The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

LadyRain · 11-29-2011, 02:59 PM

Still in Hawai'i, so ready to go home, but plane is on saturday (ugh) my grandaughter (16)has run away from home and contacted me, she wants to live with us... she said, its quiet and loving at your house............my partner wont let that happen so now i am in a real problem. Mart never had kids does not have that "nana" connection with my GD. no idea what to do. any advice is sure welcome

ArkansasPiscesGrrl · 11-29-2011, 03:49 PM

Good Tuesday afternoon, Lofters! Hope everyone here is enjoying their day. I personally am playing a wee bit of hookie from my work right this minute and playing here on BFP. I know, I know, BAAAAD grrrl!

Wishin' there was someone here to be bad with....

clay · 11-29-2011, 03:53 PM

hey lofters....have a great afternoon..
APG:
U R BADDD! Call 1800badbois....lmao

ArkansasPiscesGrrl · 11-29-2011, 03:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by claybaby

hey lofters....have a great afternoon..
APG:
U R BADDD! Call 1800badbois....lmao

Clay, I happen to have that number on my speed dial! Gotta love me a bad boi! (good bois are pretty fun too!)

clay · 11-29-2011, 05:58 PM

hehehehhe...yep I just bet you do....lmao.
Have fun at any rate!! Be it with a "good" bad boi or a "bad" bad boi....smiles

ruthie14 · 11-29-2011, 09:04 PM

Hello lofters! Thanks for all the well wishes. Trying my best to beat this thing.

Tonight was the final (un)dress rehearsal for the madrigal dinners I will be singing and serving in. Feel better today but have been under the weather so I hope I am not extending myself too much. Very hard to do this after a day at work but I love to do it and it is our biannual fundraiser. Really... Who wouldn't want to see me dressed up as a wench? and sing? and serve you a 6 course pork dinner to boot? Seeeeeee don't ya wish you lived in Jersey now. lololol I'll try to remember to take a picture and put it up in Galleries. I will let you know.

Have a great week folks. Going to shower and hit the hay!
Ruthie

rustedrims · 11-30-2011, 07:03 AM

Here is my 2 cents..

Before the kids started comming in my family i was not intrested in being around anyones kidz..Kinda afraid of them because i didnt know how to interact with them or talk to them..

rustedrims · 11-30-2011, 07:06 AM

Rain not done with that..Clicked on something and it sent..Sorry i will go back and finish my comment..

s..

rustedrims · 11-30-2011, 07:54 AM

Ok like i said i was scared of other peoples kids..Then my kids started to come and i learned how to talk to them and play with them and as adults now i am very-very close to all 5 of them..I bought my first cell phone to keep in touch with them.I learned how to text them and yes i did get help from one of the kidz..I love those kids and would take a bullet for anyone of them at a seconds notice..

Anyway here is my idea..Just my thoughts..
I guess first you gotta figure out if it is the Mom Lady making it hard on the Kid or is the Kid making it hard on the Mom Lady..If the kid is whining she only has 2 more years until she is an adult..So you might mention to her to suck it up you are almost on your own..I had this conversation with 2 of my kids..Now 4 out of the 5 are on their own and they lived through it..Ok now if the Mom Lady is making it hard on the Kid then i think you better find out why the kid wants to go..Quiet at your house..Hummmm..Is there alot of arguing??Step Dad-Sister-Brother..Dont know the living situation.Gotta find out the reason..If you do agree to let her stay give it a time limit and a few rules that you stick by..Also might mention if you do let her stay with you guys and it doesnt work out and you gotta fly her back early then as soon as she gets a job she needs to pay you back for that plane ticket..Ask your partner if there was anyone she/he looked up to as a kid growing up..Maybe a Kid in the house would be a good thing..Your partner might get a good friend and someone to hang out with when you arent around..I say try it and let the Kid know if the rules arent followed it will stop as quick as it started..
I dont mean to offend anyone if i did "mis-speak"..I am sorry if i did..This is just my thought..Actually i might be put in the same situation if i pursue the thought you are having..My 16 year old niece also..I dont want to finish raising her but will not turn her away..
Hope that helps a little..Good luck..

s..

rustedrims · 11-30-2011, 08:05 AM

Where in Jersey..????..
Gettin out my map and i think i can make it there by desert..

morningstar55 · 12-01-2011, 09:00 AM

Mawning lofters, can't bleve am 136
Miles from droping off load, after drivng 1780 miles and friggin truck breaks down , just outside pf Birmingham, someone hav a harmonica

clay · 12-01-2011, 09:08 AM

[COLOR="Blue"]good morning fellow lofters......a brisk 45 here this am...stumbled out with Heidi, wearing my shorts and tee....can you say...brrrrrrr...where oh where is my warm, sunny 78 degree days...which one of you took them..lol.......I want them back....[ Have an awesome day everyone!! hugs..Clay/COLOR]

morningstar55 · 12-05-2011, 07:24 AM

morning to Loft dwellers and peekers...
have a awsome monday!!

ruthie14 · 12-05-2011, 06:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rustedrims

Where in Jersey..????..
Gettin out my map and i think i can make it there by desert..

lolol just saw this! Yes a pork dinner... actually the entire pig is brought out, head first, then the body on the next "platter". (actually a hug wooden thing carried on the shoulders of 6 men). Anyway... would have loved to have servered you m'lord! *curtsey*. Gonna try to put up a pic in galleries . Cross your fingers!

Had a terrible sucky day at work. Wish I could quit that crappy place. The had the audacity to write me up today for something that is A. Thier responsiblity and B. I have been asking for for a year now. Really? nuts, nuts, nuts.

Hope everyone is having a better week!

Ruthie

ruthie14 · 12-05-2011, 06:41 PM

The picture is there with the caption... Wench!....but of course!

rustedrims · 12-06-2011, 08:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ruthie14

lolol just saw this! Yes a pork dinner... actually the entire pig is brought out, head first, then the body on the next "platter". (actually a hug wooden thing carried on the shoulders of 6 men). Anyway... would have loved to have servered you m'lord! *curtsey*. Gonna try to put up a pic in galleries . Cross your fingers!

Had a terrible sucky day at work. Wish I could quit that crappy place. The had the audacity to write me up today for something that is A. Thier responsiblity and B. I have been asking for for a year now. Really? nuts, nuts, nuts.

Hope everyone is having a better week!

Ruthie

GOOD GOD RUTHIE !!!!

If i sit across the table eating dinner looking into someones eyes i really dont want it to be my DINNER.!!!.What part of the "Head" needs to be served for dinner..??..
You are scaring me..Making a note if i eat at Ruthies house keep an open mind..
What was for Dessert anyway..????..A little courious now..

Getting wrote up at work only means someone is paying attention to you not that you are bad..Kinda surprised i havent got wrote up myself..

11-29-2011, 02:59 PM	#1
LadyRain Member How Do You Identify?: StoneFemme Preferred Pronoun?: Hey You.!! Relationship Status: very stuck... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: new england Posts: 180 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 45 Thanked 312 Times in 128 Posts Rep Power: 3554044	Still in Hawai'i, so ready to go home, but plane is on saturday (ugh) my grandaughter (16)has run away from home and contacted me, she wants to live with us... she said, its quiet and loving at your house............my partner wont let that happen so now i am in a real problem. Mart never had kids does not have that "nana" connection with my GD. no idea what to do. any advice is sure welcome __________________ TBI Survivor

11-29-2011, 03:53 PM	#3
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,661 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	hey lofters....have a great afternoon.. APG: U R BADDD! Call 1800badbois....lmao __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

11-29-2011, 05:58 PM	#5
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,661 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	hehehehhe...yep I just bet you do....lmao. Have fun at any rate!! Be it with a "good" bad boi or a "bad" bad boi....smiles __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

11-30-2011, 07:03 AM	#7
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,125 Thanked 2,554 Times in 368 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Rain.. Here is my 2 cents.. Before the kids started comming in my family i was not intrested in being around anyones kidz..Kinda afraid of them because i didnt know how to interact with them or talk to them..

11-30-2011, 07:06 AM	#8
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,125 Thanked 2,554 Times in 368 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	oooops Rain not done with that..Clicked on something and it sent..Sorry i will go back and finish my comment.. s..

11-29-2011, 03:49 PM	#2
ArkansasPiscesGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: feeling pretty darned blissful right now! Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: central AR Posts: 856 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,594 Thanked 3,079 Times in 741 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Good Tuesday afternoon, Lofters! Hope everyone here is enjoying their day. I personally am playing a wee bit of hookie from my work right this minute and playing here on BFP. I know, I know, BAAAAD grrrl! Wishin' there was someone here to be bad with....

11-29-2011, 09:04 PM	#6
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	Hello lofters! Thanks for all the well wishes. Trying my best to beat this thing. Tonight was the final (un)dress rehearsal for the madrigal dinners I will be singing and serving in. Feel better today but have been under the weather so I hope I am not extending myself too much. Very hard to do this after a day at work but I love to do it and it is our biannual fundraiser. Really... Who wouldn't want to see me dressed up as a wench? and sing? and serve you a 6 course pork dinner to boot? Seeeeeee don't ya wish you lived in Jersey now. lololol I'll try to remember to take a picture and put it up in Galleries. I will let you know. Have a great week folks. Going to shower and hit the hay! Ruthie

11-30-2011, 07:54 AM	#9
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,125 Thanked 2,554 Times in 368 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Try it again Rain.. Ok like i said i was scared of other peoples kids..Then my kids started to come and i learned how to talk to them and play with them and as adults now i am very-very close to all 5 of them..I bought my first cell phone to keep in touch with them.I learned how to text them and yes i did get help from one of the kidz..I love those kids and would take a bullet for anyone of them at a seconds notice.. Anyway here is my idea..Just my thoughts.. I guess first you gotta figure out if it is the Mom Lady making it hard on the Kid or is the Kid making it hard on the Mom Lady..If the kid is whining she only has 2 more years until she is an adult..So you might mention to her to suck it up you are almost on your own..I had this conversation with 2 of my kids..Now 4 out of the 5 are on their own and they lived through it..Ok now if the Mom Lady is making it hard on the Kid then i think you better find out why the kid wants to go..Quiet at your house..Hummmm..Is there alot of arguing??Step Dad-Sister-Brother..Dont know the living situation.Gotta find out the reason..If you do agree to let her stay give it a time limit and a few rules that you stick by..Also might mention if you do let her stay with you guys and it doesnt work out and you gotta fly her back early then as soon as she gets a job she needs to pay you back for that plane ticket..Ask your partner if there was anyone she/he looked up to as a kid growing up..Maybe a Kid in the house would be a good thing..Your partner might get a good friend and someone to hang out with when you arent around..I say try it and let the Kid know if the rules arent followed it will stop as quick as it started.. I dont mean to offend anyone if i did "mis-speak"..I am sorry if i did..This is just my thought..Actually i might be put in the same situation if i pursue the thought you are having..My 16 year old niece also..I dont want to finish raising her but will not turn her away.. Hope that helps a little..Good luck.. s..

11-30-2011, 08:05 AM	#10
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,125 Thanked 2,554 Times in 368 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Pork Dinner..???????.. Where in Jersey..????.. Gettin out my map and i think i can make it there by desert..

12-01-2011, 09:00 AM	#11
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Mawning lofters, can't bleve am 136 Miles from droping off load, after drivng 1780 miles and friggin truck breaks down , just outside pf Birmingham, someone hav a harmonica __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

12-01-2011, 09:08 AM	#12
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,661 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	[COLOR="Blue"]good morning fellow lofters......a brisk 45 here this am...stumbled out with Heidi, wearing my shorts and tee....can you say...brrrrrrr...where oh where is my warm, sunny 78 degree days...which one of you took them..lol.......I want them back....[ Have an awesome day everyone!! hugs..Clay/COLOR] __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

12-05-2011, 07:24 AM	#13
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	morning to Loft dwellers and peekers... have a awsome monday!! __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

12-05-2011, 06:41 PM	#15
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	The picture is there with the caption... Wench!....but of course!