I have a question re: "Man talk"

[Quintease]

Originally Posted by ButchEire

I get the impression that the OP's husband is already engaged in conversations with bio-men that he doesn't necessarily feel comfortable engaging in. Men will be men and from my personal perspective of knowing mostly bio-men, they don't think twice about talking about their parts. It's not necessarily sexual, it's just what men will do sometimes and they probably just expect the OP's husband to join in.

That, though I wasn't entirely sure how to word it. They do indeed like to talk about their parts, as well as expecting him to join in. He was openly trans in his last position so this is a new experience for him.

Did none of you ever worry when you found yourself in his position? I'm confused why you're confused, unless it's me not making any sense!

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by Quintease

It's something my hubby and I have been talking about a lot recently.

You all obviously learned how to talk to men on their own level, probably most of you were doing it for most of your lives. But how did you learn to talk about sex with cis-gendered men if they don't know you're trans?
I'm genuinely interested in your answers. My hubby has always worked with men, but now that he's gone stealth he's really struggling due to a lack of practical knowledge about boy's bits. He's not bi so I can't even send him out for a lesson or two

Originally Posted by Quintease

That, though I wasn't entirely sure how to word it. They do indeed like to talk about their parts, as well as expecting him to join in. He was openly trans in his last position so this is a new experience for him.

Did none of you ever worry when you found yourself in his position? I'm confused why you're confused, unless it's me not making any sense!

It was the bolded part that confused me. You said talking about sex. You didn't say talking about genitals.

[ButchEire]

I haven't ever been in that position. My bio-male friends have always just treated me as one of the guys without reservation. I think if nothing else, this is a testament to the bio-men's level of comfort with your husband. They apparently don't know, or if they do, they don't care and treat him simply as one of the guys. I think listening to conversations that include bio-men may help him get acquainted with the way they communicate.

Originally Posted by Quintease

That, though I wasn't entirely sure how to word it. They do indeed like to talk about their parts, as well as expecting him to join in. He was openly trans in his last position so this is a new experience for him.

Did none of you ever worry when you found yourself in his position? I'm confused why you're confused, unless it's me not making any sense!