, settling for far less than I deserved. Staying in a relationship that was unfulfilling, to make some one else happy. Letting other's dictate how the out come of situtations should be. Thankfully I am learning every day to try and live with no more regrets. __________________ Sorry...................My Give A Damn Meter Is Broken I Am A Bitch, But I Ain't Yo Bitch http://i166.photobucket.com/albums/u.../ny/ny1303.gif

08-27-2015, 06:00 PM	#16
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	I broke the rules.. Yes,I had regrets,but don't worry.. Karma has taught me a thousand times greater that 'what goes around,comes around'. Some rules aren't meant to be broken. My debt has been Paid In Full.

03-11-2012, 04:47 PM	#18
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,828 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Relationships ~ no regrets for getting into them or leaving them when i did i regret spending too much time on people who didn't make me a priority and putting my own well being aside, letting my own dreams pale in the shadows of trying to please others

03-11-2012, 04:50 PM	#19
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03-11-2012, 08:32 PM	#20
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,295 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	TED talk: Don't regret regret. Regret is useful. It means you have a conscience, that you are learning from your missteps.