Cancer Support and Caregivers Who Are Trail Blazers!

DapperButch · 11-22-2011, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by mustangjeano

I remember how nice the drugs are---my nurse was very pretty so I might have said something innapropriate---oh well--she is probably used to that.

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Originally Posted by Tommi

Jeano,
I hear ya on that one. I looked at the nurse that put in my IV before "That procedure" and said Hello Beautiful.
That was BEFORE the lights went out.

I can "one up" you both.

My GI guy is this sweet, cute nerdy guy who has a huge smile and just randomly blushes for no reason.

After the colonoscopy as my g.f. was standing next to me and he was giving me the results I said, "You are really cute. If I wasn't gay I would be into you" (or something along those lines). Poor guy got all embarrassed and blushed (I think he did, anyway...I was all drugged up!). And imagine this, I did not remember I had said that until a couple of months after it happened! My g.f. had never mentioned it.

DapperButch · 11-22-2011, 04:20 PM

Just wanted to mention that my partner's mother's surgery went well and she is now home. They say that it went well. They will get the results of the biopsy on the lymph nodes next Tuesday.

clay · 11-22-2011, 04:38 PM

Hey everyone:
I am soooo happy to have internet back again. Damn I was miserable....thanks to all of you!!!! I caught up on the thread....
TO EVERYONE: thanks so much for checking in on me....for posting to me, and for all the well wishes , prayers, and just all around loving, kind support!
CATALINAROSE: AWesome job, my friend. It is NOT bad..at all..we don't know most of it anyway! lol...Just so you know, your doctor will have results withinb 48 hrs. CALL Them and ask what they are!!!! tomorrow. They will have results!!!
DAPPER: Please give T.F. my very best wishes and I will hold her, her mom, and you all up in my prayers!
JEAN: Excellent job..on so many years out.
DEBBY: Awaiting what your surgeon says.....I hold you close to my heart!!! PINKSTER, you!!!! I love you,. my angel!!!
TOMMI: dayummm..to have a "crystal ball" PLUS it be carcked...wowser..be very careful...lmao..hugs buddy!
OOAK: Hope things are good for you..haven't seen a post from you in a bit..take care...sending you best wishes! Hugs...
TO all the other BRAVE WARRIORS: Know I send each and everyone of you huge hugs......keep up the strong fight, stay focused, and stay positive! YOU are not alone!!!!
COUNTY: YOU are a truly amazing friend...and I am very blessed!!!!! It is so comforting knowing you will be there for Heidi, to be with me during surgery, and all that you are doing to help me, support me through this, and your friendship!!! I want you to know you have my utmost deepest thanks..always...May God bless you....you are truly an angel!
PURPLE SPARKLY ONE: YOU are such a guiding force, you send me the very best of energies, calmness, and serenity when I need it most! YOU are an incredible friend!!! Stay close to me...I validate you....along with Michael & Raphael! Thanks...and know I appreciate you..so very much...
Thanks, County & Debby...for posting for me..I appreciate you both..hugs...

TO ALL of you...please continue to hold me up in your loving thoughts, prayers, and well wishes! I heart you all...Clay

clay · 11-23-2011, 12:35 AM

My surgery is scheduled for December 9th! I am to be an early AM case...sooo....I will have an Exploratory Laparoscopy with Colectomy (colon resection) via open abdomen AND a Total Hystero via same incision! The Gastro Oncologist is going in first, then when he is done, the Gynie Oncologist will do her hystero magic! I will be in the hospital for 7 to 10 days. Rather than try to update each personally, UPDATES will be posted here!!! I am so going to kick this bugger's royal ass...mess with me..I will show it who is Alpha here!!! <smiles>
PS I have the lovely good luck to have to do a second colonoscopy the 29th. This time I get day one a bottle of mag. citrate, day two a GALLON of GoLytely! I will be having a "GoLytely" martini party..and will gladly share a glass with any of you....smiles...have an awesome day...Clay

mustangjeano · 11-23-2011, 12:59 AM

Dapper, thanks for the update on your partner's Mom. Glad the surgery went well and I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.
Clay, You are a warrior man. You are inspiring. I will be with you in spirit and prayer.
Jeano

Tommi · 11-23-2011, 07:22 AM

Cancer is a pesky stop along our long road of life. In the wake of all the tests, and surgery and scary nights and days, just know there are millions of cancer survivors here on Planet Earth. "The Big C" is no longer the death sentence it once was for everyone that had a diagnosis.We stand tall (well ~ some of us don't stand tall as others but we think we do* ) We have been there, done that, and moved on.

For those of us, and those that have loved ones going through a scary time , and for those caring about and for the folks that need your love and encouragement I send Big Baskets of Love and candy and flowers.

claybaby, you are gonna be squeaky clean. So, you must have a while to get ready for the recovery at home process. Get a maid. Get a cook. Get comfy jammies that will be easy on and off.

They told me I couldn't lift anything heavier than a loaf of bread for the first several weeks and no sex****. and I was dating this beautiful, Hollywoood make-up artist, who came to take care of me post-op~~and ...well, I just knew that thing about no sex did not apply in my case* I did NOT lift any bread

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

I can "one up" you both.

My GI guy is this sweet, cute nerdy guy who has a huge smile and just randomly blushes for no reason.

After the colonoscopy as my g.f. was standing next to me and he was giving me the results I said, "You are really cute. If I wasn't gay I would be into you" (or something along those lines). Poor guy got all embarrassed and blushed (I think he did, anyway...I was all drugged up!). And imagine this, I did not remember I had said that until a couple of months after it happened! My g.f. had never mentioned it.

And he was proud ...He probably is still sharing that story.

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Just wanted to mention that my partner's mother's surgery went well and she is now home. They say that it went well. They will get the results of the biopsy on the lymph nodes next Tuesday.

Dapper, While she is waiting I hope she can visualize her lil nodes being all nice and clean and clear of any cancer.

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Originally Posted by claybaby

My surgery is scheduled for December 9th! I am to be an early AM case...sooo....I will have an Exploratory Laparoscopy with Colectomy (colon resection) via open abdomen AND a Total Hystero via same incision! The Gastro Oncologist is going in first, then when he is done, the Gynie Oncologist will do her hystero magic! I will be in the hospital for 7 to 10 days. Rather than try to update each personally, UPDATES will be posted here!!! I am so going to kick this bugger's royal ass...mess with me..I will show it who is Alpha here!!! <smiles>
PS I have the lovely good luck to have to do a second colonoscopy the 29th. This time I get day one a bottle of mag. citrate, day two a GALLON of GoLytely! I will be having a "GoLytely" martini party..and will gladly share a glass with any of you....smiles...have an awesome day...Clay

They are really going to take a good peak and some video's maybe for next season reruns.

Well clay, you will have the cleanest bowel that side of the Rio Grande and a grande time with all that drinkin'. Glad to see that you have two specialists doing the surgery.

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Originally Posted by mustangjeano

Dapper, thanks for the update on your partner's Mom. Glad the surgery went well and I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.
Clay, You are a warrior man. You are inspiring. I will be with you in spirit and prayer.
Jeano

Hey Jeano , we'll keep the fireplace stoked and the warm comfy wishes flowing. Glad to see you here.

Tommi

clay · 11-23-2011, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Tommi

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claybaby, you are gonna be squeaky clean. So, you must have a while to get ready for the recovery at home process. Get a maid. Get a cook. Get comfy jammies that will be easy on and off.

They told me I couldn't lift anything heavier than a loaf of bread for the first several weeks and no sex****. and I was dating this beautiful, Hollywoood make-up artist, who came to take care of me post-op~~and ...well, I just knew that thing about no sex did not apply in my case* I did NOT lift any bread

And he was proud ...He probably is still sharing that story.

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They are really going to take a good peak and some video's maybe for next season reruns.

Well clay, you will have the cleanest bowel that side of the Rio Grande and a grande time with all that drinkin'. Glad to see that you have two specialists doing the surgery.

Tommi

Tommi! Tommi! Tommi!!!! What am I to do with you, dude! LMAO.
I will most definitely NOT lift more than a loaf of bread! I have already had major abd. surg. March 2010...so I know all about the "no lifting" and " no sex" rules! Damnnnn...as far as a "maid" and a "cook"...I have even better...I have whom is my very best friend...coming to see to all of those things. So not only is she my best friend, she is beautiful, witty, and so gentle & kind....I have it the absolute best!!!! Best part of all...my dachshund, heidi will not have to go in a shelter....that was my biggest fear....her being left alone someplace...wink ....Clay
P to the S....hellls yes my colon will be squeaky clean..no one can say I am full of BS!...lol I will have a TWO DA prep this time..Mag. Citrate Sunday and the FULL gallon of GoLytlely Monday along with gallons and gallons of water plus a Dulcolax tablet!
ReRuns eh? Well all I can say is my ass will be used to everyone seeing by then..so have at it...ya brat...lmao

[COLOR="blue"]JEANO: Thanks so much for your encouragement & support!!!![ I so appreciate you...hugs...Clay/COLOR]

deb_U_taunt · 11-23-2011, 05:32 PM

oh my, you do lose your modesty through this process. lol

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Originally Posted by claybaby

Tommi! Tommi! Tommi!!!! What am I to do with you, dude! LMAO.
I will most definitely NOT lift more than a loaf of bread! I have already had major abd. surg. March 2010...so I know all about the "no lifting" and " no sex" rules! Damnnnn...as far as a "maid" and a "cook"...I have even better...I have whom is my very best friend...coming to see to all of those things. So not only is she my best friend, she is beautiful, witty, and so gentle & kind....I have it the absolute best!!!! Best part of all...my dachshund, heidi will not have to go in a shelter....that was my biggest fear....her being left alone someplace...wink ....Clay
P to the S....hellls yes my colon will be squeaky clean..no one can say I am full of BS!...lol I will have a TWO DA prep this time..Mag. Citrate Sunday and the FULL gallon of GoLytlely Monday along with gallons and gallons of water plus a Dulcolax tablet!
ReRuns eh? Well all I can say is my ass will be used to everyone seeing by then..so have at it...ya brat...lmao

[COLOR="blue"]JEANO: Thanks so much for your encouragement & support!!!![ I so appreciate you...hugs...Clay/COLOR]

DapperButch · 11-23-2011, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by claybaby

My surgery is scheduled for December 9th! I am to be an early AM case...sooo....I will have an Exploratory Laparoscopy with Colectomy (colon resection) via open abdomen AND a Total Hystero via same incision! The Gastro Oncologist is going in first, then when he is done, the Gynie Oncologist will do her hystero magic! I will be in the hospital for 7 to 10 days. Rather than try to update each personally, UPDATES will be posted here!!! I am so going to kick this bugger's royal ass...mess with me..I will show it who is Alpha here!!! <smiles>
PS I have the lovely good luck to have to do a second colonoscopy the 29th. This time I get day one a bottle of mag. citrate, day two a GALLON of GoLytely! I will be having a "GoLytely" martini party..and will gladly share a glass with any of you....smiles...have an awesome day...Clay

Hi, Clay. Just a reminder that my illness was colon cancer and I had a colon resection via the traditional, open method. I actually had to have a second resection because I an obstruction a couple of weeks later. SO, since I did it twice, I know quite a bit about the recovery if you need some info. at any point along the way.

Feel free to PM me. Hang in there. Glad to see your enthusiam at kicking this in the butt!

JustJo · 11-23-2011, 02:29 PM

Just a pre-holiday update....

Just got off the phone with my mother. She cheerfully tells me that the mass is gone, but that she forgot to pick up the written report.

She also tells me that they have taken her down to 12 hours in 24 on the TPN, in part to stimulate her appetite.

Her weight is up to 118.

Her next appointment is December 8 with the urologist (about that kidney that was acting up)...and she has chemo before that....but now I can book her flight for anything December 10 or after.

I should feel better about all of this, except that she sounds like she's lying.

I could call her doctor and ask for the truth...but I'm honestly just past it.

All of our old crap is coming back up...and I'm in for a 3 or 4 month flashback of my youth.

Someone please have bail money ready.

Tommi · 11-23-2011, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by JustJo

Just a pre-holiday update....

Just got off the phone with my mother. She cheerfully tells me that the mass is gone, but that she forgot to pick up the written report.

She also tells me that they have taken her down to 12 hours in 24 on the TPN, in part to stimulate her appetite.

Her weight is up to 118.

Her next appointment is December 8 with the urologist (about that kidney that was acting up)...and she has chemo before that....but now I can book her flight for anything December 10 or after.

I should feel better about all of this, except that she sounds like she's lying.

I could call her doctor and ask for the truth...but I'm honestly just past it.

All of our old crap is coming back up...and I'm in for a 3 or 4 month flashback of my youth.

Someone please have bail money ready.

Okay . Threeeeee deeeeeep cleansing breaths. The good and the bad, the yin and the yang, and the mother that is untrustworthy .Hmmm maybe some more deep breaths...and some chocloate, maybe?

Countyfem · 11-29-2011, 09:44 AM

Morning all! Clay is at the hospital for her second scoping, please send warm thoughts and good vibes her way!

(((((((((Clay))))))))))))))

clay · 11-23-2011, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Hi, Clay. Just a reminder that my illness was colon cancer and I had a colon resection via the traditional, open method. I actually had to have a second resection because I an obstruction a couple of weeks later. SO, since I did it twice, I know quite a bit about the recovery if you need some info. at any point along the way.

Feel free to PM me. Hang in there. Glad to see your enthusiam at kicking this in the butt!

Hey DB:
THanks buddy! I appreciate the words...and wow..twice....oh my goodness. I have a very best friend who will be with me, and I am certain she won't let me get obstructed!!! I would like to ask you some questions though..so will PM you after a while..and thanks, my friend! Yes, I WILL kick this C..right in the ass....Debby said it best...she said she "made cancer her bitch"....smiles...go Debby!!!

deb_U_taunt · 11-23-2011, 05:41 PM

I am done with radiation. No double mastectomy (insurance won't pay for it, unless I have the genetics test and they won't pay for the $3500 test, UGH). So, I get things evened up about the end of January. I will have smaller, perky breasts!! yeehaw!!! I have hair coming in, a bit darker and hoping for the curls I keep hearing about.

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Originally Posted by claybaby

Tommi! Tommi! Tommi!!!! What am I to do with you, dude! LMAO.
I will most definitely NOT lift more than a loaf of bread! I have already had major abd. surg. March 2010...so I know all about the "no lifting" and " no sex" rules! Damnnnn...as far as a "maid" and a "cook"...I have even better...I have whom is my very best friend...coming to see to all of those things. So not only is she my best friend, she is beautiful, witty, and so gentle & kind....I have it the absolute best!!!! Best part of all...my dachshund, heidi will not have to go in a shelter....that was my biggest fear....her being left alone someplace...wink ....Clay
P to the S....hellls yes my colon will be squeaky clean..no one can say I am full of BS!...lol I will have a TWO DA prep this time..Mag. Citrate Sunday and the FULL gallon of GoLytlely Monday along with gallons and gallons of water plus a Dulcolax tablet!
ReRuns eh? Well all I can say is my ass will be used to everyone seeing by then..so have at it...ya brat...lmao

[COLOR="blue"]JEANO: Thanks so much for your encouragement & support!!!![ I so appreciate you...hugs...Clay/COLOR]

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Originally Posted by claybaby

Hey DB:
THanks buddy! I appreciate the words...and wow..twice....oh my goodness. I have a very best friend who will be with me, and I am certain she won't let me get obstructed!!! I would like to ask you some questions though..so will PM you after a while..and thanks, my friend! Yes, I WILL kick this C..right in the ass....Debby said it best...she said she "made cancer her bitch"....smiles...go Debby!!!

DapperButch · 11-23-2011, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by claybaby

Hey DB:
THanks buddy! I appreciate the words...and wow..twice....oh my goodness. I have a very best friend who will be with me, and I am certain she won't let me get obstructed!!! I would like to ask you some questions though..so will PM you after a while..and thanks, my friend! Yes, I WILL kick this C..right in the ass....Debby said it best...she said she "made cancer her bitch"....smiles...go Debby!!!

Unfortunately, adhesions is not something you can control. It is just about how the body heals on the inside (the obstruction was due to an adhesion).

It is unusual, however, to happen so soon after surgery. Usually if that happens to a person it happens a year later.

It is just a luck of the draw kind of thing.

11-22-2011, 04:20 PM	#2
DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,813 Times in 5,772 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Update Just wanted to mention that my partner's mother's surgery went well and she is now home. They say that it went well. They will get the results of the biopsy on the lymph nodes next Tuesday. __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?

11-22-2011, 04:38 PM	#3
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,668 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	I'm Bacckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk...smiles Hey everyone: I am soooo happy to have internet back again. Damn I was miserable....thanks to all of you!!!! I caught up on the thread.... TO EVERYONE: thanks so much for checking in on me....for posting to me, and for all the well wishes , prayers, and just all around loving, kind support! CATALINAROSE: AWesome job, my friend. It is NOT bad..at all..we don't know most of it anyway! lol...Just so you know, your doctor will have results withinb 48 hrs. CALL Them and ask what they are!!!! tomorrow. They will have results!!! DAPPER: Please give T.F. my very best wishes and I will hold her, her mom, and you all up in my prayers! JEAN: Excellent job..on so many years out. DEBBY: Awaiting what your surgeon says.....I hold you close to my heart!!! PINKSTER, you!!!! I love you,. my angel!!! TOMMI: dayummm..to have a "crystal ball" PLUS it be carcked...wowser..be very careful...lmao..hugs buddy! OOAK: Hope things are good for you..haven't seen a post from you in a bit..take care...sending you best wishes! Hugs... TO all the other BRAVE WARRIORS: Know I send each and everyone of you huge hugs......keep up the strong fight, stay focused, and stay positive! YOU are not alone!!!! COUNTY: YOU are a truly amazing friend...and I am very blessed!!!!! It is so comforting knowing you will be there for Heidi, to be with me during surgery, and all that you are doing to help me, support me through this, and your friendship!!! I want you to know you have my utmost deepest thanks..always...May God bless you....you are truly an angel! PURPLE SPARKLY ONE: YOU are such a guiding force, you send me the very best of energies, calmness, and serenity when I need it most! YOU are an incredible friend!!! Stay close to me...I validate you....along with Michael & Raphael! Thanks...and know I appreciate you..so very much... Thanks, County & Debby...for posting for me..I appreciate you both..hugs... TO ALL of you...please continue to hold me up in your loving thoughts, prayers, and well wishes! I heart you all...Clay __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

11-23-2011, 12:35 AM	#4
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,668 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	My surgery is scheduled for December 9th! I am to be an early AM case...sooo....I will have an Exploratory Laparoscopy with Colectomy (colon resection) via open abdomen AND a Total Hystero via same incision! The Gastro Oncologist is going in first, then when he is done, the Gynie Oncologist will do her hystero magic! I will be in the hospital for 7 to 10 days. Rather than try to update each personally, UPDATES will be posted here!!! I am so going to kick this bugger's royal ass...mess with me..I will show it who is Alpha here!!! <smiles> PS I have the lovely good luck to have to do a second colonoscopy the 29th. This time I get day one a bottle of mag. citrate, day two a GALLON of GoLytely! I will be having a "GoLytely" martini party..and will gladly share a glass with any of you....smiles...have an awesome day...Clay __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

11-23-2011, 12:59 AM	#5
mustangjeano Member How Do You Identify?: old school stonebutch, Queer TG butch, ranch hand Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: single, not looking Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ca. Posts: 1,088 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,459 Thanked 1,030 Times in 361 Posts Rep Power: 15314316	Dapper, thanks for the update on your partner's Mom. Glad the surgery went well and I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers. Clay, You are a warrior man. You are inspiring. I will be with you in spirit and prayer. Jeano __________________ "Your outlook affects your outcome". John Paul Warren

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JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,406 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Just a pre-holiday update.... Just got off the phone with my mother. She cheerfully tells me that the mass is gone, but that she forgot to pick up the written report. She also tells me that they have taken her down to 12 hours in 24 on the TPN, in part to stimulate her appetite. Her weight is up to 118. Her next appointment is December 8 with the urologist (about that kidney that was acting up)...and she has chemo before that....but now I can book her flight for anything December 10 or after. I should feel better about all of this, except that she sounds like she's lying. I could call her doctor and ask for the truth...but I'm honestly just past it. All of our old crap is coming back up...and I'm in for a 3 or 4 month flashback of my youth. Someone please have bail money ready. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

11-29-2011, 09:44 AM	#12
Countyfem Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NC Posts: 244 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 469 Thanked 932 Times in 211 Posts Rep Power: 9455032	Clay update Morning all! Clay is at the hospital for her second scoping, please send warm thoughts and good vibes her way! (((((((((Clay))))))))))))))